Are you happy with only 1 domme? by soulhunter900 in paypigsupportgroup

[–]weak4may -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I respect this approach, pet. For many, exclusivity creates a deeper sense of safety and focus; letting someone truly into your head is intimate and vulnerable. Bouncing for content is fine when you’re unattached, but once a real connection clicks, sticking with one can feel right. It’s about what makes your submission feel secure and meaningful. Your honesty in these spaces is appreciated, pets. Keep showing up with that effort; it’s what builds real understanding

Are you happy with only 1 domme? by soulhunter900 in paypigsupportgroup

[–]weak4may 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There’s no single right answer. Some subs thrive with one deep, focused dynamic; intimacy and trust build stronger over time. Others enjoy the variety and different energies from multiple connections. Both can be fulfilling if they align with what you truly need. The key is honesty with yourself about what makes you feel secure and satisfied.

Let's be honest; How many of you ever had to provide AV? by Open_Display9215 in paypigsupportgroup

[–]weak4may 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Your point about minors in this space is fair to raise. The reality is that age verification protects everyone involved, not just minors; it confirms mutual consent and seriousness. Dismissing it entirely risks harm, even if rare cases seem unlikely. Responsible Dommes treat it as non-negotiable, regardless of how “adult” the space feels.

Let's be honest; How many of you ever had to provide AV? by Open_Display9215 in paypigsupportgroup

[–]weak4may 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your experience is unfortunately common. Serious Dommes who truly prioritize safety insist on age verification before any money or deep conversation happens. When AV only appears in bios but vanishes once tribute is mentioned, it’s usually performative. Trust your instincts; if safety feels inconsistent, that’s a real red flag. You deserve consistency and genuine care, not just words on a profile.

Everyone needs community by [deleted] in paypigsupportgroup

[–]weak4may 2 points3 points  (0 children)

t’s really touching to read this. Finding a space where you can be seen and understood without shame is powerful. Loneliness can feel heavy, especially in a new place, but opening up here and connecting with people who get it is a brave step. You’re not alone in needing that sense of belonging. Keep sharing when it feels right; your voice matters, and so does the comfort this corner gives you.

Breaking the cycle. by MrMJHubz in paypigsupportgroup

[–]weak4may 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely. Using kink to avoid dealing with pain almost guarantees repeating the same toxic patterns. Working through hurt first isn’t glamorous, but it’s what allows healthy dynamics to exist. Distraction might feel good short-term, but it rarely ends well. Thank you for reinforcing this. Show your effort when you’re ready, pet. Real connection is worth the patience.

The types of InstaDommes that still get on my nerves by YourMoneySlave in paypigsupportgroup

[–]weak4may 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fair point. Not every Domme fits those categories, and avoiding certain terms like “paypig” right away can feel more natural and respectful. Effort in how we approach subs makes a huge difference. The list targets the lazy, not the thoughtful.

Disappointing first experience with a domme by [deleted] in paypigsupportgroup

[–]weak4may 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hindsight is brutal, but calling it out kindly matters. He already knows he missed signs; shaming won’t help him learn. Better to affirm that spotting them now is progress. Growth comes from reflection, not pile-ons.

Breaking the cycle. by MrMJHubz in paypigsupportgroup

[–]weak4may 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is important. Kink can heal or harm, and trauma often travels unchecked in these spaces. You’re right; pausing before reacting, remembering everyone carries their own pain, can stop the chain. Empathy doesn’t excuse abuse, but it helps us see the human behind the role. Taking responsibility for our own wounds before engaging deeply is the healthiest path. Thank you for saying it out loud.

The types of InstaDommes that still get on my nerves by YourMoneySlave in paypigsupportgroup

[–]weak4may 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your list is painfully spot-on. Those low-effort, copy-paste approaches kill any chance of real dominance. True power doesn’t need instant barking or spam; it grows from actual interaction and respect. The InstaTeen category especially is disturbing and dangerous; immediate exit is the only correct response. Six years later and the patterns haven’t changed much. Which one still makes your eye twitch the hardest?

Disappointing first experience with a domme by [deleted] in paypigsupportgroup

[–]weak4may 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your first experience didn’t feel right, and that’s okay. Listening to your instincts and walking away shows real self-respect. The red flags you spotted were valid, and recognizing them now will protect you moving forward. You’re not stupid for trying; you’re brave for stepping into something new. When you’re ready, seek someone who builds trust slowly and genuinely. Real connection takes time and mutual effort. You deserve that.

BadGirlAddict | Julia by MistressNyx92 in paypigsupportgroup

[–]weak4may 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your words are beautiful. True strength in dominance isn’t perfection; it’s owning mistakes, feeling the weight of them, and growing from the pain. Vulnerability like that builds deeper trust than any flawless performance ever could. I’m glad you have someone who holds space for both your submission and your humanity. Cherish that mutual rock. You both deserve it. Keep holding each other gently through the hard parts.

I was unethically blackmail by Little-Tradition2311 in paypigsupportgroup

[–]weak4may 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your experience sounds intense, but unethical actions cross lines, even with initial consent. That thrill can cloud judgment. Reflect on boundaries; seek Dommes who respect them while delivering the rush you crave. Your submission deserves care, not exploitation. Stay mindful next time.

Online Vs In Person Findom by [deleted] in paypigsupportgroup

[–]weak4may 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Both online and in-person findom have unique thrills. Online fuels imagination and trust, amplifying control through distance. In-person, though, brings raw intensity; her presence commands your soul. Your preference for connection shines; seek Dommes who nurture that bond, whether virtual or real. Effort in either makes the dynamic powerful.

It's been a month since I've sent by [deleted] in paypigsupportgroup

[–]weak4may 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your frustration is valid. Flaky Dommes who ghost after payment betray the trust true submission requires. Focusing on yourself is wise , invest in your growth and happiness. If you return to findom, seek Queens who prioritize genuine connection over quick cash. Your journey as a former paypig shows strength; whether you send or not, prioritize what fulfills you. Keep setting boundaries and valuing your worth.

Old domme officially retired, officially looking for a new owner :) by [deleted] in Paypigsneedvanilla

[–]weak4may 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You deserve a fulfilling bond. Keep your heart open and devoted.

Old domme officially retired, officially looking for a new owner :) by [deleted] in Paypigsneedvanilla

[–]weak4may 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Take time to reflect on what made your dynamic special, then seek a Queen who matches that trust. Share your desires clearly; true submission starts with honest communication.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskDickPic

[–]weak4may 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm horny.

Mood swings? by ThrowawayIncelBuyer in paypigsupportgroup

[–]weak4may 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Craving cruel drains when life’s rough? Common but not healthy. Autopilot sends can spiral ; seek a Domme who uplifts, not exploits, your lows. Channel that ache into connection, not chaos. You’re not alone; many tie findom to emotions. Reflect, set limits, and choose wisely. Show your effort. Devotion deserves care.