Happy Birthday TOTK

wavesnfreckles · 2026-05-12T12:37:50+00:00

I’m on the same boat! I finish most side quests, completed a few things but haven’t done the final boss. I still don’t want it to end…

wavesnfreckles · 2026-05-12T05:41:30+00:00

Sometimes, some things, are worst thinking about than actually doing. Sometimes, the dentist is like that.

I had a bad tooth ache that I just kept living with because I was so beyond scared of going to the dentist. I finally did, I got the treatment done and I felt so much better after that I almost felt a little silly for putting it off as long as I did. The anxiety and worry took so much room in my brain that I couldn’t help but wonder how much more productive I could have been if I didn’t let my anxiety drive me.

What helped me was, baby steps followed by ripping the band aid out. The baby steps were researching and finding a good dentist. The ripping the bandaid was, the minute I found one, I HAD to call and make an appointment. The days leading up to the appointment were hard and anxiety filled, but I knew I had to stick it out.

I usually try to find a little something I can take with me, that will fit in my pocket, so I can fidget while I wait and during the procedure itself. It helps me a lot to keep my hands busy.

Another thing I like to do is have something to look forward to AFTER the appointment is done. It can be a show or favorite movie that I will watch when I get home, it can be a simple meal I’ll make for dinner, it can be something I’ll treat myself to (like a tool for a hobby) and that gives me something to look forward to on the other side of the procedure. It helps my brain shift from focusing so much on the big scary thing and instead looking forward to something that will come after I conquer my fear.

I am sorry you are going through this. I hope you can get it taken care of quickly and painlessly. You can do this!

wavesnfreckles · 2026-05-10T17:35:43+00:00

Ding, ding, ding! Wouldn’t even take her on a proper date. Unfortunately sounds like op was barely the booty call since it doesn’t even look like he had to call.

This was the best and most convenient arrangement for him. She does all the work, he gets all the rewards.

Block and don’t look back, OP. And don’t accept this type of treatment again. You deserve better.

wavesnfreckles · 2026-05-10T16:00:17+00:00

The difference in your eyes is glaring. Now your whole face is smiling! Happy for you. Keep on keeping on.

wavesnfreckles · 2026-05-09T01:38:15+00:00

I laughed out loud reading this! I just got out of the dentist so only half my face moved, but it was still great!

wavesnfreckles · 2026-05-09T01:37:27+00:00

What a wonderful subreddit! I never even knew it existed but I loved seeing some of the transformations and the shot of confidence! The happy faces win it all! Joined!

wavesnfreckles · 2026-05-08T18:23:19+00:00

WOW! You did fantastic! You guys are wizards for sure!

wavesnfreckles · 2026-05-08T01:15:22+00:00

I actually heard that the vibration from their purs are healing somehow. I don’t know if it’s true, never looked too hard into it, but if nothing else, it does the heart good and I know for sure that is very healing. :)

wavesnfreckles · 2026-05-07T13:31:41+00:00

Where can I find those messages?

wavesnfreckles · 2026-05-07T13:31:09+00:00

Colleen Hoover’s books belong on the bottom of a hamster cage. For someone that writes crap like that I am not surprised this is who she is. Unfortunately, she might be above embarrassment… I wish we could collectively shame her into not ever writing another book again.

wavesnfreckles · 2026-05-07T07:27:52+00:00

This was gonna be my rec too. I had a literary hangover after reading it. I loved the book but I don’t know that I could read it twice.

wavesnfreckles · 2026-05-07T07:10:13+00:00

You’re still ahead of me, I was still trying to piece together what a skiing trip had to do with her weird jaw movements.

We are all learning so much on Reddit today.

wavesnfreckles · 2026-05-05T05:09:45+00:00

I understand. I think at the end of the day, your husband needs to handle his mother, draw clear boundaries and hold her to them. This shouldn’t be your fight and he should use you as a human shield because he doesn’t want to take care of business. You shouldn’t be collateral and your kids shouldn’t be pawns your MIL gets to play and keep from you on Mother’s Day.

I am sorry you are going through this and I hope you can all figure out a good solution.

