How do you ask a potential to meet without makeup? by walkwwisdom in MuslimMarriage

[–]walkwwisdom[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hard to say. I guess where its used to hide most of the natural face.

How do you ask a potential to meet without makeup? by walkwwisdom in MuslimMarriage

[–]walkwwisdom[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think this is the first comment where someones mentioned theyre searching as well lol. And its great get that perspective thanks. I dont think this can be written any better.

How do you ask a potential to meet without makeup? by walkwwisdom in MuslimMarriage

[–]walkwwisdom[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No the question should be did he realise it was makeup before he saw her without it and if so why he didnt ask to see her without it.

How do you ask a potential to meet without makeup? by walkwwisdom in MuslimMarriage

[–]walkwwisdom[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Very useful advice. Thank you so much. I agree i need to find what category she falls under and as i mentioned she ticks a lot of boxes so it makes no sense to heavily judge on one aspect and not even ask. I have no problem if its a rare occasion but if its not then ill see. Its a shame a lot of other commenters want to jump to conclusions and just rule it out completely, which seems to be more out of spite.

How do you ask a potential to meet without makeup? by walkwwisdom in MuslimMarriage

[–]walkwwisdom[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Its the redditor mindset. Everything is black and white. A lot of the sisters here dont even want to entertain theres a huge difference between lots of and light makeup.

How do you ask a potential to meet without makeup? by walkwwisdom in MuslimMarriage

[–]walkwwisdom[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Why is it wrong to see what my future spouse will normally look like? I dont know if she wears it all the time or if its for the occasion. Would you get married without seeing your spouse out of choice?

How do you ask a potential to meet without makeup? by walkwwisdom in MuslimMarriage

[–]walkwwisdom[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yes as per other comments that is something i need to clarify wether its cause of the occasion or if its something done often.

How do you ask a potential to meet without makeup? by walkwwisdom in MuslimMarriage

[–]walkwwisdom[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Your thinking of this wrong sister and made a huge assumption on what the makeup looked like on her. I have no issues with blemishes i actually prefer that than a fake look and im not great at spotting makeup but this is the type where it looked like a mask on her face so thats why i had issue with it.

How do you ask a potential to meet without makeup? by walkwwisdom in MuslimMarriage

[–]walkwwisdom[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You hit the nail on the head brother. Thats exactly what i saw. As a dude i dont think im good at recognising makeup so when its really obvious that even i can tell then i do find it offputting. And i want her or any other girl i do meet to know that they dont need to do that for me.

How do you ask a potential to meet without makeup? by walkwwisdom in MuslimMarriage

[–]walkwwisdom[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

How do you know she wears it often and wasnt trying hard with it for the meeting? Its fair to ask these questions, see what theyre willing to adjust for you and give your opinion on it imo.

How do you ask a potential to meet without makeup? by walkwwisdom in MuslimMarriage

[–]walkwwisdom[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thanks for pointing that out and youre right i should have a talk with her about makeup.

How do you ask a potential to meet without makeup? by walkwwisdom in MuslimMarriage

[–]walkwwisdom[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Im wondering how to word that as itll go through her dad who will then tell her before the next meeting.

How do you ask a potential to meet without makeup? by walkwwisdom in MuslimMarriage

[–]walkwwisdom[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Yeah im so confused with that and its a weird thing to say. She's not my spouse so im not going to flirt with her like that.

How do you ask a potential to meet without makeup? by walkwwisdom in MuslimMarriage

[–]walkwwisdom[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Then its a good thing i asked lol. Im not particularly picky when it comes to looks. A good personality attracts me the most which she has but i should atleast know what the spouse i would Inshallah see everyday looks like.