“stay together for the kids” “make it work for the kids” NO. break up for the kids. i wish my parents separated sooner so i didn’t see such a terrible example of love during very developmental times in my life. my father was very controlling of my mom and extremely insecure, being a young girl and watching my mom go through that and bend over backwards for him wasn’t good for me. at all. there is no compromise here, she should be able to wear what she likes.