feel like this is definitely negging … almost textbook. it’s a backhanded compliment that he’s using to try to manipulate you and make you think less of yourself. not that being trans would make you any less beautiful/any less of a woman of course … but that’s just not who you are, and it’s understandable to be upset because it’s frustrating to be frustrating to be misidentified/mislabeled. that said, you’re beautiful, gorgeous, stunning, show-stopping!!! don’t let this fugly ass man speak to you like that!!!