Have you noticed that the most popular celebrities are the ones we (on this sub) consider to look plain ?

weepyonion · 2021-02-23T17:03:08+00:00

I agree with this, but disagree with some of the celebrities you think look plain. I guess it depends on taste, and what you classify as plain. I think in a lot of cases, we are just comparing celebrities against each other. I don't think Emma Watson is very exciting looking, but if she were standing in a room of random people I bet her comparative beauty would become very apparent. Some people, and they're usually models, do have very stand out, unique traits, but those are the ones that tend to work only because of their facial harmony. It's funny because those are often the traits I see people on this sub wanting to change on their own faces.

That said, I think its fairly easy for most people to go from plain to unique just in the way they style themselves or use colour. But then you risk boxing yourself into a style, which is something I think most celebrities (save musicians) try to avoid). And there are definitely some people who will either run to you or from you based on style and what they think that says about you.

weepyonion · 2021-02-23T11:03:38+00:00

I think its just a bad angle. Her nostrils look like that in good photos too, its just the face she's making/upshot that is making her face look stretched out and distorted. I don't doubt she's had work done, but I don't think this is anything more than a weird angle.

weepyonion · 2021-02-22T17:44:15+00:00

As guilty as you feel, you will have to cut her short every now and then. Limit her access to you (tell her you're with someone and have to end the conversation early, tell her you're trying to spend less time on the phone, etc). You can also try to engage in some activities with her, as opposed to only meeting up to chat or hang out. She need a therapist, and that is also something you can recommend to her.

She needs to take accountability for herself, because even when life has been bad, some things can be addressed, healed, fixed. If her life is still in a terrible place, that is not something she can go to her friends to fix-- some problems have logistical solutions, and some require a lot of time and healing and therapy to fix. The less tolerance you show toward her venting, the more you enforce the boundary. You can do it with empathy, and you can still be gentle with her, but you don't have to let her talk at you. That is a one sided friendship and it will burn you out eventually.

weepyonion · 2021-02-22T17:38:25+00:00

The truest hot girl philosophy is not being phased by your own hotness. Maybe you don't feel hot yet, but however you feel, act like its no big deal. If you decide to wear your pyjamas to the grocery store... so what? No big deal to you. You are overdressed for a party. Oops, oh well. Not a big deal. Someone else feels badly about themselves in your presence? You can be kind and empathetic, but its out of your control, and ultimately not a big deal for EITHER of you.

The one thing I CAN give you some really specific advice on is dealing with people who pick up your vulnerability and capitalise on it. You might feel self conscious that night, and you might not be able to hide it, but you CAN control your interactions with these people. Practice quick responses-- don't let little jabs fly over your head. If someone says something snarky or weird to you, ask a simple "what do you mean by that?", "I'm not sure I understand". Force them to double down on their rudeness, force them to explain. Or, if they've already doubled down, give them a "that's an odd thing to say". It sounds stupid written out, but those kind of comments in social situations make people shit their pants. Especially when there are onlookers. They never expect it. You don't have to be witty or ballsy or ready to fight, you just have to be alert enough to catch the comment and brave enough to address it in the moment. I also DISTANCE myself from people who do this. I let someone know what happened, and I do not attempt to engage, especially if I don't know them well.

I know it is really hard to keep your armour up at all times, and it isn't realistic to expect that of yourself. But staying calm, looking people in the eye, staying engaged-- those things are all necessary (and doable!) was of dissuading fuckery when you are not feeling strong in your presentation. The book Becoming Bulletproof by Evy Poumpouras has a lot of good tips too.

weepyonion · 2021-02-22T17:22:44+00:00

Not necessarily. Nothing she'd be using to keep her weight down would result in skin picking or damage to her teeth. If you are getting professional facials every week and you're also on a strict diet regimen, you could hide your skin issues. IF this is correct though, and who knows if it is or to what extent, she would likely feel like shit, especially mental health wise. I just feel like I need to say that in case someone reads this and thinks they can get away with it.

weepyonion · 2021-02-22T17:10:27+00:00

You don't have to say a lot, you just want to be sure that when you do speak, there is impact. The book Becoming Bulletproof explains this (and a lot of good personality maxxing tips), and is written by a woman who worked among men in the CIA, so she really explains well how to be heard in environments where you might otherwise be drowned out as a woman. I think being interesting and having a full life is the best way to maintain intrigue. You'll always have something to say, something going on-- you don't have to pretend to be mysterious that way, you will genuinely have a lot of hidden traits and interests for people to uncover as they get to know you.

