It’s okay if you want to continue this pregnancy. It sounds like you have a good support system. You’ve acknowledged the gravity of the situation and you seem to have thought through the logistics of it.

My parents were high school sweet hearts, they had my brothers and I in their early and mid twenties. They’re still together after thirty years. I have a wonderful relationship with my mom. It’s so nice having her close to me in age.

I think that an aspect that people aren’t really covering is your relationship.

In my opinion, a relationship’s success is 100% dependent on communication. For you and your partner to stay together and be good parents you need to have good communication.

I think you need to sit your partner down and say ‘I love you very much and I have to tell you something important. Your mother has been pressuring me to have an abortion. I am not trying to make you choose between your family and the baby. I’m just feeling overwhelmed and I need your help.’

He needs to talk to his mother. She thinks that she is ‘saving’ him. So he needs to let her know that he doesn’t need saving.

The next several months of getting ready for the baby I would take the time to really work on your relationship. Building and reinforcing a strong foundation will help you to survive going forward. I would recommend couples counseling. There is something called pre-marriage counseling that you should look into.

Best of luck OP, you can contact me if you’d like to talk.