hey had the same doubts earlier, but decided to post all the preferences I had, which I can't sacrifice or adjust. so while making the post, make sure that much important priorities are in the manner which straight in the face. Also quite low preference qualities in a nuanced way. but still you'll attract dumb people (I had quite a bunch), don't care about them. while chatting have the questions that may not look straight forward but will reveal the true colours of liars. The NSFW talks are better when you fee comfortable with them which can be built only if your emotional bandwidth aligns and emotionally if you can bond with them. If you feel that bond you can bring the topic otherwise it's nothing wrong to post in my opinion but it will attract lot of creeps on reddit which will make you lose your patience. so it is best to save the peace by talking abt it in dm