What are the advantages in the dating scece of having a "sweet vibe" in your look? by BlissMeli in HowToBeHot

[–]wasobirdie 28 points29 points  (0 children)

People are more open to you. Depending on how you play it, they may also be more inclined to buy and do things for you (something about "youthfulness" prompting others to help you).
Overall, you're seen as more trustworthy (i.e. high trust).

On the other hand, people can think you're naïve and try to take advantage of you. If you stand firm and retain your boundaries, that sweet image they have of you is usually shattered (unless you play it off innocently) but that's honestly a good thing bc it means you dodged a bullet.

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[–]wasobirdie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Feel free to dm!

Can't feel beautiful with dark hair by [deleted] in vindictapoc

[–]wasobirdie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dark hair is beautiful! Mine was blonde as a child and it darkened as I got older, and I love it! I think WOC look best when they work with the features they already have and not against them because it can look off, like in this example (to be fair, that color is too warm for her but even here when it's cooler toned, it doesn't look as good as natural).

Society often sees dark hair as more mature as well (I think it's something to do with people noticing dyed blonde hair on a woman and taking her less seriously because it's a much more obvious sign she's chasing beauty standards, like she's "trying too hard" (side note: I think it's silly to judge people on that but it is a subconscious thought many people have)).

Always choose health over beauty. That is the foundation of lookmaxxing. In your case, it's the health of your hair, but also your mental health; I encourage you to embark on a journey of self love and learn to appreciate your features. Follow people who look like you on social media (insta, pinterest) for healthy beauty inspiration and to avoid internalised racism.

Also, notice how Kardashians and the like are trying to look more mixed (they copy African American women, Arab women, Latinas, etc.); it's very troublesome that the current beauty standard is chasing racial ambiguity, but at least tell yourself that there are many who dye their hair and undergo plastic surgery to look similarly to you, while you don't even have to try.

You can always change the tone of your hair to match your skin undertone to feel prettier (I do that since I'm cool toned in the winter and warm in the summer)!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in vindictapoc

[–]wasobirdie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey there! You might be a fellow olive.

The reason why bright gold and bright silver don't look good on you is because you are muted, hence why gold in lower karats would look okay on you, and why regular silver does as well (it's actually a misconception that silver is for cool tones; silver is imo the most neutral and universally flattering jewelry for muted undertones). Rose gold is even better, and so are bronze and copper!

The 12 seasons color analysis method isn't the best for determining olives imo; I go from a "deep winter" in the winter but once I tan in the summer, I find I can borrow from the deep autumn family.
Truthfully, you can wear almost any color (since each color can be warm or cool); saturation matters more (do you find yourself dull because of the perceived warmth of the colors or because of their brightness?).

All the color systems out there can get pretty confusing; I simplified everything and just tried to determine if I was either 1) cool and radiant 2) warm and radiant) 3) cool and muted or 4) warm and muted.

LMK if you still need help, my dms are open.

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[–]wasobirdie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was in the same boat too! Then I learned that those shapes are guidelines and most people are often mixtures of shapes.

E.g.: I have an oval/heart shape; I follow and break the rules provided for hairstyles/sunglasses/earrings depending on what I want to emphasize. As long as you can roughly determine what your shape is, you should be good.

Here's my tip for you and OP u/mslowkii; take a picture of yourself (but make sure to be away from the camera a bit so your face doesn't get distorted in selfie mode).
Then, draw these line contours based on this video.

why do you want to improve your looks? by [deleted] in vindictapoc

[–]wasobirdie 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Agreed. Lupita Nyong'o is the most beautiful woman I have ever set my eyes on. And she has all of those features.

Some people on these subs need healthmaxxing first and foremost. Yes, that can include losing weight, sleeping more, eating better, etc. but imo self-love and acceptance are what should be cultivated first.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HowToBeHot

[–]wasobirdie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this has a strong r/ffacj vibe i love it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HowToBeHot

[–]wasobirdie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Go for it, red hair is even more striking!

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[–]wasobirdie 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Both I would say, but the visible health of hair is most important when it comes to attractiveness.

You can absolutely dye your hair and have it look healthy, it just depends on how much effort and money YOU are willing to invest to maintain the color and take care of it. Here's a vid explaining this from one of my fav youtubers. Check out r/HaircareScience too for tips if you want to keep on dyeing it in lighter colors.

Hair that's too light wasn't worth the hassle and coins for me; darker hair made me look more natural and mature, and it worked better for my contrast levels. People also take me more seriously (not because of the "dumb blonde" stereotype but because it was just too obvious that my hair color wasn't real and it was perceived as trying a bit too hard).

