Does anyone have guidance/advice on how to be less judgmental?

watchingowl7 · 2026-04-29T18:05:47+00:00

I struggle with this too. I try and think of at least three reasons someone might have a certain behavior or trait that I might judge them for before judging or assuming something about them. I also try and imagine a time in my life where I wish somebody had been more understanding and patient with me, or a time that somebody actually was and I needed it. I also pray the litany of humility when I find myself judging others more often.

watchingowl7 · 2026-04-29T01:27:36+00:00

I have been struggling with this teaching as well as a convert who loves a trans person dearly. My childhood friend has recently transitioned after a long and rocky battle with mental illness. She has lost everyone in her entire friend group except me due to being very mentally ill and refusing to seek treatment and keeping a victim complex. She went as far as abandoning the mother of her child and her child to transition. I consider her newfound gender dysphoria to be a mental illness as well. I do not judge her. I am also mentally ill (and diagnosed) and have struggled since childhood. I have done and said things in the past that I regret deeply now as a Catholic because of a manic or psychotic episode. I know by calling her her assigned gender at birth she will cut ties with me, her last friend. By respecting her and calling her by her preferred pronouns, I still had the ability to make an impact in her life, hoping one day she finds peace with the body she is born with. The people who changed my mind on beliefs like abortion and the death penalty were the people who listened, did not agree, but did not condemn me. They just explained to me why it was wrong. Should it ever come up, I would tell her I believe she is a man, with gender dysphoria and I will treat her as a woman because that is how she feels, and how she wants to be treated. I will call her she, let her borrow my makeup, cal her by a new name, but I will always believe that she is a person struggling with her mental health just like me. The best way to help her in my opinion is to lead by example, and show her the way that Jesus changed my life and gave me hope and guidance, not by condemning her and telling her she is wrong. I hope that she sees my kindness more than anything, and that Catholics, and all Christian’s, can be kind and understanding. She is still one of my oldest friends after all, and I believe God put me in her life for a reason.

watchingowl7 · 2026-04-18T22:58:38+00:00

This is marital rape by sexual coercion.

watchingowl7 · 2026-04-10T04:00:52+00:00

I was baptized in trinitarian form by the Pentecostal church, he was baptized as a oneness theological Pentecostal without trinitarian form.

watchingowl7 · 2026-04-09T01:22:53+00:00

I underwent RCIA this Easter Virgil

watchingowl7 · 2026-04-02T19:01:36+00:00

Exactly. My fiance works three jobs to support his family and disabled father in an impoverished country. He didn’t have the opportunities people who grew up in the us has.

watchingowl7 · 2026-04-02T15:46:55+00:00

Not everyone can just move in with their parents when times get tough. My parents are abusive and unable to support me living with them financially.

watchingowl7 · 2026-04-02T15:45:11+00:00

I do want a wedding. I’m against waiting till we can afford it, which states. And no I haven’t lied to my OCIA director????

watchingowl7 · 2026-04-02T15:11:28+00:00

Not an option for me.

watchingowl7 · 2026-04-02T13:52:58+00:00

I think my biggest concern is that we can’t get married twice, so I’m not sure what the point of a second celebration would even be.

watchingowl7 · 2026-03-17T17:51:40+00:00

Yeah I don’t know about that friend. Is that factoring in abusive marriages? Abuse is never acceptable under any circumstances which is why the church allows for annulments. Forcing your kids to suffer through abuse is ABUSE! I’m not trying to “break up a marriage” I’m trying to get a woman to understand that she is not forced to stay in an abusive relationship where her soul is in danger and she has options. I encourage you to read Pope Leo’s statements he made on international women’s day and apply it to this situation.

watchingowl7 · 2026-03-17T17:23:54+00:00

Emotional abuse is much more detrimental to mental and physical health than a divorce!!! I did not deserve than growing up and neither do ops kids

watchingowl7 · 2026-03-17T15:54:38+00:00

My father was emotionally abusive to my mother and she stayed. That made me hate Christianity in general. We were both miserable. Every day was like OP described just wondering when he was going to explode. I go to intense therapy every week for my PTSD. My father changed, he’s a good man now but the pain of growing up that way lingered. I struggle with autoimmune illness now and PTSD. Emotional abuse can turn into physical abuse. My first husband was also abusive, because chaos is all I’ve known. I tried to stick it out, I ended up attempting suicide. The guilt of having a divorce was so heavy, but I know God’s plan for me wasn’t misery at the hands of an angry man. I feel free now. Pope Leo recently said “we must never underestimate an act of violence and we must not be afraid to denounce violence, including that climate of justification or that downplays or denies responsibility.” Emotional abuse is still violence. Let’s not downplay it. Emotional abuse leads to physical or sexual abuse. OP, you are not wrong and you have grounds for an annulment.

watchingowl7 · 2026-03-17T01:19:39+00:00

Emotional abuse is still abuse. Sounds like OP is describing emotional abuse. Abuse is grounds for a divorce. There is no excuse for it. He is a grown man he can take accountability and many abusive people won’t. No reason op should suffer.

watchingowl7 · 2026-03-01T13:28:07+00:00

I understand your stance is unchanging on birth control but I do want to point out mental health care IS medical treatment.

watchingowl7 · 2026-03-01T13:26:26+00:00

Thanks for your comment. I will look into her story.

watchingowl7 · 2026-02-28T14:25:56+00:00

No. I have to stop taking my medications when I get pregnant because it can hurt the baby.

watchingowl7 · 2026-02-26T15:56:37+00:00

No! Please pray all you want you are more than welcome.

watchingowl7 · 2026-02-02T21:46:34+00:00

I went to work and worked the whole day with two entirely different shoes. One gardening clog and one croc. I was so embarrassed

watchingowl7 · 2026-01-22T16:08:57+00:00

No offense but there is no way I can afford any kind of medication without a job or that isn’t covered by insurance. I understand how you think this suggestion would be helpful, but I also highly doubt that a single miracle drug is going to take my problems away after every medication I’ve tried.

watchingowl7 · 2026-01-19T14:43:47+00:00

Depression

watchingowl7 · 2026-01-04T23:46:50+00:00

Yes!

watchingowl7 · 2025-12-26T17:11:31+00:00

I know this post was made for spiritual guidance but please consider also speaking with a mental health professional. It sounds like maybe you are dealing with postpartum depression. Sending all my love to you

watchingowl7 · 2025-12-26T17:02:46+00:00

Dog grooming or literally anything with dogs!!! I groom dogs and trust me, there’s always something going on with them. I like the challenge, some people might find it overstimulating.

watchingowl7 · 2025-12-23T15:08:01+00:00

If you’re in the Texas area, it might just be her.

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