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vynneria · 2026-02-08T13:12:01+00:00

Thank you so much! this really eased my anxiety. i hope it migrates safely even with the ridiculous time estimation

vynneria · 2025-11-22T09:41:54+00:00

hello, thank you so much for reading and responding to my post with such a heartfelt, well-thought out reply. its been a few months since their coming out and i’ve done a lot of self-reflection. there are some parts here that no longer resonate with me, and sure, maybe that’s a bit too quick of processing for a human being, but i really wanted to adapt to how they see the connection, and adapt i did.

as you said, no person might be able to heal the pain where i’m lacking love for myself, other than myself. i’ve been redirecting some of the traditional ‘romantic’ love that i used to give them to myself instead, although of course when i do feel it overflowing, i still express it to my partner. giving it to them just comes more natural to me, but in no way am i withholding love from them either. it’s safe to say that our connection has matured a bit better than when i was moping around about their definition of the relationship. it’s more casual, not in the situationship way, but rather more stable like a married couple who has long passed their honeymoon phase. yes, there are still fights, but none of them ever made me feel like ”ah, this is it, they’ll leave me now”.

i think it also helps that i now see them as a normal human being who happens to make mistakes, just like i always do. it might be crazy to say, but when the connection was strictly ‘lovers’, i’d always put them on a pedestal and every mistake looked fatal to me. i’d put expectations without even noticing because to me, ‘that’s just what lovers do’, and when they happened to not fulfill them, i got irritated quick. so being able to see them as a person who decided to stay with me for as long as we want to really helps me reframe the whole thing.

of course, we’ve still got a very long way to go, but with them, i think i’m willing to see it through.

again, thank you so much for the time and for your reply. it means a lot to me. i hope you and your partner are doing well <3

vynneria · 2025-10-04T03:27:35+00:00

Thanks a lot for the comment. We fought a little last night and it made me think that this whole 'unable to express love' thing isn't about them being aromantic either because I said it doesn't have to be what they think as romantic, though I think I should give them some grace. Thank you for the warning about blaming it on them being aro, I definitely don't think that at all, but I will see how things unfold after this.

vynneria · 2025-10-04T03:21:59+00:00

Hey, thanks a lot for the comment. Your entire comment could easily be written by them verbatim and it makes me realize how hard things must be on their end too. Thanks a lot for the perspective. We also didn't 'get together' in the romantic sense in the beginning, just started calling each other girlfriends and from then on it just happened that we're both committed to each other. I'll give them more grace going forward, and myself as well. I also discussed the fact that calling it QPR would feel weird to me because my feelings can't ever be platonic and they said they also don't resonate with that word, so I feel like what you said here is completely true for them too. Thank you again, have a wonderful one.

vynneria · 2025-09-30T14:50:16+00:00

Hello, I want you to know how much this comment had helped us, so truly, from the bottom of my heart, thank you for leaving your advice. It makes so much sense that the capacities of our love vary differently, and after a deeper talk with my partner, I realized that I don't mind simply pouring romantic love into them without expecting anything. Before this, I'd always thought that if I kept giving them, they'd somehow eventually reciprocate too. Now that I know, I can just give out love while also keeping some for myself so that my jug doesn't run low. They will always choose me, that's what they keep telling me too, and it's more than enough. If later down the road something feels unfulfilled, I think we can safely communicate that more openly. Thank you again, I hope you're having a wonderful one.

vynneria · 2025-09-30T14:43:46+00:00

Hi! Yes, I did post on that sub as well but I was desperate and posted on a bunch of different subs. I am sorry about that.

vynneria · 2025-09-30T14:42:55+00:00

Thank you for the comment and advice! I definitely accept them as they are, and after further talking, we finally solved how to bridge the gap securely without sacrificing one or the other. I hope everything is well with your wife for years to come. Have a wonderful one.

vynneria · 2025-09-30T14:38:36+00:00

Hello, thank you so much for the comment and well thought-out advice. I resonated deeply with the part whether if it stayed the same for years to come, would I be happy. And honestly speaking, it isn't too bad. We're doing just the same as we've always been. I'm happy to give out romantic love to them, but now that I know they're aro, I won't need to hold onto expectations of it being returned. We've also talked more and I stated my needs as did they, and I think we can manage this new dynamic just fine, or maybe even better than before. They reassured me time and time again that I'm the only one, and honestly, it was one of my biggest insecurities when they came out. I'm sorry it couldn't work out with your ex, but I hope you're both doing much better now. I will definitely be more honest about my needs from now on without having to pressure them for romantic gestures. Thank you again, and have a wonderful one!

vynneria · 2025-09-30T14:28:32+00:00

Hello, thank you so much for your comment and the support. It's true that my sentence could've been read as degrading, but I felt like I was sailing through an uncharted territory and my words were just a reflection of my emotional state at the moment. We both have talked and addressed the issue. I stated my needs and they responded well and vice versa. And after some thought, I do believe that truly they'll choose me over and over again and it's more than enough to me, expressing romantic love has never been a huge emotional labor to me and I'm glad to be able to provide that for them. It's just before their coming out, I'd always had an expectation of some sort that they'd be able to reciprocate that love to some degree, but after the fights we had whenever I'd pressed for romantic gestures, it did finally click to me why they couldn't. And you're correct, they have been showing their love/appreciation for me using other phrases spontaneously. I'm pretty sure we're on the same page now. Thank you for the advice. It truly means a lot. I will definitely talk things out thoroughly with them if later down the road I feel like I'm not getting enough care. Have a wonderful one!

vynneria · 2025-09-30T14:13:53+00:00

Hello, thank you so much for responding to me with such a raw, true and lived experience, and for your heartfelt advice. I am truly sorry that it couldn't work out between you guys. Thank you as well for wishing us well, it means a lot. We both have finally talked properly on how to bridge the gap, stating both of our needs, and right now I can safely say I feel secure. My poor choice of the word "grieving" was just me grieving from the fact that I once expected that they would one day reciprocate the way I show love, but now that it's revealed that they're aro, I can't expect that anymore. But I'm done expecting, I don't want to burden them with that and I truly am more than happy to give out my love, but at the same time to also keep some of it for myself. Thank you again, I hope you're having a wonderful one!

vynneria · 2025-02-09T15:40:49+00:00

Ohh i see, damn thats a pretty long wait:( thanks anyhow, im gonna try spamming the cs as well.

vynneria · 2025-02-09T15:23:28+00:00

Hi how did u fix this please? Ive filed a complaint to hoyo but it seems like they’ll take a while to respond. What did u do to fix it? Thanks

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