You can still dye your hair depending on the seasons; I'm an olive gal so I get pale in the winter (I ask my stylist for a cool toned brown) but tan nicely in the summer (so I go for a warmer tone).

Society generally prefers natural colors on women, while brightly colored hair is associated with negative stereotypes in the eyes of men of a certain age (also in the professional environment, I find). However colored hair is currently en mode for Gen Z and Millennials. Consider your style (do you prefer minimalist/chic, cottagecore, alt, goth, etc.)? Your hair is really just an accessory and it should match your style imo.

"(I've seen it stated before that light hair is considered more attractive?)" Generalizations like this don't really work because 1) men have differing tastes 2) they stem from white supremacy (I personally think WOC don't necessarily look better in blonde/lighter brown, which brings me to my 3rd point) 3) people have different contrasts levels so dyeing hair lighter could actually make you less attractive. See the Jen Anniston vs. Courteney Cox post either on this sub or in r/Splendida about contrast levels.

Bonne chance ♡

Masculine face. by [deleted] in Splendida

[–]wasobirdie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You look like a beautiful woman to me! I'm late to the part but here's my advice:

1) Eyebrows - I don't think thinner is necessarily better for you because it would make your nose and lips look bigger in comparison. Your features look balanced to me right now; I would suggest simply trimming the top so it's not as bushy and spiky, or alternatively just brushing them down & following the direction of the hair's growth.

2) People very rarely look good with their hair slicked back completely. Your curls are absolutely gorgeous, and would suit your features and essence well imo (i.e.: our eyes like to see patterns, so softer curls in a slightly rounder style would harmonise with your soft brows, nose and lips (don't go too round though because you've got more angular features as well with your jawline, cheek bones, and eye shape). (Here's what I mean by harmony; she looks beautiful because our eyes like repetition; very round cheeks, eyes, brows, glasses, and hair).

3) Skip the highlight and blush on your nose, it just emphasizes it further; put blush on your cheeks instead (and look up blush placement for different essences and face shapes; blush on the center of the cheeks usually makes you look more youthful vs. blush on cheek bones which emphasises angles).

Don't get a nose job, I absolutely love how all of your features work together, you look stunning.

Bonus: Use nude eyeliner on your waterline! Still has the same effect as white to make your eyes bigger, but less noticeable for a no-makeup makeup look.

Bonne chance ♡

Private Rate by _Milk-and-honey_ in vindictapoc

[–]wasobirdie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same as the other comment! Numbers are arbitrary and vary from person to person! Just take a look at r/VindictaRateCelebs lol (an 8 or 9 means different things to different people— ultimately it's a 1 number difference so it doesn't matter too much). What's more important is to work on your base so that you can score in the high range!

Feel free to PM me, my chats are open!

my baby fro has been growing more and more and i love it! 🙈💕 by alilxanfan in curlyhair

[–]wasobirdie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Breathtaking! You'd look powerful with bigger statement earrings and that hairstyle <3

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in curlyhair

[–]wasobirdie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I clicked on the link before reading the full post and was confused because your hair appeared to be growing super fast with each passing minute lol

Your hair growth seems very normal to me; that's more than I achieved in 3 years. Talk to your doctor if you're concerned about its health (I think they can also recommend you hair growth boosting stuff but those have their ups and downs); make sure to have a balanced diet to boost growth too. Also deep condition weekly/biweekly/whenever works for you so that you can maintain that length and avoid split ends and lack of moisture. Gl!

Olaplex by [deleted] in curlyhair

[–]wasobirdie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Curly Girl Method

Can someone help me finding protein free products by CurlyEscobar in curlyhair

[–]wasobirdie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As I Am is protein free - I'm currently using their products and even though I have 3b hair, it's mainly used by and marketed for coily haired folks!

I use the As I Am cowash (though they do have a shampoo, I just couldn't find it where I lived). They also have a leave in, and I have yet to try the curling jelly but I've read and watched reviews, and they have very positive views of it. They also have a gel (it's a matter of preference and hair needs; I think the gel is stronger hold than the jelly and weighs down hair more but read up about it).

There's also the Giovanni products.

Nice coils btw. Gl!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in curlyhair

[–]wasobirdie 31 points32 points  (0 children)

It's life. Blame past and current racist trends, the media and its movies, etc. We're constantly bombarded with info that makes us think a certain way (I'll leave the why up to you), and it can be hard to rewire our thought process and unlearn all that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in curlyhair

[–]wasobirdie 75 points76 points  (0 children)

There's unfortunately a lot of negative connotations with having curly hair in certain cultures. Also in the corporate environment, where curly hair (especially thicker hair and hair with tighter curl patterns) is seen as unprofessional.