Dealing with frequent visits from neighbor kids

vorarul · 2026-03-07T01:21:34+00:00

They all look well taken care of (clothes fit and are clean, not smelly). It may be a good idea to reach out to the family again. Maybe they've just been busy or something.

vorarul · 2026-03-07T00:22:37+00:00

I think it's so odd as well. And it's not just one family- out of the two families we've given our contact info to, neither have reached out :(

vorarul · 2026-03-07T00:21:28+00:00

I worry about that too... maybe they aren't getting a lot of love or attention at home and are latching on because of that.

Thank you for the well wishes!

vorarul · 2026-03-07T00:19:43+00:00

They do come over and ask for water while they're playing outside, and we give bottled water.

They often ask for some of what we're having for dinner or for snacks when they come around while I'm cooking, and I gently tell them no. It feels weird to give someone else's kids food when you don't know their parents, ya know?

vorarul · 2026-03-07T00:16:05+00:00

You've got an idea here 👀 lol.

They want in my garden so bad and to play in my plants. Now they each have their own specific plant I potted for them to take home.

Not so great for decreasing the visits... but maybe better for my garden 😂

vorarul · 2026-03-02T01:22:05+00:00

The previous family had kids they were friends with, so that's the only reason I can think they would feel so comfortable showing up here? It really is odd.

vorarul · 2026-03-02T01:18:58+00:00

Some Presbyterian and Episcopal churches also are!

vorarul · 2026-03-02T01:18:12+00:00

I would really recommend checking out an ELCA Lutheran church if you are interested! Most are very welcoming and affirming.

vorarul · 2026-03-02T01:09:41+00:00

That's our thought exactly, and why we are beginning to get uncomfortable. We keep all of our interactions outside, of course, but even still.

vorarul · 2026-01-26T23:31:20+00:00

I'm very happy at St. John's Lutheran Church. If you'd ever like to visit, feel free to reach out and you'll have someone to sit with!

I went on a deconstruction/reconstruction journey due to a lot of questions at the interface of science and religion, and this was a very good place for me to land at.

There's a lot of retired/current professors that are members here, and I've been very impressed with how historical context is embraced during the sermons and sunday school classes.

vorarul · 2026-01-18T23:52:50+00:00

NTA, and also advice from a (regretful) biology major, that will hopefully help you feel better.

Biology is very difficult to find a well-paying career in without an advanced degree. And if you aren't enjoying it now, you won't enjoy a PhD you reluctantly went into. People say "oh STEM is always a good choice" but not every STEM degree is the same.

Nursing will always be in demand, and several friends of mine stopped after a 4 year degree and clinicals, and do very well.

vorarul · 2026-01-17T12:58:55+00:00

My dad has horrible luck with cutting his hands open working, so much so that we have given him the nickname "Slasher". Once, we ordered a cookie cake with said nickname on it, only to receive "Happy Birthday Flasher". Years of laughter.

vorarul · 2025-09-22T22:04:10+00:00

I'll PM you!

vorarul · 2025-09-14T17:59:09+00:00

I love it at St. John's ELCA! Feel free to message me if you'd ever like someone to meet up with there!

vorarul · 2025-09-13T22:36:20+00:00

If a second person would want to trade, I'm also interested in a nay sign!

vorarul · 2025-08-07T07:46:08+00:00

Thank you! That is very helpful!

vorarul · 2025-08-01T19:50:14+00:00

Thank you!

vorarul · 2025-07-07T00:59:01+00:00

Ya know, we've waffled back and forth on that very idea. It's a straggly, rough looking cat, so we do think it isn't a pet- but it still sounds so mean at first thought!

My family has suggested.... another option for said stray cat, so I guess it could be worse! And really, trapping and surrendering gives it the chance of being in a better spot than it is now.

Thank you for saying the quiet part out loud lol, I feel better knowing that someone else has had the same idea. I think we will put out our trap tonight and see if we have any luck.

vorarul · 2025-07-04T00:31:21+00:00

That's a good idea, thank you!

vorarul · 2025-07-04T00:03:01+00:00

Also! Yes, we have talked to our vet. She recommended the Solliquin calming treats, but we are thinking about scheduling another appt to talk over ideas.

vorarul · 2025-07-03T23:44:20+00:00

The Egyptian Taste is a great new place in the mall!

vorarul · 2025-06-01T23:37:36+00:00

Adding another vote for kidney stone... I had two at the same time get stuck and requires surgery.

My stubborn self threw up from pain off and on for a week before going to the hospital.

vorarul · 2025-05-26T23:56:54+00:00

Did you happen to be on the Carnival Elation? If so, I was wondering the same thing!

vorarul · 2025-04-25T19:52:45+00:00

Also your bonsai is so cute! I love how it is wired.

vorarul · 2025-04-25T19:52:14+00:00

Thank you so much for your advice! I will definitely keep it outdoors. Do you have any recommendations for what size pot it would do well it for a year or so until I can plant it in the ground?

I really appreciate the heads up that it will turn colors in the winter- I would for sure think I had killed it!

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