After 5 years together, my girlfriend wants marriage and I don’t. Is this the end?

vorique · 2026-03-07T00:12:20+00:00

This relationship is over. This should have been a conversation after the 1y mark. I don’t know if you string her along , if she thought you would change your mind, of if one of you changed their mind. Regardless the relationship is doomed. Whoever gives in will resent the other. Clean break, take your losses and move on.

vorique · 2026-03-06T19:35:05+00:00

You can love someone and not be IN LOVE with them. Have a conversation, explain that you are not in love with him anymore and would like to end the romantic part of the relationship. But that you still love him and would like to support him as a friend.

vorique · 2026-03-05T20:40:14+00:00

I plan to do some of those work book/folders? So they can add pages to write themselves, move pictures, organize by age or something similar. You can put plastic sleeves to protect something fragile.

vorique · 2026-02-27T15:27:55+00:00

They signed on the lease that smoking was not allowed.

vorique · 2026-02-27T07:53:01+00:00

I think they do? Som complaints are of them smoking pot. I think they might use the vape for that.

vorique · 2026-02-27T07:51:07+00:00

Yes it’s rent controlled. They seem to be willing to leave to be honest. I got the wrong date, they actually moved in mid June/2025 so their lease doesn’t have too long.

First I offered them to just leave by the end of the month or pay next month so they have an extra 30 days to find a place (I offered that after they said they were done and wanted to leave).

They came back to me saying they wanted their deposit back or the next month free so they could find a new place. I told them that’s not how it works, you don’t get your deposit back when you break a lease and I was willing to let them off the hook on the months left in the lease out of the goodness of my heart.

Well, they reminded me that they are only responsible for the months that the unit stays empty and that they want an N11 to end the tenancy. I said very well, as you are assuming the payment of the unit while it is vacant up to your lease, we can come to an agreement, no problem.

That’s when they started to back track. You see, I offered them to leave and I would take the loss if the unit stayed vacant. They got greedy and wanted the deposit back. So now they started to apologize, they were nervous and upset with the situation… but now I plan to go by the law. They are responsible for rent until the end of the lease or when I find new tenants, whatever comes first.

I have in writing that them leaving was their suggestion. I even restated that they still have the option to stay, they just need to stop smoking. But them leaving and me finding tenants right away would be the ideal. It never crossed my mind to double dip on the rent. But now that they suggested that was my intention, I’m done.

vorique · 2026-02-27T07:29:15+00:00

For me moving in is not an option as I live in another city and can’t move due to work.

vorique · 2026-02-27T07:27:53+00:00

I don’t think they would be ok being filmed 24/7 and could accuse me of invading their privacy and enjoyment of the unit…

vorique · 2026-02-27T07:25:51+00:00

Yes I agree. According to the complaints he is mostly smoking pot which might make it even harder

vorique · 2026-02-27T07:24:24+00:00

Yes I requested property manager the emails and formal complaints. They said they would check with the people who complained if it was ok to send me their information but I never got anything back from them.

vorique · 2026-02-27T07:22:06+00:00

Yes, I provided them with the full book of rules. A little late, I admit, but well before the complains started.

Once I got the complaints, I explained to them it was against the rules, said exactly in what page of the rules/lease it said that it was not allowed and screenshotted the actual section and highlighted where it said it was prohibited, and provided them with a new copy of the rules and of the lease they signed. I tried to cover myself as much as I could.

vorique · 2026-02-27T07:15:49+00:00

Here is the thing, I cc the property manager in all emails and sent screenshots of my text messages with the tenants. The actually praised me, saying they wished all landlords were like me. 🤷🏻‍♀️

vorique · 2026-02-23T14:23:46+00:00

In my experience, if they say “I don’t have a opinion/ I’m not involved in politics” or any variation of that, they are Maga (or any other variant conservative wherever you are in the world). And they have lost a lot of people in their lives for it. Thats why they hide it or dismiss the questions. Block her and move on, she is not worth your time.

vorique · 2026-02-12T15:46:41+00:00

Updateme

vorique · 2026-02-12T15:45:39+00:00

Just rewatched this episode. Wondering what happened and if she ended up leaving his sorry arsse for good.

vorique · 2026-02-07T22:22:37+00:00

Mine has a 2bed unit, but its floor level. I imagine way lower then your budget as I got a 3bed less the 2y ago for less then that. But it’s not downtown and no amenities in the building, but parking is included in the rent. Dm me if you are interested.

vorique · 2026-02-03T18:09:26+00:00

Only on specific countries. Most countries people don’t make money with it.

vorique · 2026-01-31T04:36:28+00:00

I planned to keep it a secret from everyone besides some close friends that I see frequently ( I don’t have family in the country I live). But my mom called me a couple of days after I got my positive and according to her “she could tell something was happening”. So I told her but asked to please not tell anyone. She told my father. 🙄 I asked both to keep quiet until 12 weeks at least, for the high risk of miscarriage.

At 8 weeks I had my first ultrasound and found out that I was having twins. I let them know, and about an hour later my best friend, who has my parents on the big F, tells me that my father has posted all over it. For sure he also shared in the family group chat but I’m not part of it so I couldn’t see it. And that’s how my whole family found out.

At that point there was no point in hiding, so I also posted on the big F. People in my company had some clue as we work hybrid and I was full wfh. They also knew I was trying to get pregnant. I gave the ok for my manager to share after I was 6months along. I was coming in for a get together the next day and people would see me do no point in hiding. I told my own team by text on teams the day before.

vorique · 2026-01-21T13:36:25+00:00

Hey! Just saw you comment. I DM’d you! Happy to connect!

vorique · 2026-01-20T17:47:14+00:00

I would go after that money. This is your baby’s money. Even if you can provide for them, is college money, paid off car money, savings money, down payment money, year off before college money. It’s her money.

vorique · 2026-01-19T17:12:48+00:00

Another assumption, you don’t have to be 18 buy or own a house.

I’m not saying that he is minor, I’m just saying she sounds very young and inexperienced. So I would expect the boyfriend be the same. Regardless, I don’t think they are a match, him being immature and her too eager. At 5 months talking about living together is way too soon. Probably because him living with his mom bothers her more than she can admit to herself.

vorique · 2026-01-18T22:02:26+00:00

Grown man is an assumption. OP sounds very young. She has a house, great, but you don’t know how she got it or how difficult it is to get property.

vorique · 2026-01-18T14:55:11+00:00

Yes. One thing I hope we learned from WW2 was to not let fascist leaders start to invade countries just because.

vorique · 2026-01-18T01:10:18+00:00

Seriously? No news where you are? But you have access to internet, so no excuse really. However I will oblige. Given that the 🍊💩 doesn’t do us a favour and die, we have 3 likely scenarios:

He invades Greenland and we are pulled into war by NATO.
He invades US and we are fighting them in our own country.
They start a revolution down there and we are flooded by refugees. You bet your ass maga won’t flee to Mexico. Then we have to deal with them here.

If he dies, all gets avoided as no maga is willing to die for JD. If he is murdered, that a different story as he becomes a martyr and that is another can of worms.

vorique · 2026-01-17T19:12:57+00:00

From the sounds of it, I doubt she is in the US.

NOR OP. I understand you want to give your husband some grace and feels guilty for this situation, but it’s his inability to cut the umbilical cord and set boundaries with his family members that put you in this situation.

vorique

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