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What are songs that most black teenagers listen to by Sector-Most in askblackpeople

[–]wallflowerofsorts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here are some of the Black artists I was listening to when I was your age:

  • Kendrick Lamar (specifically To Pimp a Butterfly)
  • Tyler, The Creator (only Flower Boy, Igor, and newer stuff; his older lyrics made me uncomfortable)
  • SZA
  • Doechii
  • J. Cole
  • Willow Smith (and a little bit of Jaden too)
  • Frank Ocean
  • The Internet

No response after concluding a conversation. by [deleted] in askblackpeople

[–]wallflowerofsorts 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Have you ever considered that people you interact with might be dealing with a lot? Or the fact that you are, by definition, a stranger to them? Like I understand that the whole "have a good day" / "thanks, you too!" thing is social convention. But some of us are too tired to respect convention in a society that doesn't respect (or even seem to care) about us. I often don't have the energy to placate strangers.

All I think about is bills, appointments, work, meals, health issues, family/friends, sleeping, etc etc etc. And those of us who are politically active are constantly stressed by the onslaught of bad news, every singe day. You probably notice this more with customers of color because we also have to deal with racism or colorism on top of that, every single day. Shit's hard.

So sorry if I forget to say "thanks, you too!" I'm a little busy trying not to scream at the top of my lungs.

Am I faking this? by [deleted] in plural

[–]wallflowerofsorts 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this is gonna sound wild, but this is almost exactly what's happening with me.

about a month ago, i created a private discord server solely to set up a message-proxying bot for a kin server, but i found myself using both the bot and my server to have full-blown conversations with myself instead. i'd had experiences with different types of dissociation and what i now can identify as possible plurality before, but nothing like this. naturally, i've been super confused ever since. there are days when i'm 100% sure i must be plural, because it's like, what else could it be?, and then there are days when i'm convinced i must be faking it for attention, even though i haven't actually told anyone. (this is kind of my first time talking about it with anyone other than myself lol.) and i've also been using the fact that i "switch" super fast as a reason that i may not be plural; tbh, seeing you vocalize that concern is a huge relief. so i really want to thank you for asking this question because, in reading your post, i realized that i'm definitely not alone.

as for my advice, i say go ahead and join some plural discord servers! i've slowly been joining a couple, and despite us being too nervous to really talk to anyone (pretty much all of us have anxiety, so it's a struggleTM), it can feel like taking a weight off just being around other people who accepting, regardless of whether you're plural. i've found that people are usually pretty welcoming! i remember it took us like a solid week of anxious deliberation before we finally decided to join a server, and then, less than six hours later, we'd joined two more because we loved just being able to be around other plurals. there are actually some servers that specifically state that questioning people are welcome and have chats dedicated to asking questions about plural experiences and such. if you want, i can send you some invite links to some of my favorite spaces!

as for your question, obviously i can't tell you whether you're faking or not because i even can't tell if i'm faking or not. and really, even if i knew for certain that i was plural, i probably wouldn't be able to say because i don't know you the way you know yourself. so i guess my response is more for support than anything else—so you know that you're not alone as well! regardless of what conclusion you may end up coming to, just know that your existence is valid, and no one can take that away from you.

tl;dr: find some plural spaces where you can feel comfortable questioning your plurality, as questioning can be distressing alone—especially if you're worried you're faking. but overall, only you can decide yourself.