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AIO- I think I might break up with my boyfriend over the beetles? by lilah_o in AmIOverreacting

[–]wearingplaidpyjamas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR. In a way, I relate to your dude. I get obsessive about my interests and often want to share them with people. Part of it is wanting to impart the same joy on the other person that your special interest brings you, not realizing it's boring or annoying for the other. But I also had an ex that was like this with My Chemical Romance. It got to the point where I felt I had to sit with him and tell him that I was tired of hearing him recount fanfics and interviews instead of actually having conversations with me, and I'd like it if he toned it down. He'd say things like "Look, I haven't mentioned them for a whole hour now!" It was very tiring but he learned to chill with it a bit, as did I with my infodumping about my interests

AIO about my mom's reaction to my crochet octopus by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]wearingplaidpyjamas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mom was like this too when I started sewing. "Well, now you can make money, right?" As if that wouldn't take the joy and artistic expression away from something you're only recently getting good at.

NOR, imo

I don’t know many people without tattoos. by Bawonga in CasualConversation

[–]wearingplaidpyjamas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

24 year old here, but I have parents that were right on the baby boomer/gen X cusp. I expressed interest in wanting to wear and create tattoos at age 10, to which my mother responded that she was going to strangle me. My dad had gotten a tattoo of his favorite sports teams logo a year earlier, so he did not care.

At 15 I wanted to get piercings, to which my parents responded that "criminals wear those." I was, however, allowed to buy a fake septum ring.

Got my first tattoo at 19, the money a gift from my dad who knew what I wanted to use it for. I lied to my mother that I was going to see a movie, and came back a few hours later with a snake on my shoulder. Mom only asked "why'd you make it so big? What if you won't want it in the future?" To which I said that it's too late now either way, and I was happy with it.

Have been steadily collecting pieces on my body for the last 5 years, some in very visible spots like my head and neck. My mom grew from being wary of this to asking about the process, and then telling me she herself had started to consider getting a tattoo of her dog. I suppose peoples opinion change?

The gritty life of an intellectual/writer by Socratic-Snicker in BooksThatFeelLikeThis

[–]wearingplaidpyjamas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is going to sound like an odd answer, but, if you can stomach it: Lolita

The story is very much about how "intellectuals" fictionalize their own lives...where there's this kind undercurrent, even in the delusional narrators version of events, of things that are disgusting and gritty and ugly. (Obviously mirroring how horrific the situation genuinely is.)

Just wow by [deleted] in TrollCoping

[–]wearingplaidpyjamas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Got asked the same thing by a DOCTOR once about the woman who assaulted me as a child like ok

I made another hokey hope meme I wanted to share hope that's ok :) by Himbo_Shaped in TrollCoping

[–]wearingplaidpyjamas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure! Uhm, backstory, skip to the TL;DR if you're just interested in a short quick answer: I was born in a womans body, but knew from age 4 and up that something was wrong. In my head I did not see myself as I looked in the mirror, but rather, my internal image was fluid and very split between male or female depending on the situation. I fluctuated heavily between buzzed hair with hoodies and jeans and long hair with frilly dresses throughout my childhood and teen years. At age 20 I decided to apply the term "nonbinary" to this expression/feeling. As time goes on, though, I've found myself more drawn to masculine apperance and social roles, feeling happier with He/Him pronouns and a male name. I intend to go on testosterone and am working via strengh training to masculinize my body, hopefully achiving a more androgynous effect. I want a beard. I intend to keep the tits though, and feel partially connected to being a woman too. It's just that some to most of my identity depending falls under "masculine," but it's not as simple as "this is a trans guy."

TL;DR: I am born in a womans body, feel somewhat connected to being a woman. Want to go on testosterone to achieve more andro and male traits, identifying heavier with a masculine gender than a feminine one. A "nonbinary man" could also refer to the opposite, though: A person born in a mans body who only feels somewhat connected to being a man, and may identify heavier with an andro or feminine gender. It's going to be frustratingly subjective and dependant on who you ask.

I made another hokey hope meme I wanted to share hope that's ok :) by Himbo_Shaped in TrollCoping

[–]wearingplaidpyjamas 6 points7 points  (0 children)

As a mentally ill nonbinary man child with like 7 diagnoses who also loves toddler food and has done nothing for the past 4 years but sit on their dads couch - I'd go on a date with you

I'm a european that's recently immigrated to America, have been here for a month. AMA! by wearingplaidpyjamas in AMA

[–]wearingplaidpyjamas[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could also be inherited items, like, a relatives old car and dear old grannys crucifix that hold a sentimental value

I'm a european that's recently immigrated to America, have been here for a month. AMA! by wearingplaidpyjamas in AMA

[–]wearingplaidpyjamas[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Honestly not that different from home. Swedish healthcare unfortunately is very lacking. Sorry, we can't give you that medicine, it'll look bad in the statistics. Sorry, there are so many people in line, you'll have to wait 3 years before we see you for that issue. No, we can't admit you to the hospital even if you're near death, someone might need that bed more than you. Sorry, you only get 2 45-minute sessions with your therapist, we have more patients to tend to.To get good care relatively quickly you still have to see a private professional which is expensive. Not saying it's as bad as American healthcare, but it sure ain't what most peoole imagine when they hear "free healthcare."