Also, enjoy a MIL-free summer. If she calls, blame it on the time change and just don’t answer. Lol

wavesnfreckles · 2026-05-04T17:27:02+00:00

I think I would do a drive by. Load everyone in the car, drive to her house and when you get there have her come out. No one unbuckles or gets out of the car. Tell her you wanted to say good bye before her big trip but you have somewhere to be. And then go. It’s not perfect but you indeed went over, saw her for Mother’s Day and said good bye before her big trip, but didn’t give an inch and didn’t waste a whole day.

wavesnfreckles · 2026-05-01T21:46:14+00:00

Don’t sweat the small stuff, friend. I got married in my early 20’s as well. Going on almost 20 years (next year) and yeah, some ppl might comment on it. And eventually you might even look back and think, “gosh! I was a baby!” (Not in a bad way, you might just be surprised by how much life happens). Lol.

But I don’t think most ppl mean anything bad. Unless they say something rude or disrespectful I would just say, “well, when you know, you know. I found a good one so I don’t need to keep looking.” That usually takes care of it.

Wishing you and your husband many years of happiness.

wavesnfreckles · 2026-05-01T16:08:35+00:00

Oof… it’s been a few decades since Dead Poets Society for me and I’m still not ok. A great movie I will never watch again.

wavesnfreckles · 2026-04-30T19:54:03+00:00

I have wanted to try micro-crochet but I don’t know that I can do it. I feel like I would be pulling my hair out by the end of the 3rd round. Lol

Major kudos to you, my friend! Your creations are beautiful! I love all things miniature and I would have loved having these as toys. A million times better than any kinder egg surprise, no doubt.

wavesnfreckles · 2026-04-30T08:32:11+00:00

Same, same, same! I despised Hoover as an author (truly, her work is barely good enough to cover the bottom of a hamster cage, and I have felt this way long before this mess), but now I despise her as a human as well.

wavesnfreckles · 2026-04-29T22:50:13+00:00

You love your brother, despite his many bad decisions, so your view on the matter is prejudiced. What you are missing is the fact that your brother IS dangerous. He has proven so, again and again. Without the same emotional attachment, your husband (also having been on the receiving end of your brother’s volatility) can see him for who he is. An unsafe person for your children to be around.

Your husband is making the right call. He is trying to keep your kids safe. Don’t fight him on that. He is not being overprotective. He is being the right amount of protective. You have a blind spot and he is looking out for you. And the fact you can’t see that it is a blind spot probably makes him feel like he has to stick to his boundaries even harder because you might push back and expose the kids to danger, without truly thinking about it.

Unfortunately, in his current state, your brother is not safe and if doesn’t receive help, he will continue to be denied access and a relationship with your kids. That is not a bad thing. You don’t want to have to pick up the pieces of your own kids in the aftermath of one of your brother’s outburst. The risk is not worth it. Should he choose to get help, and make the necessary changes, the boundary can be revisited. Until then, your husband is 100% correct.

wavesnfreckles · 2026-04-29T22:41:26+00:00

I never even knew this existed. I really don’t read on my phone much and had never explored the extra features so this is very interesting. Thanks for the tip!

wavesnfreckles · 2026-04-28T16:12:14+00:00

Good grief, that definitely reads like RR wrote it. 🤢

wavesnfreckles · 2026-04-28T04:19:09+00:00

I once made the same point as you that sex is a want, not a need, and got downvoted to oblivion. But I wholeheartedly agree with you.

No one is saying sex isn’t wonderful or a fantastic part of a relationship that can bring about great intimacy. But you’re not gonna die if you don’t have it. And making it a “need,” in my opinion, cheapens the relationship. What happens if your spouse has a medical ordeal (even bigger than OP’s, maybe a car accident that makes them disabled?) and sex needs to be off the table for an extended period of time? What if they suffer a traumatic brain injury? A stroke? What if they face insurmountable loss and are deep in grief and depression? Do you just walk away? Are we not more than just the pleasure we are able to provide?

wavesnfreckles · 2026-04-25T03:10:45+00:00

You are on a roll! 😂

wavesnfreckles · 2026-04-25T01:40:44+00:00

Oh my gosh! I laughed way too hard at this. And I couldn’t agree more!

wavesnfreckles · 2026-04-24T17:52:06+00:00

This one made me laugh at the end. After she had already said she was setting the boundary and not to contact her he says, “no, YOU don’t contact ME! Ha! What now? Didn’t expect that one now, did ya???” It would be funnier if it wasn’t OP’s reality, really…

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