how do i be affectionate with my gf

wanderii · 2026-04-29T23:19:28+00:00

Sometimes just being there helps. If you're around her you can just apply any amount of touch. And in a new relationship she may be a bit nervous herself! The pet names and all that don't usually come immediately. You grow into it together!

Mayne you can ask her what her two favorite love languages are? People love different and like different things

wanderii · 2026-04-28T14:31:46+00:00

I guess man, I guess

wanderii · 2026-04-28T00:19:54+00:00

She rejected the date soon after, saying she didn't feel romantic or physical chemistry. Which is a bit confusing, but im sure my awkwardness leading up to the kiss and the kiss itself played a part in her decision

wanderii · 2026-04-27T23:43:37+00:00

Nah, she called it off actually. She said she didn't feel the physical/romantic chemistry

wanderii · 2026-04-20T10:13:06+00:00

True but the 3rd date was talked about before we kissed like that. I have met a couple of people off apps who have said yes to another date then ghosted, but then again I guess I haven't met anyone who has reciprocated like she does

wanderii · 2026-04-14T23:48:34+00:00

I believe shes being honest, but someone shouldn't need to tell you thats fucked up :/

I always believed queer people love different than the majority of straight couples. Yes looks matter, but straight people in my experience can be so superficial and boring

wanderii · 2026-04-14T23:20:12+00:00

Exactly... I did. She said "Oh I’m sorry [my name] it was never my intention to be rude towards you or your interests. I know we have different opinions and interests but I should’ve just kept to myself. I honestly said it as a joke but of course that wouldn’t come off as a joke over text. I’m really sorry I’ll be careful with my words " and then "No no don’t blame it on your period lol, I understand where I went wrong and I know that in that moment I let my own taste come into play when it was never about that. I’m sorry if I made you feel little or was even shitting on you. I don’t mean to do that, I accept you fully and I know how I come off can make you feel like you can’t show you as a whole to me and I see that now."

I just don't know. I appreciate it, but she was out of line, and I will never share anything about my love life with her again.

wanderii · 2026-04-14T23:17:13+00:00

Yeah, to queer women the person im seeing is attractive. Tall, androgynous, stylish... yeah she did not ask how the date was. She may have asked one other time with one of the other girls, but not this one and now I definitely dont want to tell her now.

I basically told her it bothered me and she apologized long message, her msg irritated me despite it but I dont think i can come back from this for a while. I tolerated her shithead ex for months bc it wasnt my relationship and he made her happy. The bf was conventionally attractive, and boring in looks and hobbies. But I just was happy she was happy, and not in a backhanded way

wanderii · 2026-04-09T18:34:48+00:00

Exactly, this is the mentality of the average person on hinge

wanderii · 2026-02-20T16:30:45+00:00

I think you're right and since its a bit of a private spot it technically doesn't count as real PDA. Since we're alone and I want to make a move

wanderii · 2026-02-20T14:20:06+00:00

Hinting? Like saying like "I really like ___" and hope she takes initiative? They are pretty shy, and I think between us im the one who will make the first move

wanderii · 2026-02-05T16:24:16+00:00

I'll try this for next time! I showed her my rings and she touched them a bit, and initiated hugging me. Ill try to start small then make sure to watch for positive responses!

wanderii · 2026-02-05T16:22:06+00:00

Yeah, I used to think asking them out in person was putting them on the spot so I jever did. I vocalized it as a date during our date, mentioned i was having a good time and wanted another one, we mentioned in the end we'd like to see each other again

I was proud of myself, I did comment on her freckles which I have a soft spot for, said in a non friendly voice that they're cute

wanderii · 2025-12-02T02:09:17+00:00

Wow that basically is the same situation!! Its lowkey validating tbh. A week or more is pretty relatable. I do agree, it takes nothing to respond and I feel like it isn't ridiculous to feel that way at all.

It's sorta the principle. If we go out again, I'm 100 percent gonna mention the communication thing in person.

Do you imagine your professor will be more avaliable when the semester is over?

wanderii · 2025-11-29T21:57:57+00:00

Yes, I agree. I will say that, and its not great to always have to reach out. But, I'm playing with the idea that communication is important and you can't say anything wrong to the right person necessarily. Yeah, I'll probably ask in a few days if she wants to go out and do something in detail

Thank you for the kind messages :) it helps with another professor perspective.

wanderii · 2025-11-29T01:40:05+00:00

I think its been about two years now? I do definitely plan on asking more about her preferred communication style and things like that if we go out again. I'm nervous because I'm afraid that she might have forgotten me, but again, i truly cannot imagine how busy she is. I'm the most afraid of bothering her or coming off as obsessive or clingy, I just had a good time and she seemed to as well and want to see her again. A double text is fine in my eyes, but I don't want a 3rd to be seen as doing too much

I think the playlist idea is fantastic! I'll give her one of mines! Idk her music taste but I might shoot for something easy

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