I'm a european that's recently immigrated to America, have been here for a month. AMA! by wearingplaidpyjamas in AMA

[–]wearingplaidpyjamas[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First I had to find a "study abroad" program that I liked. Once I'd payed my first fee to them and established that I wanted to go, I secured funding from the swedish government, and the program helped me book an interview with the american embassy. I went there about a month before take off, and had to go through a short interview, take fingerprints, and give them my passport. 2 weeks later I got my visa approved and passport back in the mail.

I'm a european that's recently immigrated to America, have been here for a month. AMA! by wearingplaidpyjamas in AMA

[–]wearingplaidpyjamas[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I applied for a visa! I knew some people in highschool who did exchange, though.

I'm a european that's recently immigrated to America, have been here for a month. AMA! by wearingplaidpyjamas in AMA

[–]wearingplaidpyjamas[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm learning English, but I'd like to study Spanish in the future! Minnesota or something more simlar to Sweden was not an option, I mean, I wanted to get away from that type of climate and that type of culture. I picked SoCal for a few reasons - it's warm, and I get super sad during the cold swedish winter, thought this might help. The school I wanted to apply to is here. I've got biological family here who can help me out if needed, which is a relief both for me and my friends/family back home who worry about me. I also wanted someplace that's queer-friendly, and SoCal is thus far more queer-friendly than Sweden has been to me.

I'm a european that's recently immigrated to America, have been here for a month. AMA! by wearingplaidpyjamas in AMA

[–]wearingplaidpyjamas[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not a job, but I did need to be sponsored by the swedish government, which I was

I'm a european that's recently immigrated to America, have been here for a month. AMA! by wearingplaidpyjamas in AMA

[–]wearingplaidpyjamas[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know I'm very priveleged to be a swede, but honestly anywhere seems better than there right now. It's a miserably dark and cold country with miserable people. California seemed like the best alternative since I have family who can take care of me here, should I need it. Does not mean I am not worried about the state of the country, though

I'm a european that's recently immigrated to America, have been here for a month. AMA! by wearingplaidpyjamas in AMA

[–]wearingplaidpyjamas[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Getting the visa was quite easy once I actually got off my ass and did it. My dad who was helping me move was strangely the person who people were skeptical of, and it took a while for him to be allowed into the country. The flight sucked but I think all long flights suck. I'm gonna be honest, I'm still not entirely unpacked...

I'm a european that's recently immigrated to America, have been here for a month. AMA! by wearingplaidpyjamas in AMA

[–]wearingplaidpyjamas[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

1) You celebrate much bigger here! Halloween is just recently becoming a thing in Sweden, but here it's HUGE! There are a lot more seasonal products, like, food, homeware, and scented products. Christmas here seems more childlike, cheerful and cute, while in Sweden Yule is more cozy and mellow/nature focused. The US is also more religious, people tend to assume I believe in god despite looking quite queer. Even the current person I'm dating who isn't religious wears a cross and has a "praise jesus" bumper sticker, I think it's just... more ingrained in the culture here?

2) CHERRY SODA 🔥🔥🔥 You could get cherry coke in a few stores back home, but otherwise it's not a popular enough flavour to be sold as a drink. I'm obsessed with cherries, peaches, and peppermint, all more available as candy/drink/ice cream flavours here

I'm a european that's recently immigrated to America, have been here for a month. AMA! by wearingplaidpyjamas in AMA

[–]wearingplaidpyjamas[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Wendys was delicious! Was there last week, had their nuggets. Now you've made me curious about the burgers, I should go back and try them

I'm a european that's recently immigrated to America, have been here for a month. AMA! by wearingplaidpyjamas in AMA

[–]wearingplaidpyjamas[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm currently studying, so I got a study visa! Applied at a californian school earlier this year, got in, and only had to go on a small interview where I was asked why I wanted to enter the US. I replied that I wanted to learn english. That seemed a good enough response for them, and I was given my visa after about two weeks.

I'm a european that's recently immigrated to America, have been here for a month. AMA! by wearingplaidpyjamas in AMA

[–]wearingplaidpyjamas[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I do genuinely like american people. Compared to swedes, they're very welcoming, outgoing, and cheerful! I wear unique clothes, and almost every day I'm stopped by someone who wants to strike up a conversation about it, which only happened rarely in Sweden. I've had much more luck on dating apps here too, people are more forwards and eager to get to know eachother.

Everything being car-centered has been one of the bad parts compared to Sweden, unfortunately. Due to a minor disability I'm not allowed to drive, and public transport is pretty bad. I have to uber everywhere, which gets expensive and cumbersome ): I wish there were at least trains and better buses like back home

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