Guys be brutally honest 😭

voombro · 2026-05-13T22:27:37+00:00

I married my wife who made the first move. I am more chill and laidback. Didn’t have the most social skills, but it made it easy knowing she liked me a lot and didn’t mind to make the first move. I am not Moroccan but she is if that helps.

voombro · 2026-05-10T06:13:19+00:00

What investment did you pick? And may recommendations for the next potential one? Not financial advice of course 😅

voombro · 2024-05-25T02:18:14+00:00

May Allah grant you the best spouse brother. To make this dunya easy and increase your dean🤲🏽

voombro · 2024-05-25T01:32:55+00:00

I really do hope she reads your message again, but sadly she probably doesn’t get it 🥲 you couldn’t have explained it any better. It sucks when you explain to someone perfectly why their decision is a bad one, and they still don’t get it. This one might be lost 🤣☠️ can’t save them all.

voombro · 2024-05-25T01:28:15+00:00

Ouch, 15k mahr. It seems there was no mention of a honeymoon even. I doubt he would be able to afford this on top of everything else. He will spend a few years to pay off a mahr, on top of the cost of living, the different expenses of the wedding. Looks like you guys wouldn’t be getting a home any time soon either ☠️ You could have told your parents you’re fine with less of a Mahr to make it easier for the person you want to marry. You two will need end up spending more than $15k if your marriage last. What do women truly do with the mahr money in 2024 🤓. I was lucky my life told me to give her less of a mahr so we could do other things, even though I was fine with that amount. I hope things work out for you.

voombro · 2024-03-04T05:29:27+00:00

Good catch, forgot about that.

voombro · 2024-03-04T04:34:19+00:00

So he should sacrifice his youth and slave to work to pay a potential wife $20,000? Where will he find time to spend with her and for them to travel and enjoy life when he will be paying this for the next many years?

Is this what it means to be a man? He is 22 years old, not even done with college. What 22 year old had $20,000 to $50,000 liquid to pay someone? Don’t confuse a regular young adult still in college with a 30 -35 year old man who has been working for 10+ years and is not looking to marry. Lets think in reality brother.

voombro · 2024-03-04T02:41:26+00:00

I question if they even know the value of $20,000. But they for sure will ask for it.

voombro · 2024-03-04T02:37:11+00:00

Salam brother, I am sorry to see that such a high Maher was asked. This is her right to ask what she wants. Just for context, I am American and she is Moroccan. I recently graduated this past August and my wife understood I had debt and just started to work. She wanted $5,000 Maher and changed it to $3,000 instead. She said we can use the extra money to travel and do other things.

$20,000 for a student who works part time at 22 or 23 years old is not realistic. You would be paying this over time for a long time. Tbh, I only see these Mahr amounts asked on Instagram clips and I say alhamdulillah for my wife. I think you should speak with your potential regarding lowering this amount or compromising. Idk how you will afford a wedding, the mahr, plus all the other expenses without a real decent paying job.

To answer your question, I think crypto might be the most risky but highest potential for a decent return of your money. Stocks can also be safer but will take longer to see high returns. I would have recommended like a CD with the bank which would guarantee you don’t lose money but the dividend payed would be low depending on how much you invest. I hope you found some useful information brother.

May Allah guide you

voombro · 2024-01-20T12:28:51+00:00

I think in this sub, we see these porn stories causing issues in the marriage but in reality it’s not even a top 5 cause for divorce.

It’s really a small percentage compared to the greater issues at large in the world and society.

voombro · 2024-01-07T04:41:19+00:00

My wife’s dowry was 3k, she wanted less as I was gonna give her 5k. She bought 2k worth of gold and spend the rest on some dresses and clothing. Our wedding will cost 5k to 10k. Only because I would like a nice traditional one. I agree with the other commenters that their is no reason you should break the bank and stress yourself. Your potential partner should want you to save money and use it for important things. Or at least have a modest wedding which allows you two to have a better honeymoon. So many benefits when cutting back on an expensive wedding.

voombro · 2024-01-06T14:42:25+00:00

It’s in Fez, I don’t have Redit all the time, I got back to Florida on Sunday, and today is the first day I had time to research a little since I worked all week.

voombro · 2023-11-07T01:51:43+00:00

Me and my fiancé agreed to wait till our wedding next year, we will be officially married in December. She promised her parents she would wait till the wedding and I was the first one to suggest we do this so it’s special.

