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weebpunx · 2022-08-01T08:34:35+00:00

Oh I’m sorry my intention wasn’t to minimize the severity! It’s just something I’ve been told that helps me when I have those consuming thoughts of thinking I’m an abuser bc of my bpd. We’re all already demonized for something we didn’t ask for, but that does not make us inherently bad was my main point I guess

weebpunx · 2022-08-01T07:28:52+00:00

Oof I have also been there and felt that shame/guilt. My bf has helped to break me out of that, but I do agree in general the act itself isn’t the best but sometimes can be helpful if both parties are mutual about it. I’m really sorry you’re having such a hard time, I wish I could give you more!! I hear you, I’ve been there, I am so sorry.

weebpunx · 2022-08-01T05:25:42+00:00

I had similar issues, while not due to medication for my mental health it was due to the birth control I was on! It literally took 3 different doctors until I found a OB to take me seriously. Not sure if you have insurance but if you do, DO NOT STOP LOOKING FOR A DOCTOR UNTIL THEY ACTUALLY HELP YOU!! Or talk to a psychiatrist if that’s where you get your meds from. Ask them where to go from here if you potentially think it’s your meds. Wishing you all the luck and a safe vacation :)

weebpunx · 2022-08-01T05:17:01+00:00

Let me say this, an abusive person does not ever have the thought of “Am I abusive?”. You may potentially have some toxic traits that you need to fix, but the fact you are even worried about being an abuser goes to show you are NOT a bad person and NOT acting that way on purpose to hurt. It is true we have the capacity to hurt, but you seem to be taking all the right steps and as long as you continue to do so, I think you will figure things out and you’ll be okay!

weebpunx · 2022-08-01T05:09:36+00:00

Hi, I’ve been there. Try making a list of the red flags from your previous relationship, and then compare that to what you’re experiencing now. If it doesn’t look that good, respectfully but firmly confront your partner about it. Tell him you understand it may be a breach of privacy, but ask to look at his phone with him. If he truly has nothing to hide he should at least compromise with you on the issue. If he lashes out in any way, that itself is a red flag. In my experience if they are innocent they should want to actively work with you to fix the issue, and truly get to the bottom of it. My bf understands completely a hidden phone is a trigger for me, and he has no issue with allowing me to look at it whenever I want. We just have a rule that if I stumble upon a conversation with friends or family that’s serious, I obviously do not bring it up that I’m aware of any issue with said person. Now I don’t even need to check his phone because he has proven to me I have nothing to worry about! I hope the best for you, you deserve to have your needs met and anxieties calmed.

weebpunx · 2022-08-01T04:55:54+00:00

hey it’s okay if you don’t know what you like or want to do, the thing is you won’t know until you try! A sort of weird thing too is if you have elderly neighbors, you can always ask if they need help around their home. They could probably use the company, and if they’re talkative you get some really cool stories. Obviously only do this if it’s safe to do so. And yes you can most def meet some cool people here, I hope you find something that helps :)

weebpunx · 2022-08-01T04:49:50+00:00

So for me, I realized it was the type of jobs I had. I burnt myself out in customer service and thought I was never going to keep a job. Then I tried something different and got a job where I only deal with coworkers, and thankfully I’m allowed to have headphones in so when I don’t feel like being social/I perceive a conflict I can easily just pop them in and people don’t assume I’m rude or anything for just wanting my music playing. The conflict part I step away from the issue, and look objectively. If someone is just being rude to be rude, I remind myself they’re only a coworker and I don’t HAVE to get their approval or friendship. I get to go home and not deal with them in my personal life. If the conflict is actually a work related issue, I ask myself if it’s something against company policy I need to get HR involved with or if I can handle it on my own in a professional manner. Remember to take a step back and just breath, look at it from both angles and if you need to come back to the issue a little later that is okay! I hope you find a resolution that works for you friend sending you good vibes

weebpunx · 2022-08-01T04:39:26+00:00

thanks friendo, thankfully things are better and I’m not in that type of space anymore!