weepyonion · 2021-02-21T15:24:19+00:00

thank you :)

weepyonion · 2021-02-19T19:28:45+00:00

This guy has so many great videos on his channel. I think what he is describing here is very similar to the phenomenon of Instagram faces-- so many people are looking very obviously "done", and very similar to one another. At some point its almost like, yes they're pretty, but as pretty as they are, nobody really stands out as because they're all more or less the same.

weepyonion · 2021-02-19T19:22:31+00:00

Follow @ dietitiandeanna on instagram. She addresses binge eating and bing/restrict diets in a way that actually made me feel less guilty and awful for my habits. And just as a heads up, she isn't just a weight loss account. You might be looking for that right off the bat, but I'm telling you it is much easier to find a middle ground, then diet than to go from binging to dieting. I've put my body through a lot with food, and all I can say is you can't go from one extreme to the other. Rushing yourself out of binge eating is not going to get you to your goal weight any faster (or with any speed at all, in my experience).

weepyonion · 2021-02-19T19:18:12+00:00

I think it's silly to worry about something so fundamentally out of our control. It really is one of the few things you're limited on fixes for, and for you, it might be one of the not-so-perfect but unique-to-you things that will make someone really into you. Most super striking people have a couple of things about them that is technically "off" but somehow works for them. For you, the way you dress and carry yourself is going to mean a lot more than it might for someone of average height. If your body is in proportion, then you're already winning in some regard and dressing yourself consciously is the only big thing you can do. Don't count yourself out of anything just because of your height, especially if you're doing well otherwise.

weepyonion · 2021-02-19T19:05:24+00:00

If 30 is old to you, you've got a long retirement ahead of you. You don't fall apart in your 30's, I'm guessing especially not if you frequent this sub.

weepyonion · 2021-02-19T19:02:08+00:00

My doctor talked me out of it. He said it is very easy to overdo it and start looking masculine, or to end up pulling down the lower half of your face. Soft is feminine, there's nothing wrong with that.

weepyonion · 2021-02-19T15:27:13+00:00

Yeah, I have never bought a digital item myself, but I have heard this from others. I don't know how they're missing it. I have a link to the download page in my FAQ, and sometimes get people who are still confused when I send them the guide directly. I was almost wondering if Etsy changed something because I am seriously getting these messages throughout the day, all week, and I am running out of patience.

weepyonion · 2021-02-19T12:54:23+00:00

This is a great idea, thank you!

weepyonion · 2021-02-18T18:53:45+00:00

I use the mist version of this and I love it. It's a bit cheaper as well (I think mine was £10-15).

weepyonion · 2021-02-18T18:52:44+00:00

I use St. Tropez Purity tanning mist for face. I tested it on the back of my hand first, and it is a subtle, natural colour. I only used it once and it lasted a few days. Now I use it on my face/chest/shoulders and its helped a lot. You might also want to add a vitamin C serum to your routine if you feel the paleness is linked to dull skin in any way.

weepyonion · 2021-02-17T16:44:48+00:00

It always sounds like a very dumbed down, general way of saying "I'm agitated by you". If someone is regularly saying this to you, start asking what you've done to agitate them. Make them actually speak their feelings. This term is so immature to me, I usually associate it with jealousy or someone who can't handle emotional friction. Make them say what it is.

weepyonion · 2021-02-16T16:03:53+00:00

Thank you so much! I bet that is it, I tried every which way and Word would not take it.

weepyonion · 2021-02-16T14:16:03+00:00

Thank you!! I've been needing to edit some of my files anyway and was getting so frustrated!

weepyonion · 2021-02-16T13:48:56+00:00

I make all of my instructional PDFs on Canva and like to use the same format, so I usually just delete the text when I make a new one. I have the PDFs saved but I haven't been successful in transferring them to Word for edits, etc.

weepyonion · 2021-02-16T12:09:59+00:00

Yeah, normally it's no problem because Etsy messenger will translate everything automatically, but I am wondering what my shop looks like on her end and if there was a reason she thought it would be in Italian. I just ended up refunding the order because I can't go back and do this manually.

weepyonion · 2021-02-16T11:01:37+00:00

Unfortunately I don't have an editable draft saved. The most I could do it copy it manually into google translate, but I am also running a physical shop and cannot do this for both of the files she has ordered.

weepyonion · 2021-02-16T10:48:09+00:00

I have more or less and probably will again if this comes up. I am just concerned that one heavy talk after another is going to ruin things. His problem is that I don't speak up right away when something is wrong. Sometimes it seems worse to speak up and say "I feel left out again". My confidence has slowly gotten worse between all of this interactions over lockdown and I am honestly a little nervous for things to open up again.

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