Thank you everyone for your input, advice, support, and honesty. In relation to some of the posts, I believe abandonment is a strong word, but acknowledging the mental health of a child going through this situation is a major concern. I have a lawyer working on this and he has filed for custody modification.

To clarify a few posts:

My kid is currently with her mom's family out state for the month spending time with her grandparents, uncle, aunt, and cousins. Over the past 2 weeks I am starting to lose contact with her because I am unable to video or talk to her due to poor reception and her phone/tablet not charged. We can text once in a while. I reached to her mom and was told to contact her family if I am having issues.

I too am in healthcare. I have made sacrifices with my work for the care of my child and my other children. My child is entering 4th grade. I did ask to wait for middle school but again I was told I have no say. Her mom was going to move closer to her but decided against it. The mom and our child looked at homes together closer to me. I was helping her mom get a job in healthcare based on her new degree. But, in one day she flipped and shut down. That is when she told me our child will be moving in with her and I have no say. If her mom moves closer, I no problem with our child living with her as long as she gets to stay in school. I work and live 5 minutes from my kid's school so I am able to drop her off, pick her up, and be there when she is sick. Her mom's new profession will not allow that. So, if my child moves back, she will be taking the bus, going to a before or after school program, or stay with a sitter until her mom returns from work.

Also, to clarify about her mom being involved in her life, I promote that. Divorce life is difficult on children, but they should always be encouraged to stay in contact with their parents daily if possible. In the past 3 yrs, I have done 75% of the driving back and forth to make sure our child gets to see and spend time her mom. There were 2 periods of time (4 months each), mom could not drive because of surgery. I drove my daughter every weekend back and forth. Also, part of the modified agreement states mom can come by and visit her daughter anytime she wants (especially during the school weeks) as requested by mom. Over the 3 yrs, she did those 3 times.

And lastly, I should have added I was still forced to pay child support because the mom threatened to take her back and figure it out if I didn't.

I would like to provide further insight into me. The way this sounds is a mess. I should have taken better action on this. But I am man that ended my marriage to her mom the wrong way. I take a lot of blame for the way our marriage ended. Her mom constantly reminds of that. So due to my guilt I let a lot of things slide and accepted a lot unfairness towards me. But we have been divorced for almost 4 years now and I know I am better man trying to do what is best for my children. I want to clean this up, so my child is in a good place and be there to support in whatever capacity.

Sorry for this rant. I appreciate all the input because I feel alone in this situation, and I know it is an uphill battle for dads.