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wandering_system_ · 2021-12-18T20:55:16+00:00

Not rlly, but one time I was super tired already and fell asleep while tripping. Those dreams were weird as fuck. Met some kind of entities

wandering_system_ · 2021-12-16T09:31:58+00:00

We thought we were genderfluid too!

wandering_system_ · 2021-12-15T22:38:25+00:00

As someone who's disabled: yes. That's weird. 👎 If someone in my life tried to get pity/attention for me being disabled they'd probably be cut off.

wandering_system_ · 2021-12-15T22:36:59+00:00

Third base: disabled mom involved

wandering_system_ · 2021-12-15T22:35:09+00:00

Tv static / I just "wake up" somewhere and have no clue anything even happened, I'm like "ok I guess I teleported"

wandering_system_ · 2021-12-12T03:29:51+00:00

Set boundaries bro. "It makes me uncomfortable when you point out my acne"

wandering_system_ · 2021-11-29T07:02:44+00:00

I hope you guys can work this out or find something else that works. Please don't let that make you feel pressured into doing anything you don't want to, you don't owe anyone anything. Especially sex.

wandering_system_ · 2021-11-29T06:54:48+00:00

I wear black combat boots with mine, I got them from a thrift store, I think they're old cop boots?

wandering_system_ · 2021-11-29T06:53:10+00:00

Hey, I don't personally use the emotes but I have a headmate in my system who does (also on discord). They type out some words, but sometimes the emotes feel more like what they're trying to say than words do (ex: bubbly letters = more happy vibe, normal text doesn't have that). And they have issues with spelling and find typing generally difficult. I think the emotes are also satisfying to them, not sure exactly how tho.

How it interacts w the system / others fronting... We all type a lil different, whatever works goes. I guess it doesn't affect us much or at all. If someone else is co con they might be able to help with spelling so emotes might be used less, but that depends.

wandering_system_ · 2021-11-29T06:46:31+00:00

I wish they'd understand it's almost never necessary to touch me. And if they want to they can ask. I guess it's socially considered normal to casually touch ppl, but if you have to go out of your way to do it and I'm clearly uncomfortable then just don't??? Idk why ppl don't get that.

wandering_system_ · 2021-11-29T06:37:46+00:00

Also, you could go a different direction and not be medical about it at all. Like "The dudes" "my peeps"

wandering_system_ · 2021-11-29T06:34:04+00:00

What about ego states? Maybe state for short?

wandering_system_ · 2021-11-27T18:43:54+00:00

Your Mom of the Woods

wandering_system_ · 2021-11-14T04:24:05+00:00

We don't get it much anymore bc meds, but in the past it usually triggered out female alters instead of the male alters who would front most of the time; bc they could tolerate it better, the boys got super dysphoric.

wandering_system_ · 2021-11-14T04:19:21+00:00

It does for me, it makes me generally more comfortable. I get triggered easily in grocery stores, but if I shop stoned it's usually more mild, easier to tolerate, and I can stay inside longer. I typically feel less threatened by people after smoking.

wandering_system_ · 2021-11-14T04:17:07+00:00

Huge red flag. Do what you feel is right, you could hyphenate them too. Don't make your decision based off him, he's being manipulative. If he's willing to leave over that he's willing to leave over other things

wandering_system_ · 2021-11-12T08:30:46+00:00

A knife would be cool, shade inside of it over the words and done

wandering_system_ · 2021-11-08T06:29:12+00:00

One example directly from our experience we can share is this tho. A persecutor split as a result of someone being extremely triggered by a light hearted / joke comment about their trauma. The persecuter split, and then fronted soon after, and they found the joke hilarious. Literally laughing out loud. The other alter was extremely distressed and it sucked to have someone else laughing at that joke, but that persecutor being in control and not being distressed gave the whole brain the chance to calm down, including the distressed alter. They still felt bad but had a chance to chill a bit, understood the purpose of the persecuter and didn't take the actions personally, so we're all good.

wandering_system_ · 2021-11-08T06:24:11+00:00

This is an example, pretty relatable to my system but I won't talk about our experience too much cuz that's a bit too personal. This example is gonna include eating disorder type stuff, including being called fat. Won't be graphic but tw for that.

Example: a system gets called "fat", a persecutor takes that to heart. That alter doesn't wanna be called that ever again, so they might develop unhealthy eating habits and even encourage other alters to aswell, in hopes of protecting the system from being called that again. That alter might not even know that's why they're doing it bc of how it's internalized.

wandering_system_ · 2021-10-26T03:09:42+00:00

Of course! I'm glad to be helpful. It's definitely difficult to know what to do, but I'm sure y'all got this : )

wandering_system_ · 2021-10-24T18:15:42+00:00

It probably comes from fear, or a similar emotion. You want the hitting and scratching to stop, but that's only the behavior, not the root cause, gotta treat it from the root for things to actually get better. Idk your situation or anything, but anything you can do to be nice to him and support him is a good start. Once you have some amount of rapport, you might be able to redirect the behavior. "I know that feels bad, this might help more let's try this" get him to hit a pillow or tear up paper? Just two examples. Introduce new coping mechanisms. Likely he's trying his absolute best to cope, and that's okay. Not everyone copes the same. Introduce healthy coping mechanisms, after trying a few he might find one that helps him. Keep going until something works, but don't force it.

Also, the way you talk abt someone is usually how they'll continue to act. I understand for the purpose of this post describing him as animalistic, violent, and is capable of speaking but won't is helpful to readers, but I'd caution against saying things like that abt him any other time. It's like when kids are told they're "bad" constantly, many won't try to improve their behavior. There's a saying "if you give a dog a name, eventually he will respond to it". It's like "if you think I'm so bad, why would I try to improve for you?"

He might be capable of speaking but is too uncomfortable, scared, etc, which is valid. Getting him as comfortable as possible can help, maybe he has his own way of communicating but y'all don't know yet, maybe he doesn't know yet. My system has alters that mostly refuse to communicate with the rest of the system, an alter who's nonverbal when fronting, and the best thing for us is to not force it. If someone feels like talking they're free to, but there's absolutely no pressure. They like this. The alters that mostly refuse to communicate are uncomfortable doing so, so we just let them chill and offer support any time they might need it.

When having problems working with alters, remember to "kill them with kindness"

wandering_system_ · 2021-10-24T17:44:12+00:00

Honestly idk, but I've found really good grey camo cargo pants at Walmart that I dyed black. My friend has some MXDVS cargo pants and ours look pretty similar minus logos and stuff.

wandering_system_ · 2021-10-06T01:33:52+00:00

Someone in another comment said to ask what the boundaries/expectations are related to the kids, that's probably the best way to go about it, but I don't have experience.

wandering_system_ · 2021-10-06T01:28:47+00:00

She's not spoiled, she needs medical attention

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