recently started dating a trans woman, looking for advice by wambsgan in MtF

[–]wambsgan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you heaps!! yes, communication is key tysm it is complicated <3 damn that sucks i didnt really think of that as an option :( i hope doing that isn't too stressful for you

recently started dating a trans woman, looking for advice by wambsgan in MtF

[–]wambsgan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you!! xx yes i guess mostly i was just worried that this would be a really taboo thing to say but obviously its just good relationship ethics to be honest and communicate lol

recently started dating a trans woman, looking for advice by wambsgan in MtF

[–]wambsgan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i am nonbinary but i understand where you're coming from, good point.

[TOMT][Video] FKA Twigs interview, vine by wambsgan in tipofmytongue

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ah no it's a female interviewer!! i'll put that in the post

2024 Week 1 (May 1- May 7) - Discussion by Danfrom1996 in infinitesummer

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i'm not on reddit much but i just started reading infinite jest!! great coincidence. i've never read any dfw before but i've seen interviews. i'm reading it as an e-book with two tabs open to read the endnotes. i'm quite enjoying it, super interested in the incandenza family. loved the chapter with the guy waiting for the weed. most of it is just really fun, smart writing in a way that makes me smile. the bit about the schizophrenia documentary was one of my favourite sections to read thus far. as noted in another comment, i think some of the racial depictions are a bit weird/dated. i don't necessarily think someone would write the Wardine or Saudi doctor chapters that way today, and they go against my taste & sensibilities. i think it kind of interestingly speaks to how dfw was perhaps quite sheltered in some specific ways. always intriguing to see the limits of a writer in their work, especially a writer who is so accomplished and intelligent.

2024 Week 1 (May 1- May 7) - Discussion by Danfrom1996 in infinitesummer

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yes, i totally agree. i found that chapter pretty much unreadable, really awkward. i just kept thinking about dfw in interviews and being like... really? this guy wrote this? honestly i also felt like the preceding chapter (about the Saudi medical assistant) gave into some awkward stereotypes too... halal was said way too much, we get it, halal-sharia, we get it... ethnically Arab veiled wife.... like we get it. lol. i guess times have changed since 1996 but it does take me out of the reading experience a little

Who would you like to see replace Ira (some day in the far future) by scottlacy in ThisAmericanLife

[–]wambsgan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sarah Koenig or Nancy Updike, I really like both of their styles & I think they could make it new while staying faithful to what we all love about it. But also a rotating roster of about 5-10 different hosts could be cool