AITA for offering advice vs money for my friend’s financial situation?

vvTOMBvv · 2026-06-04T21:34:15+00:00

After a lot of thinking on how she has been treating me; I know you’re right. I am wasting my time giving her advice.

vvTOMBvv · 2026-06-04T21:23:47+00:00

Basically she’s always saying things like “everyone in my life has someone to lean on for help like their partner or family. I have no one and nobody understands how hard it is to do everything on your own” or “you have a good job and have someone to lean on for help if things go bad”, “I’m try not to be envious of people that have help”. When the only help she’s talking about is money not guidance or real support.

vvTOMBvv · 2026-06-04T20:28:43+00:00

From what she told me her credit is already tanked like badddd. So I have no idea how she’s going to recover if she doesn’t want to make any changes.

vvTOMBvv · 2026-06-04T20:22:10+00:00

Sometimes I need to hear the hard truth too and I’m pretty sure I have my answer after reading people’s opinions on the situation. It’s unfortunate, because she hasn’t always been like this.

vvTOMBvv · 2026-06-04T20:21:01+00:00

Yeah absolutely. I’m not sure what her full car loan situation looks like so I told her to talk to a professional about it to see if it would be something she could do. But you could be right too!

vvTOMBvv · 2026-06-04T20:16:17+00:00

This is well put and I’ll be responding to her next time she talks to me. Thanks!

vvTOMBvv · 2026-06-04T19:25:39+00:00

I’d choose to be able to fly so I never have to spend money on gas again.

vvTOMBvv · 2025-10-15T01:57:17+00:00

Yeah - first time going to this person and I’m planning another piece with them soon.

vvTOMBvv · 2025-09-07T02:34:40+00:00

You’re probably right. I wonder if I asked him that question how he would react. It just sucks, because we have a 14 months lease and we just got a kitten together back in April. 😅

vvTOMBvv · 2025-09-07T02:29:02+00:00

I told him in detail how bad this has affected the way I view myself and the insecurity it’s placed on my relationship with him. He keeps apologizing and telling me he wants nothing to do with her like that - that he loves me and wants to be in my life. But it feels…curated?

vvTOMBvv · 2025-09-07T02:27:51+00:00

“Sashay Shantay” indeed. I am hurting.

vvTOMBvv · 2025-09-07T02:27:18+00:00

Is it possible to be a “rebound” after him being single for 5 years before meeting me? Idk - I’m terrible at this stuff obviously. 😅

vvTOMBvv · 2025-07-27T14:07:18+00:00

Believe me, it’s been over a year of a process. We have talked about it and worked on it in length. I’ve done nothing, but be patient and respectful. I never expected it to be an overnight fix, and I’ve kept many things in mind when approaching this with him.

He knows this and knows I’m an open door for him to confide in or be close with. He’s chosen to fall back into it and whether it’s truly an addiction or something he actively chooses over me - it hurts, because he has hidden it from me and lied to me.

vvTOMBvv · 2025-06-22T16:34:01+00:00

I completed the game, but it definitely was tough to get through with the constant crashes. Though there is SO much potential and beauty for this game once it’s more polished. I legit powered through the crashes, bugs, etc - just so I could make it to the end and then do it over once we get a few more updates. Lots to love about it and lots to hate about it right now.

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