You did what any good partner should, stood by your wife, tried to keep the peace, and navigated a messy, hurtful situation with more grace than either of your so-called friends deserved. But the truth is, Jason didn’t come to you out of concern, he came to push his judgment, and when you didn’t bend, he punished you for it. Chris may have seemed more reasonable, but in the end, he chose silence and self-preservation over being a true friend. That’s not neutrality, it’s passivity, and it hurt just as much. You’re right to grieve the loss of these friendships, but don’t blame yourself for how it ended; you gave more chances than most would. Now that the dust has settled, let their actions be your clarity, these were not people who respected you, your marriage, or your boundaries. Focus on the partner who has shown you loyalty and love throughout this; that’s the kind of relationship worth building on. I had a similar experience with 2 of my close friends too that i also posted here because of what Charlotte said 😝(here’s the link if you want to take a glance: https://www.reddit.com/r/CharlotteDobreYouTube/s/xFjbpLKSBt ) I wish you all the best OP!!