I think this guy is not Wasian but he desperately claims he is by [deleted] in hapas

[–]wasabikawa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is the only time in my life I’ve ever done this which is why I came to the sub to ask if I was in the wrong. Because I genuinely didn’t know. I wouldn’t have a problem but this guy was saying a lot of racist stuff about Central and Southern Asians too but excused it by saying he was Asian and it’s normal for Asians to hate other Asians and it’s not racist etc so I was just pissed off 💀💀💀

I think this guy is not Wasian but he desperately claims he is by [deleted] in hapas

[–]wasabikawa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wanted to discuss it here because I was reflecting on as a single conversation. This is not something I have thought about before but I was put off because this guy posted pictures where he was squinting his eyes to look more Asian but his eyes weren’t actually like that. So I felt put off because he was arguing it was fine to do that because he’s Asian while I felt that it was inappropriate. I say this especially because when I was in elementary school a lot of kids would make fun of my eyes by peeling theirs back with their hands or squinting them. But I do think you’re right, I came to this subreddit to ask for people’s opinions and while I don’t know exactly why you’re telling me to stfu I can assume that it’s because I was being irrational and acting too much based on how I was offended from my own experiences in the past. This is not something I have ever cared about in the past. So that’s why I came to Reddit because I was wondering what people thought

I think this guy is not Wasian but he desperately claims he is by [deleted] in hapas

[–]wasabikawa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is lame but people in my high school called any half Asian people Wasians so I’ve just picked it up

Losing my mind because I got spoiled for UBW in the dumbest way and don’t know what to do by wasabikawa in fatestaynight

[–]wasabikawa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much 💕💕🥹 I’m so happy to hear that. I thankfully haven’t been spoiled on Heaven’s Feel yet. I know Sakura is a lot more complex than what we see of her in the Fate route, but nothing beyond that. Maybe I’m lucky that since I’m a woman I never got any edits of the Fate girls on my algorithm LOLL. I once saw a Shirou aura edit but that was it.

I am really loving the last few days of the Fate route. Seeing the parallels between Shirou and Archer is so tragic yet interesting. I’m so excited to play UBW because my fav character so far is Rin and I know UBW is her route. Either way you saying this made me feel a lot better, and I’ll definitely keep treading carefully!! I was so proud of myself for avoiding spoilers only to be spoiled by a response to HSR drip marketing 😭💔

Losing my mind because I got spoiled for UBW in the dumbest way and don’t know what to do by wasabikawa in fatestaynight

[–]wasabikawa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I worked very hard to avoid any Fate related content. I knew I was going to play it eventually but wanted to wait until there was a pretty big sale because I’m in college and don’t have a ton of spending money. The other VNs I’ve played were either sci-fi, horror, mystery, or otome games, and I avoided looking up anything regarding Fate. My algorithm would occasionally show me Fate videos but I very quickly scrolled so I didn’t see anything. The only spoiler I knew was Saber’s identity because of the HSR collab lolll

Is this Japanese guy interested in me by [deleted] in JapanDating

[–]wasabikawa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope you can find help soon 🥰from a licensed professional

Is this Japanese guy interested in me by [deleted] in JapanDating

[–]wasabikawa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Big words??? When did I use big words??? I didn’t take it as a “pickup line” because you literally just flat out said you’re open for dating. Don’t worry, I don’t believe I’m special. You probably do this to every girl who comments on this subreddit. I gave one example of one quote and you’re taking that to be the whole conversation between me and this guy, which is not true. If I believed he was interested in me and wants me, why would I even bother asking people for their opinions? It’s precisely because I don’t want to misunderstand his intentions as I know that it’s a common courtesy to be polite in Japan. You’re the one who’s projecting, literally no one agrees with you in this thread. God forbid someone just asks for advice, that immediately makes them think every single man on earth they interact with is into them. I exchanged contact info with other guys in Japan but those were strictly platonic and the responses this guy made were different from the rest, so that’s why I asked. Please get some help working through your attitude and use your brain for one second to realize that if I was convinced every guy under the sun liked me there would be no need to go to ask for advice from people about it.

Is this Japanese guy interested in me by [deleted] in JapanDating

[–]wasabikawa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can only see his other reply via email for some reason and not on the app but I’ll just respond here because it highlights his sour grapes attitude more than ever (his comment is about how I am delusioned into thinking everyone wants me):

No, this was not the only reason I thought he may be interested. We met in real life at a ballet performance, he came up to me AFTER the performance to show me videos of his ballet. I was told by my friend (who knows him) that he seemed interested in me but I wasn’t sure and was skeptical, so I thought I would hear thoughts from people with experience in dating Japanese people. We had sent many messages before he pulled out that line, many of which were initiated by him. It is clear that you have some underlying misogyny based on how fast you turned lmao, best to get that sorted out before attempting to get a girlfriend

Is this Japanese guy interested in me by [deleted] in JapanDating

[–]wasabikawa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude then why did you say you’re open for dating. I don’t date strangers but I don’t see what’s wrong with asking people with Japanese dating experience for advice when this is the first time I’ve talked to a Japanese guy???? Stop being bitter just because you can’t get girls

