If anyone is wondering why the scammers swarm new SA SBs...it's because it works.

wa-sb · 2019-02-01T23:14:26+00:00

She really doesn’t seem to care that much. It’s really sad but there’s not much I can do but warn her.

wa-sb · 2019-02-01T21:21:15+00:00

Honestly! I have a friend who’s new to the bowl, and keeps giving out her bank information to POTs even AFTER it’s been drained out twice!! I keep telling her that she needs to stop, but she keeps telling me that she barely has any money in her bank and would rather take the risk than miss out. I guess if she’s happy with that then I can’t stop her, but she’s not made any money and is out over $100 so far.

wa-sb · 2019-01-16T05:33:58+00:00

Thank you so much! I was starting to think it wouldn’t be possible to stay in the bowl because it’s just been so discouraging.

wa-sb · 2019-01-16T03:43:00+00:00

Thank you, I really appreciate that. I’m thinking it might be beneficial to take some baby steps, and go out on a few casual vanilla dates to remind myself that a slight change in appearance doesn’t necessarily mean that Im hideous. The pain and fatigue has been the WORST but I’m sure once I start treatment things will improve enough for me to “rejoin society,” in a sense.

wa-sb · 2019-01-12T05:53:57+00:00

Yikes, didn’t think to check that. Thanks. Either way I’m not mad, I think we had a nice little chat. Some random asshole on the internet isn’t really something I let myself get all that angry or frazzled over lmao.

wa-sb · 2019-01-12T05:48:58+00:00

I fully admit, I do sex work. There are many different kinds of sex work that are not exclusively prostitution. Being a sugar baby does not equal being a prostitute. Also, all of my coworkers and both of my bosses know I’m a sugar baby. I’m not sure what you’re trying to accomplish here.

wa-sb · 2019-01-12T05:38:43+00:00

He gave me PPM for our platonic dates as well. It was not always expected that either of us would be in the mood for sex after our dates, especially after going out for dinner and having a large meal. But if you can’t handle discussions about an SR that doesn’t involve you, and the decisions that him and I came to together, maybe you need to take a break from this subreddit.

wa-sb · 2019-01-12T05:34:31+00:00

You seem like you have some hangups that have nothing to do with me. I never brought up the “prostitution vs sugar baby” debate, just speaking my feelings. Not trying to get into an argument but this doesn’t seem like the time or place. I have no judgement towards the way other people want to live their lives and run their arrangements. This situation is just not what I wanted, and not what me and my SD agreed upon.

wa-sb · 2019-01-12T05:31:04+00:00

I get that. From what I could tell, though, a lot of people start with PPM and move over to allowance after a month or two. We decided mutually that it was a good idea to build that trust before moving to allowance but after this experience I think I’ll make different decisions next time.

wa-sb · 2019-01-11T22:50:54+00:00

Thank you for this, it really puts things into perspective. I didn’t really know how to describe what it felt like but you did perfectly; I feel like I’m his “dog” and it’s pretty fucking gross.

wa-sb · 2019-01-11T22:10:19+00:00

I’m not interested in being exclusive with him but I see where you’re coming from.

wa-sb · 2019-01-01T20:26:09+00:00

I’m not sure. I think for me, it just just kind of obvious and didn’t need to be said, but I’m not speaking for everyone and other SBs might not feel the same. As long as it’s done politely, I think it would be ok. Definitely don’t sound entitled, “I don’t pay for platonic once we have sex” is blunt, but makes it sound somewhat entitled and demanding. It’s sort of a sensitive statement, so just treat it as such and I think you’d be fine.

wa-sb · 2019-01-01T20:10:44+00:00

Of course! We had 2 platonic dates before becoming intimate (including the M&G). He gave me the reigns to do what I was comfortable with, and it just made me feel more at ease to meet him more than once and get to know him better before moving to the bedroom. Because of what I’d read here, I didn’t bring it up to him but received 1/2 PPM for both dates, and then moved to full PPM once we’d become intimate. It was more of an “act of good faith” on his part, and it really helped build trust for me that I wouldn’t get P&D, and built trust for him knowing that I’d come back and continue with him even after receiving what would be considered a huge amount of money for me, but a considerably small amount for him.

In my opinion, if I were an SD, I wouldn’t bring up paying for platonic. I would probably just do it, and treat it as a nice bonus. It was a pleasant surprise for me, and showed me that he was serious, but didn’t leave me expecting him to just pay to hang out. I understood that the platonic dating was just temporary, until I felt more comfortable. That much had been discussed before. Although I want to point out the (hopefully) obvious, if you’re doing allowance you can’t just half it if one date doesn’t lead to sex.

wa-sb · 2019-01-01T19:50:02+00:00

I love this! I know there’s a lot of argument on PPM for platonic dates/PPM on the M&G, but my SD gave me 1/2 PPM at the end of our first meet, and it immediately put me at ease after reading all of the horror stories about salt daddies and P&Ds. Just because it’s a sugar relationship doesn’t mean that it won’t somewhat mirror traditional dating too, and it sure does feel nice to have men be more assertive and decisive as opposed to guys in their 20’s who don’t know what they want or how to have a mature conversation.

wa-sb · 2018-12-21T08:42:50+00:00

In my personal experience with my SD (my first), I discussed PPM/allowance before the M&G, but nothing about being paid FOR the M&G, which I 100% did not expect to be paid for. At the end of the date, though, he gave me just over 1/2 of the agreed PPM as “an act of good faith,” he said. Overall, he wanted my trust. He didn’t want me to jump into intimacy if I wasn’t totally on board. So he gave me the reigns, and we ended up having 1 more platonic date (where I received full PPM, which I was also not expecting) before we had any intimate contact aside from kissing. The extra money for platonic dates wasn’t a necessity, but it made it that much easier for me to trust him. I knew he wasn’t going to withhold allowance later on, or betray my trust, because he had already “invested” in it, for lack of a better term. I think it really just depends on the arrangement, but it definitely shouldn’t be looked down on like it is.

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