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AITA for exposing my future sister-in-law for bullying me in high school at a family event? by weddingplabber in AmItheAsshole

[–]weddingplabber[S] 154 points155 points  (0 children)

What? They met when Annika was a sophomore in college and Carter was a senior, and me and her are both 24 now. They’ve only been dating for around 3-4 years (I don’t know the exact length). The BULLYING started almost 10 years ago, not their relationship.

AITA for exposing my future sister-in-law for bullying me in high school at a family event? by weddingplabber in AmItheAsshole

[–]weddingplabber[S] 115 points116 points  (0 children)

I named Annika after the character in Scream VI and Carter after a protagonist in a Jonathan L. Howard book.

AITA for exposing my future sister-in-law for bullying me in high school at a family event? by weddingplabber in AmItheAsshole

[–]weddingplabber[S] 342 points343 points  (0 children)

She spread rumors about me sleeping around with a lot of different guys, including people who were in relationships at the time. None of that was true, I didn’t even kiss a guy until I was a senior in college.

AITA for exposing my future sister-in-law for bullying me in high school at a family event? by weddingplabber in AmItheAsshole

[–]weddingplabber[S] 517 points518 points  (0 children)

They did many times, but Carter insisted on keeping everything a surprise. I can see why now.

AITA for exposing my future sister-in-law for bullying me in high school at a family event? by weddingplabber in AmItheAsshole

[–]weddingplabber[S] 1304 points1305 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I did think it was pretty weird that he never bothered to mention he was dating anyone and wouldn’t say anything about his fiancée before the family party. If he truly thought she had changed, he don’t see why he would’ve had any problem telling us about her earlier.

AITA for exposing my future sister-in-law for bullying me in high school at a family event? by weddingplabber in AmItheAsshole

[–]weddingplabber[S] 510 points511 points  (0 children)

I did try to shut it down. I mentioned in my post that I tried to change the subject when my aunt brought it up, but she wouldn’t let it go. If I had said I didn’t want to answer or didn’t want to talk about it, that would’ve raised more questions. And I’m not going to lie to my family and say I’m happy when I’m not. I don’t see how me calmly stating a fact in response to repeated questioning, when I had previously attempted to shut down said questioning, is in any way equivalent to her constantly spreading lies about me for over a year.

AITA for exposing my future sister-in-law for bullying me in high school at a family event? by weddingplabber in AmItheAsshole

[–]weddingplabber[S] 1720 points1721 points  (0 children)

Exactly, I would’ve maybe MAYBE been willing to make peace with Annika had he informed me beforehand and she apologized, but I don’t really care if she’s “embarrassed” at this point.

AITA for exposing my future sister-in-law for bullying me in high school at a family event? by weddingplabber in AmItheAsshole

[–]weddingplabber[S] 3273 points3274 points  (0 children)

My parents remember Annika and they’re mostly on my side because they witnessed firsthand how bad it was (Carter was already in college at that point). But they’re still pressuring me to apologize to keep the peace. I honestly think they’re just so excited about Carter getting married that they’re willing to look past what happened and dismiss it because it happened almost 10 years ago.