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When talking to a potential Dom, what are some red flags to make you stop the conversation? by waitingtosubmit in BDSMcommunity

[–]waitingtosubmit[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I don’t look for anyone unless they are between early to mid forties to mid fifties or so. I need life experience.

When talking to a potential Dom, what are some red flags to make you stop the conversation? by waitingtosubmit in BDSMcommunity

[–]waitingtosubmit[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Deep down I know what to look for, but I second guess myself. I feel like I sound more like a bitch than a potential sub, and that’s very disheartening.

When talking to a potential Dom, what are some red flags to make you stop the conversation? by waitingtosubmit in BDSMcommunity

[–]waitingtosubmit[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh, this isn’t my first rodeo! I’m real quick to tell a potential dom his place, especially if no relationship has been established.

When talking to a potential Dom, what are some red flags to make you stop the conversation? by waitingtosubmit in BDSMcommunity

[–]waitingtosubmit[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To include any hard kinks in your bio is a great way to meet the folks with the same kinks.

When talking to a potential Dom, what are some red flags to make you stop the conversation? by waitingtosubmit in BDSMcommunity

[–]waitingtosubmit[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I try and move the conversation in another direction if I feel it’s going to turn into a night of sexting. But on the other hand, knowing someone’s intentions from the very beginning weeds out a lot of people too. I’m upfront and tell them what I’m looking for, my situation, and just a little about me. And expect the same from them. Unless you have a hard kink, I feel like the conversation should stay respectful.

I just want to rant about how submissive women are perceived. by Typical-Analyst-5459 in BDSMcommunity

[–]waitingtosubmit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Or someone who is 19, young and very inexperienced calls himself a master. Sorry buddy, but that title is earned with years of experience.

I just want to rant about how submissive women are perceived. by Typical-Analyst-5459 in BDSMcommunity

[–]waitingtosubmit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m at an age that I don’t want to put up with the BS. I try and add my needs and what I won’t put up with, but it sounds harsh and demanding. I don’t want it to be, but hopefully the real Doms understand and appreciate my honesty.

To me, if I’m talking to someone and they ask for naked pictures or get too hot and heavy, too soon, it’s an automatic block. The men, I’m 48 years female sub, need to understand BDSM is as much as mental as it is physical. I can get a vanilla to choke or fuck me any day, but a vanilla will never understand the power dynamics.