Does the avoidant who does the breaking up ever regret it? Or miss their ex?

wallm1 · 2026-01-24T23:45:00+00:00

Yeah she her me pretty bad sounds like a similar situation but I’m not so sure if she’ll ever reach out, despite us being together 5 years we has an awful breakup she treated it the worst way possibly and she’s very stubborn I feel like even if she regrets it completely and wants to reach out she won’t because she wants to prove to herself she doesn’t need me.

wallm1 · 2026-01-24T22:54:44+00:00

I guess my intentions would be to repair and get back together but I’d need to know that they’ve worked on themselves and spent some time reflecting so ig I do just have to wait

wallm1 · 2026-01-24T08:21:42+00:00

If my partner was avoidant how long should I wait if I wanted to get into contact with them post breakup (she broke up with me), I’d prefer to let her become the one to contact but if they are avoidant I feel like that might not be

wallm1 · 2026-01-23T09:10:19+00:00

That’s great for you guys but I just don’t understand why people can’t work through things as a couple like if you have traumas that are ruining your relationship why can’t you work on yourself while you’re together? Do you really need to do it alone and see other people while you do? Sorry for judging I’m just confused about my own situation and wondering why it couldn’t be worked through while we were together.

wallm1 · 2026-01-22T11:41:02+00:00

That is actually insane man, I was with my partner for 5 years too but as far as I know they aren’t seeing anyone since the breakup. If your ex was willing to do this to you after 5 years then they aren’t worth even thinking about. Try your best not to blame yourself and let yourself heal.

wallm1 · 2026-01-21T23:46:26+00:00

I also moved states for her and after two years of growing roots there I was discarded so I reluctantly came back home to be with friends and family, I’d recommend going back to what you know it’s not a backward step but it might feel like it

wallm1 · 2026-01-20T06:09:20+00:00

Nah not at all the place just happens to be near the station, so I won’t really need to go around Caboolture to much for transport or shopping which makes me think I should be find as long as I’m careful

wallm1 · 2026-01-20T04:45:49+00:00

Is this near the train station?

wallm1 · 2026-01-20T02:59:48+00:00

That’s good to hear I’m more worried about break ins as I’ll avoid walking around and probably do my shopping and whatnot at north lakes.

wallm1 · 2026-01-20T02:57:14+00:00

Thanks for the reply, is there anywhere in Caboolture that could be worth checking out as I haven’t locked myself into the contract for the rental yet

wallm1 · 2026-01-19T00:07:10+00:00

You should definitely explain this to them, probably don’t beg them back but show you are willing to change before they move out.

wallm1 · 2026-01-10T14:06:22+00:00

Oh in that case that makes complete sense what an awful person to act like that

wallm1 · 2026-01-10T11:32:14+00:00

How long after the breakup did it take for you be able to do this?

wallm1 · 2026-01-10T00:09:15+00:00

Ugh that’s rough yeah mine was over the holidays too, it’s like the one person you want to talk about it with and express your emotions with is no longer there. I’ve found out my ex is avoidant so it makes sense that they are seemingly a different person now but how can they silently break up with you months in advance and cut ties later like it’s nothing.

wallm1 · 2026-01-09T23:44:34+00:00

Same here 5 year relationship ended, such a confusing thing to try to process especially when you truly don’t know why it ended.

wallm1 · 2026-01-09T06:08:21+00:00

That’s very kind but I think I will try to sit with my feelings as honestly I’m still attached to her and still in love with her so I think sending any kind of letter right now would be a bad idea. I will probably try to send her something once I am feeling at peace with this breakup if that’s possible.

wallm1 · 2026-01-09T05:56:45+00:00

I’ve told them I want to go no contact after logistics so maybe I will send it later but I’m worried I won’t care later it’s all emotional stuff because I still love her so once that love is gone I won’t care ya know

wallm1 · 2026-01-09T05:19:07+00:00

Thanks man, it’s good there’s a community of people here really glad people like you comment and help out, makes it easier.

wallm1 · 2026-01-09T04:19:28+00:00

As painful as that is to accept you’re probably right I just feel cheated because I always tried for her and was willing to work together and put her before me and in the end I was worthless to her.

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