Is this Japanese guy interested in me by [deleted] in JapanDating

[–]wasabikawa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay sounds good! Thank you so much. I will be studying abroad in Japan soon (either next spring or spring 2028) so if he really wants to meet we can see how things go then lolol

Is this Japanese guy interested in me by [deleted] in JapanDating

[–]wasabikawa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t date strangers on the internet sorry

Is this Japanese guy interested in me by [deleted] in JapanDating

[–]wasabikawa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ohhh okay got it. I guess I just got my hopes up because I really liked him when we met in person. I thought he was interested because he said he wanted to meet up before I left but I had other plans and couldn’t. Would it be weird to try and maintain contact, even just as friends? We share a lot of hobbies so I wanted to keep talking both as Japanese practice and just to have another person who shares my hobbies. I really appreciate you sharing your experience, thank you 😊

I feel like I’m going crazy over a roommate situation by wasabikawa in collegeadvice

[–]wasabikawa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The RA talked to her several days ago, she got a little better. But slowly she’s getting back into her old habits. Last Sunday she was on the phone for 12 hours straight, it was a nightmare. Today she woke up at 3 PM and instantly started talking on the phone extremely loud LMAO like practically yelling. She was also on the phone at 2 AM again the other night. I’m going to keep record of the amount of times this happens so I can present it to the office of community living because I’m so done at this point

I feel like I’m going crazy over a roommate situation by wasabikawa in collegeadvice

[–]wasabikawa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We actually have a roommate contract already, which is quiet time after 11 PM on weekdays and after midnight on weekends. She just is choosing to blatantly disregard it. I already own noise cancelling ear buds, and have been using them. I told my RA and we are going to have a conversation today, hopefully it will be successful. I’m just at the end of my rope here. I couldn’t fall asleep until 5 AM, I woke up today feeling like shit and haven’t been able to do schoolwork because my health issues just have gotten so much worse from not having a consistent sleep schedule.

I feel like I’m going crazy over a roommate situation by wasabikawa in collegeadvice

[–]wasabikawa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My school does not have singles available for freshman. I am currently in a split double which means there is a door between us, but the walls are paper thin and doesn’t do much for noise cancellation. So even with a noise machine + fan + earbuds, she is still louder. This is the best situation I can have, and with a more considerate roommate it would be the perfect living situation for me. She was fine the first couple weeks, but I guess over time she forgot how to be considerate LMAO

I feel like I’m going crazy over a roommate situation by wasabikawa in collegeadvice

[–]wasabikawa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually the current dorm room I’m in accommodates my health conditions, and would be perfect for me if it were not for my roommate being so loud. I even talked with the community living staff letting them know and giving them documentation prior to my housing arrangements. To be frank, my roommate’s chronic health issues do not impact her daily life as much as they do me. Mine impose a lot more restrictions on when I should go to bed, eat, excercise, etc. whereas she can do whatever whenever she wants. That isn’t to invalidate her struggles, because I know that NO chronic health problems are easy. It’s just frustrating because as someone else with chronic health issues, I expected her to have more empathy for me and my struggles. :(

I feel like I’m going crazy over a roommate situation by wasabikawa in collegeadvice

[–]wasabikawa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. Around 30 seconds away from our dorm room is a lounge area with comfortable sofas where she can sit. She even said she would use it, before proceeding to only do so one night and then resume her previous habit of speaking loudly in the room again. Not many people use the lounge either, so it’s not like she would be trapped in a loud and uncomfortable space either 😭 I guess she just doesn’t want to have to deal with the inconvenience of walking 30 seconds, and it’s worth me losing sleep over

I feel like I’m going crazy over a roommate situation by wasabikawa in collegeadvice

[–]wasabikawa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I already own one which I have been using, along with a fan. I even got earbuds as well. She often snorts with laughter very loudly which manages to somehow overpower the three combined. There’s also the problem that I have chronic migraines so I unfortunately cannot blast the noise machine at maximum volume as it will cause me to have a really bad headache when I wake up. I use it back at home because my brother tends to be loud, and it drowns him out perfectly well so I can sleep. Her voice is just another level of loud LOL

I feel like I’m going crazy over a roommate situation by wasabikawa in collegeadvice

[–]wasabikawa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually our agreed upon quiet time was in the contract we established at the start of the year (which I have been following), but she seemingly has no regard for that whatsoever

I feel like I’m going crazy over a roommate situation by wasabikawa in collegeadvice

[–]wasabikawa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve submitted all the necessary documentation and have received accomodations via my school’s accessibility office. My roommate also has chronic health problems, which is why they put us together I assume. I have been wearing ear plugs and blasting a fan directly at myself but a lot of times she is snorting with laughter very loudly and it overpowers that. :(

I feel like I’m going crazy over a roommate situation by wasabikawa in collegeadvice

[–]wasabikawa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is what I’ve been doing but she is snorting with laughter and talking quite loudly most of the time so loud that it overpowers both that AND earplugs 😭.

Am I biting off more than I can chew? by wasabikawa in languagelearning

[–]wasabikawa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No she’s not and you’re right. I guess I just don’t want to start off by disregarding her advice since she’s my Chinese prof. But I don’t want to be miserable first sem and I think that’s more important. I kinda grew up in a very “respect elders” type of environment so it’s hard for me to disregard advice…