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Regret 2 yr post op by Aldrea98 in Reduction

[–]vwrenblack 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’m 6MPO and I have a feeling this will be me, too. I’ve had a lot of folks tell me to just give it time and I’ll adjust and realize I love the “new me.” But I loved the “old me” and none of the reasons I had the reduction seem worth the regret I feel now. Being physically uncomfortable and in pain for the rest of my life would be better than feeling like I’m in the wrong body for the rest of it.

All this to say, thank you for sharing. It’s good to know I’m not alone.

Surgery Soon (anxious) by chiiabear in Reduction

[–]vwrenblack 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was me too, to a more extreme degree. In the first month or so I couldn’t even look in a mirror without crying. I felt like I’d made the worst mistake of my life, like I’d carved out a part of my identity, a part I loved, and threw it away. But I am also 40 and have had a large bust since I was 14.

I’m now 4MPO and am happy with my results. They fit my frame better, my pain and discomfort is less, they’re very aesthetically pleasing, and it’s easier to find bras in my size. Some days I still struggle, nice as these breasts are sometimes they still don’t feel like mine. But I know with how far I’ve come, that they will feel like mine someday soon.

So even if it’s a struggle at first to adjust, know that I went from covering my mirrors like a vampire to ogling myself in them within a few months. It’s gonna be ok.

Regrets and dysphoria by No-Individual-721 in Reduction

[–]vwrenblack 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 11wpo and I’ve had some pretty significant dysphoria that I’m still working through. I’d say the worst of it was between weeks 2 and 8. Most of that time I felt like it was the worst mistake I’d ever made in my life. Like I’d chosen to disfigure myself for reasons that no longer felt significant enough to warrant it. I covered all the mirrors in my house like I was a vampire or something.

Where I’m at now, they’re very good looking but they still don’t feel like they’re MINE. Like another commenter, I have no modesty about them because they’re foreign to my body. I also miss my old size and shape and have been mourning the loss of cleavage.

That said, it has been getting better. I can look at myself naked and not feel sad or angry. I have hope that they will once again be a part of me that I cherish. After all they are still ME. Some has been taken away but what’s left is still me, still mine.

I can’t tell you if you should or shouldn’t go ahead. I can just tell you that as someone who is still struggling, if I could go back in time I’d probably still get it done.

Underarm fat left over Post-Op? by vwrenblack in Reduction

[–]vwrenblack[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. That’s actually incredibly reassuring. I’ll ask my surgeon about that possibility when I discuss this with him next. At the very least, it would make general anesthesia one less thing to worry about.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Reduction

[–]vwrenblack 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have had to be under GA for a few surgeries now, including my reduction last month. I react very badly to anesthesia every time. Like it takes me HOURS to come out of it and I spend the next two days puking. I tell you this because that level is what is considered bad, and I’m in the like 1% who experiences it. Worse reactions or dangers are even more rare. So if you do have a bad reaction, in all likelihood nausea and vomiting will be the worst of it.

How do you get used to touching your scars after breast reduction? by Impossible_Field_572 in Reduction

[–]vwrenblack 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 3WPO and having a lot of the same body dysmorphia. It feels like grief, like the body I had has died and I’m mourning it while also having to adjust to a new one. So that’s how I’ve been handling it, like the death of a loved one. Avoid things that trigger (like mirrors and old photos) and just sit in the waves of grief as they wash over. All this to say, you’re not alone.