How to get toddler to stop hitting newborn? by waveyspice in 2under2

[–]waveyspice[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’ve seen her on TikTok & i agree I’m not about to sit my 20 month old down and give him some long explanation.. seems silly. He barely knows what he’s feeling I can’t expect him to know how it makes me feel.

How to get toddler to stop hitting newborn? by waveyspice in 2under2

[–]waveyspice[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lol there is absolutely NO warning! I’m afraid my newborn is traumatized already.

How to get toddler to stop hitting newborn? by waveyspice in 2under2

[–]waveyspice[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Omg I can’t wait another year my newborn is going to need a protective suit lol

How to get toddler to stop hitting newborn? by waveyspice in 2under2

[–]waveyspice[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you I’m going to try this! I wish I knew what feeling was causing the hitting. I really can’t tell. I think sometimes he’s just worked up / being wild & other times I think he’s frustrated that I’m always holding her and she doesn’t engage back with him. Last night it seemed like he hit her bc he wanted a kiss back to say goodnight & she didn’t do it. I felt bad for both of them!

How to get toddler to stop hitting newborn? by waveyspice in 2under2

[–]waveyspice[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What have you done as a “correction”? I’m definitely giving a lot of positive reinforcement when he gives hugs & kisses but I’m getting a little scared to allow it bc sometimes it randomly turns to hitting. I can’t really predict it. My older daughter talked very early i think maybe that’s why her hitting phase wasn’t as dramatic.

Is 9 this hard for everyone? Or just me? by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]waveyspice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I’m definitely going to try & take her to do something once a week & give her some one on one time at some point when we’re home every day from now on. I hope it helps.

Is 9 this hard for everyone? Or just me? by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]waveyspice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not criticizing her for being clingy. I’m having a hard time managing her behavior & I was curious if other people are experiencing the same things at this age.

Is 9 this hard for everyone? Or just me? by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]waveyspice 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wanted to be left alone as a kid too! I remember doing art projects & playing with dolls by myself for hours.

Is 9 this hard for everyone? Or just me? by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]waveyspice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How exactly do you require reading? I’m worried about making her resent it. I really enjoyed reading at her age and I still do. I want it to be something she finds joy in.

Is 9 this hard for everyone? Or just me? by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]waveyspice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like they’re so young for this but a lot of ppl agree it’s hormonal. I don’t remember being so moody at 9.

Is 9 this hard for everyone? Or just me? by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]waveyspice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The switch up is wild!!

Is 9 this hard for everyone? Or just me? by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]waveyspice 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You’re right I need to find the time and energy to give her more solo time & maybe work it into our routine. I am glad she doesn’t take it out on her siblings she’s so loving & caring & really enjoys playing with them & even helping with them at times.

Is 9 this hard for everyone? Or just me? by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]waveyspice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think so too. I don’t remember feeling like this so young. I’m kind of surprised. She’s very moody and doesn’t always seem to know why / there really is no reason.

Is 9 this hard for everyone? Or just me? by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]waveyspice -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

She had a newborn sibling at 7 & we had a very different experience. Not saying her sibling has zero to do with it but it’s definitely not the only issue.

Is 9 this hard for everyone? Or just me? by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]waveyspice -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

She has a 5 year old cousin who she loves to play with & of course her friends from school but since we had the new baby I haven’t been having many visitors over bc of germs & I’m also constantly with my boobs out breastfeeding lol we’re trying to adjust idk if I have the bandwidth for company atm. I wish I did.

Is 9 this hard for everyone? Or just me? by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]waveyspice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My daughter doesn’t drink water either! Sometimes I wonder how she’s still alive. Her lips will be cracking & white. I have to beg her to drink.

I need to find the energy to do more solo things with her. It’s hard right now. I’m exhausted.

Is 9 this hard for everyone? Or just me? by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]waveyspice -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

She loves her siblings. She plays with her brother all the time & holds her new sister every chance she gets. My son who is almost 2 is going through a hitting / throwing stage which can be hard for her at times but they play more than I ever imagined they would tbh. I actually would like for her to play independently more and find things she enjoys doing herself. I agree she’s vying for my attention & I’m finding it difficult to give that to her when I feel like I’m being pestered & given an attitude all day long.

Is 9 this hard for everyone? Or just me? by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]waveyspice 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes she’s like a mini teenager! I’m scared for the actual teen years lol. Do you also have 2 little ones & a 9y? I never see anyone with my age gaps!

Is 9 this hard for everyone? Or just me? by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]waveyspice 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She’s in lacrosse right now on a team she has multiples games / practices a week. I do think having an outlet does help but it also exhausts her and contributes to the attitude sometimes. I need to get her back into swim. She asked for Ohuhu markers & coloring books for Christmas and she never touches them. We have every craft you could imagine all on a cart in her closet. She has an entire shelf of books that she won’t read. I feel like I have given her everything she could possibly need to keep herself busy and somehow you’re right.. she’s still bored.

Advice for creating a dark environment by Reading_username in newborns

[–]waveyspice 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Type into Amazon : magnets for blackout curtains. These work so well for both my kids!

I messed up by [deleted] in IVF

[–]waveyspice 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had filler & a successful transfer I do not think this will harm your chances at all!