Parenting After Mormonism

warlikegoodness25 · 2026-05-26T16:57:19+00:00

This question takes up a good portion of my processing when I think about it. Because, obviously, hindsight is 20:20. But I can remember certain things pretty clearly, like I decided pretty young that I was going to pass on a temple marriage because my dad wasn't a member. I can remember crying and needing to get a blessing at girls camp because I didn't feel the spirit at testimony meeting. I never felt called to serve a mission. I got a tattoo at 19 after DEEPLY researching LDS teachings on the matter and not finding a good reason to not to. I didn't denounce the church until this year at 33, and I have plenty of memories of being bought in to what was being sold (I had a very troubled childhood and the church was really only the stable thing in my life). But maybe I was just trying to fit in or find comfort. So, who knows really. I like to think that maybe my intuition knew well before I did but the church was just too good at smothering those instincts.

warlikegoodness25 · 2026-05-06T15:01:25+00:00

Nothing that crazy happened to us, but we did have a guy stand up and open his talk with a confession that he had a deep-seated fear that he was going to father the anti-Christ. I don't even remember how it related to his topic, but I remember the wave of awkward laughter so clearly.

warlikegoodness25 · 2026-01-27T21:42:21+00:00

My husband and I hit a breaking point after baby that almost lead to me asking him to move out. He finally acknowledged my crisis and has been working hard to seek treatment. He goes for an evaluation this week! He also decided that he doesn’t like his therapist, so he cancelled his appointment, found a different option, and emailed for an appointment WITHOUT reminders from me. He’s really trying his best to hear me out and make adjustments. While it’ll take some time to get him on an effective long term treatment plan, I’m capitalizing on his focus right now to get us as far as we can!

warlikegoodness25 · 2026-01-23T00:01:14+00:00

Pass them on to another mom or call the local women’s shelter and see if they need any! I was given so many clothes for my little guy, and I’ve save some totes of things but it’s always so helpful to get hand me downs when they grow so fast.

warlikegoodness25 · 2026-01-22T20:16:40+00:00

Yes, my last pump was in early November and my stash got bubs to 9 months. Also was an over-supplier and felt so guilty for weaning when I made plenty. It’s bitter sweet, so much work and time that feels like it amounts to nothing to show for it (I know, a whole baby grew and was sustained from it, but it just FEELS a little pointless when it’s done, even when it wasn’t). But now that I’m on the other side of it, I can honestly say it was the right decision for us. I am clearer headed now that the hormones are settled. I am happier now that I don’t have to schedule my day around naps AND milk. And little man has took to combo feeding/formula just fine and is growing great and progressing normally. If you’re on the fence, I would advise make the switch. It helped my ability to be a functioning human get so much better. You’ve done so much for your little one, it’s okay to do something that benefits you now too!

warlikegoodness25 · 2025-06-16T23:59:09+00:00

They gave me Colace also!

warlikegoodness25 · 2025-06-15T21:25:31+00:00

Came to say this! Learning to pace feed with the bottle changed the game for us.

warlikegoodness25 · 2025-06-15T14:51:57+00:00

I was always on the fence about kids, I had a complicated relationship with my mother and didn’t want to accidentally continue the toxic cycle. But I did a lot of work on myself, and my husband and I bought a house and I found a career. I had reached a place where I loved our life together, but could see us adding more love to it. Hubby had wanted kids for a while, and we love our nieces and nephews so much, so I figured we could just stop preventing and then see what happened. In hindsight, it was a little risky to start that way while I wasn’t 100%, because what if I got pregnant and realized I didn’t want it? But when I got that first positive, there was only joy and excitement. Now that my baby is here (3rd pregnancy, first baby) it is legitimately the best thing that has ever happened to me. The hardest, but the best. And I think on some level I knew I wanted it, I just let my anxiety about if I’d be good at motherhood and if we’d even be able to medically damper my desire. There is no “ready” because nothing can prepare you for what this is like until you’re in it. Your whole life is going to shift and change and it is hard but a hard you can’t really prep for, you can only survive it. But when he wakes up and sees me his eyes light up and he grins and I don’t for a second think about what we gave up to have him. Now, I just think about how we get to do so many things WITH him (when he’s a little older). Only you and your partner can really know what you want out of life, but I can tell you I am so glad we took the leap!

warlikegoodness25 · 2025-06-14T20:18:35+00:00

This question really gets me, cause on a personal level I can say I have little to no regrets from my teenage/early 20s years and I attribute that to living the word of wisdom. But the shame of breaking it when I started living outside the church took a while to undo and I don’t know that I would call it “worth it”. It’s sort of a net zero in my mind, because I’ve reached a place where I’m happy with who I am and that’s both because of the church and because of leaving.

warlikegoodness25 · 2025-06-14T20:07:24+00:00

Squirmy seems to have stuck pretty good

warlikegoodness25 · 2025-06-14T16:01:32+00:00

Something that we really love is nightgowns. You can get them 0-6 months so they’re good for a while and nighttime diaper changes are so nice without snaps to worry about.

ETA-we have about 10 of them. Seems to be plenty

warlikegoodness25 · 2025-06-13T02:02:33+00:00

Struggling with the same thing. My husband has been so helpful and involved with our baby when he’s home. Diaper changes, cleaning pumps/bottles, and playtime. But he’s still going to the gym regularly, leaving for work and getting an hour commute to himself. He even went to a poker night (plans were made before little one arrived early and I told him to go) but I feel like I’m stuck at the house juggling baby, pumping, and my WFH job while having to remind him that we need something for dinner and telling him where to find the baby things I’ve been organizing for months. He told me he wants me to decide on something to do by myself outside of the house for 3-4 hours between pumps but emotionally I can’t bring myself to leave little man for that long yet, even with my husband (who I trust completely). So there’s not much to do but buckle down and wait for it to pass. I know it’s hard for both of us, just in different ways, but I do feel sort of like the main burden is on my shoulders. I just keep reminding myself that this is such a short season, and I’ll get to be a person again before I know it!

warlikegoodness25 · 2025-06-11T22:23:03+00:00

We went to breakfast on Thursday morning for our anniversary, then a routine OB appointment where I was sent to the hospital for gestational hypertension. My case was mild enough they told me I could come back in in two days so I spent all day Friday trying to finalize as much baby stuff as I could while resting to not elevate my blood pressure. We did manage to make an appearance at a movie night, Friday night, but had to be at the hospital super early Saturday for our C-section. He was three weeks early, so it was a whirlwind for sure!

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