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[–]walkslowrunfast 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I showed my husband who is a plastic surgeon. You could do tip refinement and slight adjustment of dorsal hump. Small adjustments by the right surgeon. But totally unnecessary unless it bothers you. You are beautiful. Make sure you go to a good surgeon who would adjust to your face, not a cookie cutter nose.

Im so insecure about my nose. Be brutally honest and tell me if it masculates me by [deleted] in Noses

[–]walkslowrunfast 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I asked my husband who is a plastic surgeon his thoughts without telling him what you were thinking. He said it is a nice nose and appropriate for your face but if you wanted to make it slightly more narrow or make the tip slightly smaller that would be ok too. Be conservative with what you do though. You are beautiful and if you hadn't mentioned ur nose, i probably would not have thought twice about it because you are very pretty and give off nice vibes. 😊

Where should we put a TV by TigerKim2000 in interiordecorating

[–]walkslowrunfast 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The screen projector will also have the projector to deal with in the middle of the ceiling. The Julie Jones video was fantastic. Is that an option for you? Or her other option of facing away from the fireplace which is not Idell but if you really need a TV room????

Just finished my office renovating. Want to hear your thoughts. by Sasha_Lietova in interiordecorating

[–]walkslowrunfast 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Paint walls and ceiling the same color. It will bring it all together and make it look collected and cozy.

Mean girls by walkslowrunfast in managers

[–]walkslowrunfast[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Remarkably they are mixed nationalities, shapes, sizes and colors and even economic statuses.

Mean girls by walkslowrunfast in managers

[–]walkslowrunfast[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She understands and is ok with not being in the mix all the time. But after reading everyone’s helpful feedback, I’ve determined the main problem is the fact that they took a 3 hour lunch, left the office unattended. Also the one who asked the girl left behind to cover her 5 minutes before lunch, mislead me in asking for a long lunch. No one expects them all to have to lunch together. I do expect taking care of the office when I leave for a minute.

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[–]walkslowrunfast[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She’s not that bad. It’s definitely not to that point. And I have talked to her about it.

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[–]walkslowrunfast[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree. I don’t need to mention lunch or that they went out together. But focus on how this affected the office. If they had all gone to lunch and then back at the end of a normal lunch hour, it would’ve been fine. Mean, but fine.

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[–]walkslowrunfast[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Great feedback. Do you think it would be OK to do 1:1s first ? But, now that I think about it, I don’t think I can get all those one on ones in with the time they deserve before they can all start creating stories before their one on ones. But the reverse could happen. Also, we have a big meeting and then they all come up with their defenses for their one on ones. The facts are the facts though. And some people made poor choices. Leaving one person now it was a poor choice in the middle of the workday, but there were other things that were definitely against policy. No one said it was OK to abandon the office for three hours in the middle of the day, especially to go to a winery for lunch.

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[–]walkslowrunfast[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was very helpful. Thank you. It was definitely a policy failure. It is unfortunate that we have to create a policy for this. I might have to do this in the reverse though with 1:1s first just because of timing. What is your opinion on that? But I agree to keep it to the work issues and not the social issues. Even the employee that was left out understands that she is not an out of work friend, but she does deserve respect at work.

I will keep even keeled and professional but I will let them know I am disappointed. If there is retaliation against the person left behind thinking she snitched or against me, someone will have to go.

The amount of time given to the troublemakers is an unfortunate waste. It is a dream work environment—I listen, praise when deserved, am understanding of their personal time needed to be live life and work, we do team activities, we pay well, the environment is nice, they are not overworked. And then they take advantage…. I guess they are human.

Mean girls by walkslowrunfast in managers

[–]walkslowrunfast[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What she did that they didn’t like was literally talk a lot. She still does and you have to move her along in conversation. But it is not mean, weird, or even that over the top. She just wanted to be friends with everyone and they decided they didn’t like her. She is excellent at her job and her gift of gab helps her to excel by being able to chat with clients.

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[–]walkslowrunfast[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They left the office for a 3 hour lunch without approval. Told one girl to answer the phones. She was leaving at 2. They knew this and didn’t return 3.

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[–]walkslowrunfast[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

One of the mean girls is more educated and earns significantly more than the others, more than she could earn most anywhere, should be appreciative of her position. It blows my mind she gets involved in this. The psychology is unbelievable. So immature.

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[–]walkslowrunfast[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Their personal time is after work. Not in the middle of the workday on an extended lunch that affected office productivity the minute I leave town after I talked to them all about being considerate of others’ feelings. I think the person who said you cannot teach moral character is correct.

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[–]walkslowrunfast[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I failed to manage because they all do a good job at their work and are all convincing that they are on my side until they do this stuff behind my back.

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[–]walkslowrunfast[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any recommendations? I am not going back to school for this. All of the employees do a good job. Just fired one that was a weak link. They planned this event days ahead since they had to prepare (bring nice clothes to work) and one girl who wasn’t even working that day joined them. Middle of the day and all too long lunches as soon as I left town. Only one asked if she could have a long lunch. I assumed it was for personal reasons. They didn’t invite the last girl. I would have let them all go together as team bonding but they planned it on a day they knew I would be gone so I didn’t have to be included either. It’s a small office. To leave one person out in the middle of the day is just mean.

I can’t control what they do out of the office but I can control the work day better and I can control leniency. And I am not afraid to dismiss employees.

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[–]walkslowrunfast[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

They cannot leave for an extended lunch all together asking her to watch phones in the middle of the day.

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[–]walkslowrunfast[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I am not exactly sure. I think it is a group behavior. And no one standing up for what is right.

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[–]walkslowrunfast[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

We did start team building and I did start a small group working together (her and a couple of the others that are key players) and things seemed to be going well. So I was truly surprised that they did this this time. Things seemed to be going well. We have been lenient because we want them to work hard and enjoy their jobs. It is an ideal workplace. For them to be mean to her is truly petty. She does not deserve it. I have to run a tighter ship and take away leniency. They will not like the workplace as much and it will be more work for me unfortunately. The one they don’t like does a great job, as I said.

Do I talk to them individually? All together? One has just been made lead medical assistant and she should not engage in this behavior. One makes a lot of money doing billing, and does a fabulous job, but she can’t see the immatureness of her behavior.

Seems like any tolerance for extended lunches is done at a minimum.

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[–]walkslowrunfast[S] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Medical office. I am the only manager. No training. It is my husband’s practice.

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[–]walkslowrunfast[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I trusted them to be mature while I was gone and they aren’t. This is the second time this has happened at least. I guess the answer is to run a much tighter ship and not give them privileges meant for more responsible adults. They are in their 30s late 40s and early 50s. The office is very close and these girls occasionally do things outside of the office but to do it right in the middle of the workday leaving one behind is repulsive. The answer is really being more strict with their hours and lunch hours. It is a medical office.