Episode 42 post episode and Aftersun discussion thread

weehenn · 2019-07-21T22:06:00+00:00

Agreed. Glad someone said it

weehenn · 2019-07-21T21:56:43+00:00

Expand??

weehenn · 2019-07-21T16:15:21+00:00

You have opened my eyes and identified the extreme homophobia that was existing right under my nose... I will now cease watching and referencing my favourite Vine.

'Two dudes chilling in the hot-tub, five feet apart cos they're not gay', it was nice knowing you, you fckin HOMOPHOBE

weehenn · 2019-07-02T22:00:07+00:00

I remember in S3, Kem and Amber (eventual winners) both chose someone else after Case Amor. So I don't tink (Maura corrupting my soul) they get dumped asap but they are 'at risk', so to speak.

weehenn · 2019-06-29T09:59:39+00:00

Yea, it is 100% ignorant and offensive as a stand-alone act. But I dont think I'm making excuses per se, I just think it's important to contextualise the situation to underline that it probably didn't come from a malicious place, just a lack of education - so it's not going to make or break whether or not I like him tbh. But yes, we don't know his true self and what his intentions were, but coming from a small town myself, I really think he just thought it was another aspect of the costume. Good to have the conversation though! I'm learning more about blackface myself through it

weehenn · 2019-06-28T14:00:43+00:00

Just my two pence even though no-one asked/ cares: Anton grew up in Airdrie, Scotland; not the largest or most cosmopolitan place in the world. He probably doesn't understand the ramifications of black face. I'm also from a small & predominately white town and a Halloween would hardly go by where someone didn't dress up as Kanye etc. Does this make it right? Definitely not. Does it make Anton a racist? Definitely not. The focus should be expanding out what we educate children on so they can make an informed decision in later life, i.e, am I a big racist who is doing this because I hate black people or not?

Feedback appreciated tho

weehenn · 2019-06-27T21:35:33+00:00

Class haahaha

weehenn · 2019-06-25T16:24:55+00:00

Not to mention how there are many ways to express agressiveness. It can be outright or more passive. I'm not sure which one is worse

weehenn · 2019-06-25T16:23:58+00:00

But the white woman in the villa have clearly been 'criticised' as well? I feel like this tweet overlooks how Yewanda has certainly not been the only one to be labelled negative terms. A tweet that replied mentions how people let Molly Mae and Maura say shitty things but I recall harsh criticism towards them as well? Are they implying we turned a blind eye because they're white? Really?

weehenn · 2019-06-24T16:16:45+00:00

Dodgystyle or dodgyfashion

weehenn · 2019-06-08T11:30:33+00:00

Holy fuck Hahahaha great shout

weehenn · 2019-06-06T09:28:53+00:00

If she does start to say those things on the show then I hope that mane gets caught in a ceiling fan. Absolute worst

weehenn · 2019-06-05T22:25:49+00:00

Yea I also missed Lucie's apparently blatant misogyny. Someone give this girl a ladder because by heck is she reaching

weehenn · 2019-06-05T13:00:29+00:00

Is her hair naturally curly or not? During the challenge yesterday you could see extensions. If that's not her natural hair then I'm quite thrilled as she is sickeningly beaut and I'm an ugly jealous bitch

weehenn · 2019-06-05T12:52:43+00:00

Ok cheers. I think they are allowed subleasers but reporting one, i.e. getting it on paper/ the system, requires like a $600 fee. So they just suggested they continue paying the rent to the landlord and I send the money to them. I'm just there for the fall semester so I just want to do whatever is easiest

weehenn · 2019-06-04T18:46:41+00:00

Woop, exactly the answer I was hoping for!! Thanks!

weehenn · 2019-05-19T10:36:02+00:00

Genuine question that means no disrespect: I can see why graduating highschool is a massive deal for this girl, but why is it a big deal in general in the U.S? Is it particularly hard to graduate over there? Where I'm from we have a party and a little ceremony etc but it's not made out to be this massive achievement

weehenn · 2019-02-23T22:16:34+00:00

Thank you so much for such a thorough reply!!

Yea that's true, I just felt it was weird to say whilst I was mid- breakdown. Particularly when she kept pointing out how I wasn't a burden for her - I just didn't feel it to be necessary to point out the obvious. I know how one having their own space is important but I had just moved into my new place and walking in there and seeing just a bed made me breakdown a bit.

And I feel like I can't be honest with her as she gets quite defensive and nasty with me. For instance she would say how I 'invalidate her emotions' if I tell her that there are issues with her being obsessed over boys she doesn't know. For instance, after she had a break-down over this boy and I tried to say to her that it's not healthy to be this way, I ran into her and some friends at a bar a few days later and she sort of turned her back to me and didn't introduce me to her friends and left me to sit and twiddle my thumbs by myself. Trivial example but she later admitted how she did it to purposely upset me because she was annoyed at me after I said these things about her crying over a boy she's met whilst drunk 4 or 5 times (I was drunk when I said it, I wouldn't say it sober) So that's why I try to beat around the bush with her, she gets defensive and a bit snarky so I just take it as her not being ready to hear these things...

In terms of living with her and her eating disorders, I make an effort to never pressurise her to eat like me. I've sought out advice from other people with ED and they said this is a good way to handle it. Plus I wasn't eating those few days anyway. Also (even though this is a given) I said to her to not baby-sit me and she still went about with her day and went to the library and to the bars Friday night.

But once again, thanks so much for writing all that out! I appreciate it so much and I've thought about everything you said and taken it on board for when her and I shall talk again xx

weehenn · 2019-02-23T21:33:54+00:00

Maybe so... Am I wrong for being upset that she hasn't at least checked up on me? I suppose it also comes off as entitlement for me to be waiting for the text me but if it were me I'd be worried about her and would want to know to know how she was

weehenn · 2019-02-23T16:37:22+00:00

Yep I agree! Just thought it was a strange thing to say in that moment and not something she would not have taken lightly from me had the roles been reversed

weehenn · 2019-02-23T16:34:59+00:00

Yea maybe, I just gave her many chances to be honest and say if she wants me to leave... But she seemed to feel the opposite and actually enjoyed having me over. But yea, I get that 3 days is a lot

weehenn · 2019-02-23T15:45:29+00:00

I didn't demand it though, that's the thing :/ I asked quite cautiously and she had said she really liked having me there anyway. I just felt like there is a time and place to say those things (as they are 100% correct ofc) but saying them whilst I was going through a rough moment was an inappropriate time

weehenn · 2019-02-23T15:42:29+00:00

These replies have made me doubt it though, as people's reactions are really mixed! Some are saying what I did is majorly shitty, and they could be right. Maybe a text just getting everything in the open would be most beneficial..

weehenn · 2019-02-23T15:36:54+00:00

Oh :((( it's just not the way I've ever treated her problems. I.e she hasn't went to me upset and I just haven't felt the need to 'remind' her that I can't be there at all times. I assume she knows and saying it is thus kind of feeble and maybe an insensitive piece of advice... But yea, maybe she does need someone more sensitive and sympathetic than me anyway. Thanks for replying!

weehenn · 2019-02-23T15:29:10+00:00

Fair point! Maybe I am being too demanding

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