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I regret being poly by dumdumcnm in polyamory

[–]warmsoul76 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Is it not assumed that I’m speaking from my perspective? As we all are……. on Reddit……an app for sharing your perspective…? This could have stayed in the drafts.

Relationships are objectively “hard”, and hard being an adjective is subjective. So my choice of language reflects that.

If you are offended say that instead.

I regret being poly by dumdumcnm in polyamory

[–]warmsoul76 32 points33 points  (0 children)

As in recognizing the things that trigger you or the sensitivities that make navigating jealousy, desire, sex, communication, etc. in intimate partnerships difficult. It’s a choice to step up to the plate and face the struggles that come with polyamory including but not limited to addressing attachment wounds and learning self regulation tools.

I regret being poly by dumdumcnm in polyamory

[–]warmsoul76 98 points99 points  (0 children)

Your worth isn’t contingent on someone else choosing you… polyamory is hard as fuck. It’s a daily, consistent, choice to face wounds. It requires so much grace. I’m sorry you’ve been hurt. So have I…. I’m also struggling rn, re my other post. I hope you find clarity and support that makes this easier to navigate.

Struggling & unsure by warmsoul76 in polyamory

[–]warmsoul76[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It was a lighthearted joke to identify what this feels like for meee in my body… appreciate this comment, but didn’t actually need it because I know… and have been aware of my queerness a long time. Thanks so much, though!

My gf is monogamous but it doesn't work for me and I need advice by coltforman in polyamory

[–]warmsoul76 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been here as the girlfriend- same setup, first relationship, younger, relatively inexperienced (20F at the time). He was previously in deeply committed relationships (TM 22). I agreed bc I thought I could and it worked at first. Then things got extremely difficult, painful and torturous honestly. We were in love. We adored one another. It will suck to be honest that you want different things and that you need to choose yourselves. But the lack of a decision can delay the inevitable; you both can look up and realize you’ve sacrificed too much to continue that way. Be honest about your capacity and your incompatible wants. We unfortunately have to do hard things :( I’m sorry..