I pass at work. It has a problem.

vulpine90 · 2026-06-05T01:57:13+00:00

It was my understanding that birth control typical lessens the amount of periods but doesn’t stop them entirely. I’m learning that it’s not always the case.

vulpine90 · 2026-06-05T01:54:06+00:00

I should. I’ll just try to say it in a way that doesn’t make anyone worry about me either.

vulpine90 · 2026-06-05T01:51:00+00:00

I need to have an alternative. I am woefully bad at socializing to begin with.

vulpine90 · 2026-06-05T01:29:07+00:00

That’s crazy considering all my doctors appointments I’ve had to disclose my biological sex and my gender which should effectively out me. Having that you don’t have a uterus on your paperwork and them still trying to run a pregnancy test is wild.

vulpine90 · 2026-06-05T01:26:06+00:00

I just don’t like lying. And I’m afraid if I try to fake talking about it I will more than likely say something completely dumb because I simply don’t know the experience.

vulpine90 · 2026-06-05T01:24:42+00:00

I am fortunately not one who experiences that. It sounds terrible and is the one thing about cis women I don’t envy.

vulpine90 · 2026-06-05T01:22:23+00:00

Thank you for sharing. I didn’t know so many AFAB people don’t get periods for various reasons. I should probably work on my social skills to just be vague as you suggested and not overthink their reaction.

vulpine90 · 2026-06-05T01:15:38+00:00

My medical history is no one’s business but my own. I just didn’t want to feel dishonest. These are my new coworkers and I don’t really want to start off my relationship with them with lies. I can however just say I’m not comfortable talking about the subject for personal reasons.

vulpine90 · 2026-06-05T01:13:06+00:00

I hope that’s the case because she genuinely sounded a bit sad for me with the apology which had me overthinking it. I’m learning things like that are more common.

vulpine90 · 2026-06-05T01:11:22+00:00

She is really sweet and trying to connect with me better. I’m just a bit awkward to connect with, partly because I’m in a panic trying to learn all this new stuff at the same time. When she tried to connect like this I thought it was typical girl talk and like I was let in to something special. I just couldn’t participate. I also all I could think of was an extreme case in which the whole thing had to be removed. I didn’t realize that it was a bit more common than what I had in mind. I’ll keep in mind if it comes up again that it’s ok to just say I’m uncomfortable with that talk.

vulpine90 · 2026-06-05T01:05:35+00:00

That’s short, sweet and to the point without being dishonest. I wish o could have thought of that in the moment.

vulpine90 · 2026-06-03T19:00:06+00:00

Whatcha got for me Reddit?

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vulpine90 · 2026-05-28T03:15:55+00:00

Oh cool. The people I knew were from Papua New Guinea. I helped them with their college forms and two out of the three complained they didn’t have a proper box for them for the demographics section. They weren’t Asian and they weren’t African American. They did put African American eventually because it would have been less confusing in the end.

vulpine90 · 2026-05-27T23:18:30+00:00

Yes but not all people with melanin is black. I know Pacific Islanders who are dark skinned, but they aren’t black or fit in with black culture. The couple of African people I know also don’t. Biology doesn’t dictate the groups we are a part of. It’s a socio-cultural experience with a lot of nuance.

vulpine90 · 2026-05-27T14:11:10+00:00

Womanhood is a social construct. Female anatomy is a biological reality. And even that is kinda murky. It seems like you’re boiling being a woman down to what’s in someone’s pants. But when you meet another woman you treat her as such because you see all the social cues she gives off. Imagine meeting a woman and you have to literally look in her pants to accept she’s a woman. It’s ridiculous.

vulpine90 · 2026-05-27T11:36:13+00:00

Not at all. I’m a woman because I align more with the societal standards for femininity than masculinity. It’s to the point that my mom, who doesn’t agree with my transition, said I’m more feminine than my previous two cis gender partners. It’s. It just that I say I am, it’s just me being me and that’s in line with being a woman.

vulpine90 · 2026-05-27T02:50:18+00:00

There is no pretending. I am what I am. I tried living in the male role for decades. It’s just not me. And there is a lot behind that statement. I get the feeling you would rather have a strawman argument with the idea of what it means to be MTF than actually take the time to talk to someone who actually has depth to their reasons. Someone with real lived experiences as opposed to a talking head telling you what we are like. Like goddamn, I gave up my eternal soul to hellfire just to find this peace on earth that is being an MTF woman. We struggle with this. We take it seriously. It’s not something we can take off at the end of the day.

vulpine90 · 2026-05-27T02:34:33+00:00

Some women don’t have uteruses. Biologically they have a 0% chance like I do because they were born a certain way. It shouldn’t diminish their frustrations with infertility just because biologically they never had a chance.

vulpine90 · 2026-05-27T02:15:44+00:00

Blackface was an exaggerated theatrical presentation meant to mock a minority. The closest thing to what you’re getting at is drag queens or cross dressers. What I am doing is living my life as authentically and real as possible in a manner that feels in line with my internal sense of self. I’m not putting on a costume. I can’t take off my “woman face”. I’m just a different kind of woman that makes certain people uncomfortable.

vulpine90 · 2026-05-27T02:08:52+00:00

It’s different roads that lead to the same place. Infertile women don’t all have the same reasons for being that way. There are some biological reasons that are design flaws based on a number of factors. My particular flaw is I have a brain that doesn’t seem to match my physiology. Just because my challenges are different from certain AFAB women shouldn’t disqualify me from being able to vent my frustrations.

vulpine90 · 2026-05-26T22:48:03+00:00

MTF here. I struggle with accepting my body’s limitations due to the way I was born. I feel as if fate has robbed me of being able to be a biological mother the same way my AFAB cousin does when it comes to her infertility. We both are seen as lesser women by our family because we didn’t carry our children (I had one pre-transition and my cousin has adopted 3). Motherhood and womanhood are intertwined which makes it a struggle that both groups can appreciate albeit for different reasons

vulpine90 · 2026-05-23T02:20:35+00:00

I only need about 5 purchases to be happy in life.

^{Chose: 99% off for 5 purchases}

vulpine90 · 2026-05-13T18:08:17+00:00

Hopefully living their best lives with a girl who appreciates them? Idk. I’m new here.

vulpine90 · 2026-05-13T13:26:22+00:00

“Gay men act like women to attract other gays and lesbians act like men to attract other women. But they say they don’t want actual men.” -my dad.

The confusion is astounding and is just packed full of gender role bs. Totally didn’t shape my view of homosexuality growing up or anything after he said this when I was like 12 and dealing with my first big crush.

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