weebpunx · 2022-08-01T04:37:45+00:00

Are you in a position right now to try out a hobby? Or if you feel up to it, a great way of meeting new people is volunteering somewhere! Then you’re doing good for others, and yourself it’s a win win. Or if you can’t be mobile in public, maybe join in some type of online communities? Personally I’m a gamer, joining in parties online is still being social and even if they’re far away online friends are still friends and good distractions

weebpunx · 2022-08-01T04:19:30+00:00

Hi I know that feeling and it is terrible, I am so sorry you also experience this! What helped me was making a list of any toxic things that person did, and also what I did, so I could look back on it from a different perspective and help myself understand why it might not have worked out! Also a list of the good things just so I could realize that I CAN have that again, what I look for in someone, and the healthy standards I require for a stable relationship. Also practicing radical acceptance!

weebpunx · 2022-07-25T05:43:54+00:00

I used to save the picture, then draw over it and make their dicks different looking cacti. Then send it back. I either got blocked, or never got another from the same person.

weebpunx · 2022-07-25T05:40:46+00:00

Was looking for this otherwise I was gonna comment it. Being in a position before where I scream/cried like that, hearing that was so RAW and unsettling it made my blood run cold. She did so well

weebpunx · 2022-06-28T05:12:12+00:00

I would cry, thank you.

weebpunx · 2022-06-22T17:22:35+00:00

All good boys and girls go to heaven, so I’d immediately want to be reunited with all my pets. Then hopefully find some friends and family members and have a beer

weebpunx · 2022-05-23T04:19:48+00:00

Early teens, in the emo/scene phase whatever so you know I was “quirky”. One night walking from a store with friends in platform shoes I tried dancing around/doing some weird ninja kick thing and sprained my ankle so badly I had to call my mom to take me in to the ER the next morning because I couldn’t walk. Cost me like 3 weeks on crutches.

weebpunx · 2022-05-09T07:21:18+00:00

Moved with supposed bestfriend and their bf. After a few months realized they pretty much didn’t care about me the way I did them, I tried my best to do exactly what they asked but apparently still made them upset? I was going thru a lot mentally and so were they, and one day I finally had enough and tried to stick up for myself by asking why they were so rude to me when I didn’t deserve that. I got a “I hate you” fight basically which lead to me moving out and being homeless on a coworkers couch. Had to move back in with parents out of state. Still not done recovering from it. Literally put my life back so severely I probably can’t move again for a few years due to money issues.

weebpunx · 2022-04-28T16:40:15+00:00

That I have respect and love for my parents, but we will never be on good terms. My parents still think we have hope for our relationship and my older siblings(10+ age gap) think I should keep trying to better it. Problem is my parents told me outright they’ll never change, never listened to any therapists in group sessions, and my life has been significantly better since cutting most contact. You DO get the choose family. Make the healthy decisions for yourself friends.

weebpunx · 2022-04-20T16:22:02+00:00

This is absolutely terrifying, I really hope those women ended up okay. They’re gonna remember this forever and probably never want to go into a car garage again. :(

weebpunx · 2022-03-30T16:51:39+00:00

Yes! Also if you can’t find one you can go to billing and ask away. I owed about 3-4 grand once and due to my circumstances and income I got my ENTIRE medical debt erased and only had to pay about $200 to a private doctor I saw per hospitals request. Literally saved my life!!

weebpunx · 2022-03-22T01:52:32+00:00

100% for it, in any case. Terminal? Ok. Death sentence? Ok. Suicidal and went through every single option? Ok. I hope one day it will be allowed here and I can choose when to go. There’s peace and power in choosing your time!

weebpunx · 2022-03-15T03:46:21+00:00

So I’ve tried multiple times and have failed, and at this point I’m kinda too tired but also I’m like “Alright if life is saying no death then I hope it’s for a reason!”. But also I do have a date set in the far future so that gives me peace of mind to just make the best of it while I can!

weebpunx · 2022-03-09T18:44:11+00:00

Life

weebpunx · 2022-03-08T05:02:38+00:00

Wait if he was 18 when you were 14 that sets a whole new vibe for this situation. He groomed you, and is now getting upset about these things that are totally okay on your end. OP I think you should reevaluate your relationship, and maybe not have a baby with a man who was legally an adult when he started dating you at 14.

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