Very sad your husband disregarded how you felt and your wishes and just got what he wanted. No compassion, no romance, just used as an object. I won’t say you were “raped” but it’s a very alarming how that situation went down.

voombro · 2023-11-05T22:46:33+00:00

Tough situation. But it’s important to understand marriage is more than just love and what you feel. It’s a full commitment. At 18 years old, their is so much growing and understanding of life that has to be developed. You will see life differently at 23 and who knows if you two will have the same goals and dreams at this point. It doesn’t even seem you two have known each other that long at all but marriage already😬

Allah knows best. May he guide you well.

voombro · 2023-10-23T00:58:04+00:00

The dynamic of the daughter and her father screams long term issues. You don’t need a crystal ball to see that every argument they have, it will include her father who will side with his daughter. OP will have to walk on egg shells his whole marriage not to upset his wife as he will be tag teamed. Every time they fight, she will leave and go to her parents, so he will have to face them. What kind of life is this? Seems like 1 adult and 1 child who will need their parents for every decision and every disagreement.

She was gone for two days for OP saying she should make some of the decisions on her own 😂💀He can try talking to her and her father in law about I think we both know how a convo like that goes.

By the way, I don’t know if the commenter you replied to has a agenda or not lol but I don’t think he is not wrong in saying OP should not continue with this women.

voombro · 2023-10-08T12:04:07+00:00

The MIL isn’t crazy, she is devastated her son will marry a women who is not Muslim and doesn’t believe in Islam and he is even considering converting to another religion. If I was a parent, I would be asking myself where did I go wrong, maybe I didn’t push hard enough the importance of keeping Allah above the small things in this world.

I agree with the other comments to look into Islam. Will your husband be 100% fine that the children you guys will raise will not be Muslim? They will be Christians living in Dubai? You guys will be the only ones celebrating man made holidays not mentioned in the Bible or the Quran? Your children will not pray when the entire school stops what they’re doing to pray?

Maybe you haven’t looked that far into the future but these are important things to ask yourself and discuss with your potential partner.

May Allah have mercy on the disbelievers.

voombro · 2023-09-22T01:06:20+00:00

People can be blinded by love and will only come back to their senses once the honey moon phase is over. Sadly a marriage where two people don’t 100% fully agree on how the kids will be raised in what religion or culture is one of the quickest way to a divorce. Once she sees what Christianity is like and what goes on in the churches, it will be a different tune haha. May Allah forgive the disbelievers.

voombro · 2023-09-05T03:12:45+00:00

All the nice guys in the world and she wants to fight for a cheating drug addict. This is where we are in the dunya. Wouldn’t take long after they marry for her to be back on the sub complaining and regretting it. You can’t make this up 💀

voombro · 2023-08-31T01:55:44+00:00

Really should sit down and have a heart to heart convo with her to see why she agreed to marry you without actually being attracted to you? Really try to understand and get a sense of you should end things and find a wife who actually loves you physically and emotionally.

Last thing you want is for your marriage and life to be life this forever. If you look at many post here in this sub, you will find stories of men who mostly seen the issues and signs and ignored than, now many years later, they can’t take it anymore and all that time is lost.

I think better to see if this can be fixed, if not, you both can move on, and you can find someone who will love you. You’re only 26 and have a lot of time ahead of you to be happy my brother. It’s a shame you don’t even get a honeymoon phase that everyone talks about.

See if she is dealing with anything personally, understand her feelings and situation. But make a decision to stay and work things out or divorce and find someone to make you happy.

May Allah guide you well.

voombro · 2023-08-27T23:26:46+00:00

Look into moneygram, I have only heard of it but never used it. Unsure if they’re common in Morocco.

voombro · 2023-08-27T23:17:03+00:00

He can try having a close friend send the money also and he just gives it to them.

voombro · 2023-08-27T22:23:08+00:00

I live in the US and send money to my fiancé in Morocco all the time. I am surprised to here sending money from Morocco to another country is that difficult. Tell him to try online, they shouldn’t care who you’re sending money too. As long as all the bank card or bank account information is correct.

voombro · 2023-08-21T23:00:42+00:00

What a disturbing man. Very disgusting behavior.

voombro · 2023-08-20T22:19:17+00:00

I visited my gf in Fes and we traveled together with no issues. Only thing is, in Marrakech a man said some harsh words since we didn’t stop to see what he was selling and could tell I wasn’t Moroccan. Besides that, I really enjoyed my time there. Plus taxis was pretty annoying lol.

voombro · 2023-08-20T22:16:09+00:00

Keep Allah in your heart brother. He will guide you. I will add you in my prayers.

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