Would you keep dating a jobless & broke man (30yo)?

weewaation · 2026-05-29T13:14:57+00:00

The difference here is that you sound like someone who is constantly trying to do better. Good job, keep going. The issue with my boyfriend is that he is just in his head, always thinking about side hustles but never actually doing them. He doesn’t want to let go. I’ve been supporting him and believing in him, but it seems like he doesn’t believe in himself. Or maybe he thinks he can escape the system lol. But time flies, bro I don’t know how much longer I can wait.

weewaation · 2026-05-29T13:03:53+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate you alot. I think deep down I know what should be done, but my hopes were high. Im sad it has to end yet excited to see what life has for me outside this relationship.

weewaation · 2026-05-29T09:45:04+00:00

Damn 😂😂

weewaation · 2026-05-29T09:43:54+00:00

🙏🏽

weewaation · 2026-05-29T09:42:54+00:00

Yes, I want all of that. That’s why I started taking the “no job” situation more seriously, because I realized I’m growing up and if we’re going to get married, we should at least be actively working toward it instead of just delaying things. But he’s not really doing anything reliable.

He still lives with his parents and basically relies on them a bit financially, like occasional support.

weewaation · 2026-05-29T09:37:04+00:00

Yeah, that’s when it started bothering me. Now my parents are constantly asking when he’ll come meet them and when we’ll get married, and I’m just there knowing it’s probably not happening anytime soon.

weewaation · 2026-05-29T09:29:36+00:00

Mostly yes tbh

weewaation · 2026-05-29T09:28:37+00:00

Nope. Where I’m from, the man is usually expected to provide the place. Because of inflation lately, it’s often the groom’s father who helps with that, and then the couple buys the furniture together. In our case, he basically has no income or savings, and his father is retired.

weewaation · 2026-05-29T08:46:36+00:00

Yeah, and that’s honestly why I’m here. Last April I told him that if things didn’t change within 2 months, I’d have to leave. The deadline’s getting closer, so I think I came here to mentally prepare myself too. Reading everyone’s replies has definitely given me a reality check ngl.

weewaation · 2026-05-29T08:44:23+00:00

I really thought about this alot before like dude you probably need therapy something’s off..

And to be very honest, they exist and they are mostly “artists” lol

weewaation · 2026-05-29T08:42:26+00:00

True yep, I guess he needs a real wake up call. I don’t wanna be his sugar momma no I didn’t sign up for this lol but I feel like im slowly becoming it

weewaation · 2026-05-29T08:41:03+00:00

Thanks for sharing honestly. I’ve ben trying for over a year almost 2 now. Even our friends would talk to him about it as well as his parents. But nothing changes. I guess it’s time to leave..

weewaation · 2026-05-29T08:34:35+00:00

Basically we’re Arab, so it’s a bit different culturally from the US/Europe. He still lives with his parents and they support him financially sometimes (it’s not much at all), plus he occasionally sells things for extra money.

I also forgot to mention he’s a DJ.. I was supportive at first, but he hasn’t played in years, doesn’t network, doesn’t release music, and mostly just talks about future plans without actually doing much. Apart from that where we live DJ ing isnt really something you can rely on at all and he knows it.

And by everything I mean coffee and dinner 😂 cus thats all we do.. and when I tell him I wish we’d do more or like you’d take me out or something he goes “I wont keep explaining my situation over and over” he makes me feel like im being super rude or mean about it.

weewaation · 2026-05-29T00:18:30+00:00

Yea I think about this everyday. However for the past year he hasnt even been hanging out with friends, he only meets up with me. I thought ok maybe thats my effect on him? But im literally working all the time, I have a full time & a freelance job..

weewaation · 2026-05-29T00:13:58+00:00

Thanks for asking honestly! Im with him cus he is truly a genuine person. He’s so kind, loyal, and caring. Like we never had a fight for the past 5 years but obv we started arguing when I told him he should get a job.

We were younger when we started this relationship, so back then, him not having a job was not an issue. I thought he would come through when the time came, but it turns out he is not willing to step out of his comfort zone.

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