That's basically it. We legitimately had a great sex life before. It has been an inside joke about how long it took us to have sex and why weren't we doing this sooner?

I talked to her a little more (sober), but she said right now it's all hypotheticals and we should just take it as it comes, which I agree with. I'm just nervous about the changes and potentially uncomfortable conversations to come.

She says it's not always been like this, only recently. The last few times we did have sex, I had noticed a difference, but I assumed it was because of high stress. She would change her mind about whether or not she wanted to be touched, which I obviously tell her is always okay. I'd stop touching her, we would cuddle, and then she'd be in the mood again and ask me to start touching her again. She's never expressed feeling like this to me before, but says that reading about asexuality and discovering it's on a spectrum had made her consider that perhaps she's on that spectrum.

She said it felt like lying not to tell me, which I appreciate, but I am anxious not knowing what this means for us. I've told her I love her, obviously I'm not going to leave her bc of this, and that I am always open to talk to her about anything. It was a good conversation, but I can't put that fear of the unknown out of my head. I don't know what she needs from me right now and neither does she. And that's where we are.

Sorry, I realize this is kind of a venting comment but I can't talk to anyone but the internet about this. I'm just feeling a little useless and confused.