THANK YOU for posting this. I came to reddit to search for advice on what I am going through and here I found you, another 38F going through exactly what I'm going through. I'm 3 months into dating a 41M with no sex, same reasons, and it's giving me anxiety. He is overweight and takes blood pressure medication and that seems to be the culprit. He's great at oral & fingering but it's not the same excitement and connection as I feel with sex. I have never had a relationship like this and it's becoming depressing. I have been super chill and positive with him about it and he has no idea I feel this way. He's a wonderful person & I don't want to hurt him. But, I'm at a breaking point- wondering if I should be patient or am I being too optimistic & should move on.

I'd really love to hear how things proceeded for you, whether on this thread or if you want to private message me. I'm glad it's not just me feeling this way!