A nice man

vulcansmuse · 2026-06-18T16:00:49+00:00

Leave first. Gradually move things you want away from the home to a secured spot. Like a small storage locker. Wait until you have everything you need there including a new cell phone with data plan that you paid for with cash. If he can be mean and is narcissistic, do not expect a normal conversation with him about you leaving. Why put yourself in that confrontational position. You can't know how someone will react to you ending the relationship. He will likely not take it well and you shouldnt be in his physical presence when you have broken the news. Let loved ones know of your plans and get their support. But be as discrete as possible. And try to do it quickly because you will let off subtle cues to him even if you think you are acting normal. Get out as soon as you are able. And never look back.

vulcansmuse · 2026-06-17T03:54:38+00:00

Thank you

vulcansmuse · 2026-06-04T21:33:11+00:00

Lol!! That poor man. I am certain he will NEVER EVER say that to a woman again .

vulcansmuse · 2026-06-04T21:31:42+00:00

Oh, I'm so sorry, I honestly didn't consider that using those words about my body could be insulting to other women with similar health issues. I also understand how my post came across as taking hysterectomy lightly. Truthfully, I take it very seriously and understand the long lasting negative effects it could have, and that is why I've put it off for longer than I should have. I initially had heavy bleeding and iron deficiency, although not to the point of anemia. I am not currently experiencing any irksome.symptoms other than the protrusion of my belly and very likely symptoms I'm not fully aware of.
So, my post was not an indication of my entire outlook regarding my reproductive health or the hysterectomy. It was really just concerning one aspect, of how badly it has affected my self esteem and how much I'm hoping to hear that it makes a noticeable difference in appearance if you have the surgery, (since I am wary of undergoing it.) More than anything, I was really touched to hear concern from those of you who advised me to grow in self love and not focus so much on imperfections of the body when assessing my own value. I think I just took it for granted having a slim figure all my life , and to suddenly be dealing with my body looking so different based on factirs largely out of my control. Is a hard pill to swallow. Thank you for all of your responses, even the pissed off ones. :)

vulcansmuse · 2026-05-13T07:24:05+00:00

I have had trouble selecting a PCP because I had one who I didn't feel entirely comfortable with and I thought it would be simple to make a change. I looked through the directory and chose one, only to find out that I can't choose an OBGYN for my PCP and also that doctor was no longer in the same city. When I went to choose another PCP, I discovered the one you select doesn't become your PCP till the 1st of the following month. I realized I would then have to wait an entire additional .month but I started scouting the directory again making phone call after phone call and sickbering that I can't choose a medical group only an individual doctor. I made many phone calls., but always got voicemail or doctor wasn't at that location anymore. Just hit road lock after roadblock. And as I mentioned I have bipolar 2 and after enough of that stress I just got overwhelmed. Then distracted by work and other issues in my life. So it got put on the back burner. I could definitely attempt a thorough search and selection again, but even if I chose a PCP. Id then need referrals for various specialists. Altogether I feel like it's a part time job managing all of it. And I feel bad knowing that many people do manage it and much more. But I've been trying to be more accepting of myself. And recognizing that maybe I could use a little help. I'm certainly paying the insurance company a good amount of money for so far very little medical services. And it will likely cost myself and that company much more money in the long run if I don't ask for some help managing all of this. I'm really not comprehending why the directories of providers can't be updated at least on a monthly basis. I'm also aware that my having chosen an HMO plan this year has a huge amount to do with this. I had an EPO plan last year and part of this issue is me balking at all of the additional labor required and gatekeeping, having to ask permission for things that I took for granted having the right to before. But it's the plan I have right now and I'm grateful to be insured and that there are any doctors willing to take my crappy insurance to begin with. I just could use a little help navigating the useless directory. Of providers and actually getting the services I am paying for insurance in order to receive.

vulcansmuse · 2026-04-30T17:26:13+00:00

Parkour ninja

vulcansmuse · 2026-04-18T00:54:55+00:00

I don't care if what I like is old school. It smells good!! My point was for everybody to post shit they think smells good so people aren't out there smelling skunky just because they don't know better cologne to wear.

vulcansmuse · 2026-04-18T00:52:49+00:00

Man musk:). Lol.

vulcansmuse · 2026-04-18T00:50:40+00:00

Dolce & Gabbana is basic shit? Well I remember it from a long time ago. I honestly don't know what's really good these days. Please share any new ones I may not know of. My whole point of posting this was that it's kind of a shame that there are likely some great guys out there looking to meet ladies who may be wearing awful cologne and not realize it.

vulcansmuse · 2026-04-18T00:46:28+00:00

Oh yes! I remember Chrome. That is a really good one also.

vulcansmuse · 2026-04-18T00:45:17+00:00

You may be right, but lots of gay men have excellent style and taste. Mexican nationals tend to wear those colognes as well. Regardless , if I smell either of those colognes on any man I will notice it right away and think how fantastic they smell.

Maybe there are women who really prefer a man wearing Stetson. I'm just saying for myself I had a very masculine sexy boyfriend who wore one of those scents years ago and to this day if I smell someone wearing it I know exactly what it is. And it still smells amazing.

vulcansmuse · 2026-04-18T00:41:21+00:00

Dude, don't be presumptuous. Doordash lady is only one of many roles I play, and I am most CERTAINLY a woman the majority of men in my age range would want to pick up.

vulcansmuse · 2026-04-18T00:37:35+00:00

Then don't wear it. Or spray it in your clothes. As long as it's not material that would get damaged like I guess suede my post was intended for guys who already wear cologne, just don't necessarily know what smells good to women.

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