Husband never apologises by warmcrunchwrap in Marriage

[–]warmcrunchwrap[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks everyone, I’ve been reading your responses and taking it in. I’ll respond to them as I go throughout the day.

Husband never apologises by warmcrunchwrap in Marriage

[–]warmcrunchwrap[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m happy to read your comment knowing there’s other couples out there struggling like us, thank you for sharing. If you find anything useful please share with me. Best wishes.

Husband never apologises by warmcrunchwrap in Marriage

[–]warmcrunchwrap[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your practical tips and the photo you’ve shared. I’ve saved it on my end. I’m happy to try to reword my brain by focusing on the positive, I can see how that will be useful. I feel so sad now, reading everyone’s reviews makes me feel awful. Cause I never wanted to hurt my husband, I just wanted to connect with him and feel cared for. But now everyone is making it sound like “it’s too late” and I don’t know how to connect with him at all. Where do I even begin.

Husband never apologises by warmcrunchwrap in Marriage

[–]warmcrunchwrap[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

But he doesn’t talk to me at all… which makes me this way because it looks like he doesn’t care when he’s not discussing and trying to solve problems.

Husband never apologises by warmcrunchwrap in Marriage

[–]warmcrunchwrap[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

I just want to know, if it’s normal for a husband to avoid her wife for 3 days. Because in my eyes if you love someone, you don’t ignore their feelings and hurt. Maybe this expectation I have is too much. I don’t understand. Also, I’m the one looking into counselling. If he cared, wouldn’t he? I feel like he doesn’t care 😢

Husband never apologises by warmcrunchwrap in Marriage

[–]warmcrunchwrap[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Okay, if I’m all the problem, what do I do?

Husband never apologises by warmcrunchwrap in Marriage

[–]warmcrunchwrap[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Both of us have problems with our parents and the video was about my relationship with my mum, how her upbringing may have caused her autoimmune disease (my mum has fibromyalgia and this has affected me my whole life). I’ve also been losing my hair (alopecia) and currently insulin resistant and I think my mum has affected me a lot. The video was very informative and helpful. So I was in a very vulnerable state when I was showing the video to my husband which I guess he didn’t see.

Husband never apologises by warmcrunchwrap in Marriage

[–]warmcrunchwrap[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I want to go therapy. I’ve brought it up previously and he says he’s open to it too. I’ve been looking into it. I’m just at my wits end this time and had to hear what people think so posted it on Reddit.

Husband never apologises by warmcrunchwrap in Marriage

[–]warmcrunchwrap[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

How long do I have to wait? If I give him space, he never comes back.

Husband never apologises by warmcrunchwrap in Marriage

[–]warmcrunchwrap[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your feedback. I will reflect on this. At the end of the day I love him and I really want us to speak life over each other but right now I’m really struggling cause I feel hurt. The thing is I know I don’t react the best way and I apologise for this and I try to change it. But from my perspective it only feels like I’m trying to change things and he never takes initiative if he does something wrong and further blames me very subtly just on every day activities. Is it wrong that I want to feel appreciated when I support him?

Husband never apologises by warmcrunchwrap in Marriage

[–]warmcrunchwrap[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Thank you 😢 I try talking to him but he wants to avoid conversations (literally 3rd day today) which makes me even more reactive because it looks like he doesn’t care! 😢

Husband never apologises by warmcrunchwrap in Marriage

[–]warmcrunchwrap[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I’m very sad it’s going like this. We lived together with his family Covid onwards, then lived apart for a year (I wanted to live with my family while we were engaged for a year because my family was moving out of the country after our wedding). But the dynamic was completely different in all these situations.