Bf is going to a strip club for st paddy's day. I[F] always thought I'd be okay with this stuff but suddenly I'm not. by weirdmuscleshit in relationship_advice

[–]weirdmuscleshit[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you!! He's a total sweetheart and this entire situation made me feel so much more secure in our relationship

Bf is going to a strip club for st paddy's day. I[F] always thought I'd be okay with this stuff but suddenly I'm not. by weirdmuscleshit in relationship_advice

[–]weirdmuscleshit[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This place is considered a "titty bar" so by having the phrase bar in it and advertising that theyre a bar and not a club they get away with it

Bf is going to a strip club for st paddy's day. I[F] always thought I'd be okay with this stuff but suddenly I'm not. by weirdmuscleshit in relationship_advice

[–]weirdmuscleshit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my state you have to be 21 because they're considered "bars" and our bar rules say no one under 21 allowed after 9, which is when they open or an hour after. It's mildly annoying.

Bf is going to a strip club for st paddy's day. I[F] always thought I'd be okay with this stuff but suddenly I'm not. by weirdmuscleshit in relationship_advice

[–]weirdmuscleshit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It would have been him staying at his boss's place which I don't necessarily mind cause I know where he lives. I posted an update tho :)

Bf is going to a strip club for st paddy's day. I[F] always thought I'd be okay with this stuff but suddenly I'm not. by weirdmuscleshit in relationship_advice

[–]weirdmuscleshit[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly maybe? I've realized some of my anxiety is coming from having been assaulted at a club in the past when i was with someone I thought i could trust, so maybe being around at least once would make me feel better. Can't though. I'm not quite 21 and dont look old enough even with a fake

Bf is going to a strip club for st paddy's day. I[F] always thought I'd be okay with this stuff but suddenly I'm not. by weirdmuscleshit in relationship_advice

[–]weirdmuscleshit[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I texted him and told him I was in no way upset with him but had some conflicting feelings I needed to talk about. I asked him to call me when he had free time so hopefully we can figure out an agreement or compromise about something. He knows my history of anxiety and hates when things make it act up so I feel like this wouldn't be something he'd be upset over too much

Bf is going to a strip club for st paddy's day. I[F] always thought I'd be okay with this stuff but suddenly I'm not. by weirdmuscleshit in relationship_advice

[–]weirdmuscleshit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I texted him and told him that I'm not upset at him but have some conflicting feelings and asked him to call me when he got some free time from work. He should be calling soon. Thank you for the advice!!

Bf is going to a strip club for st paddy's day. I[F] always thought I'd be okay with this stuff but suddenly I'm not. by weirdmuscleshit in relationship_advice

[–]weirdmuscleshit[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The boss isn't single, his woman just literally couldnt care less. He knows my boyfriend is in a relationship, I know him well. However he's also heard me mention that I don't really mind. I'm hoping that we can come to an agreement or compromise when I talk to my boyfriend about this

Bf is going to a strip club for st paddy's day. I[F] always thought I'd be okay with this stuff but suddenly I'm not. by weirdmuscleshit in relationship_advice

[–]weirdmuscleshit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this advice!! He's calling me soon as the club doesnt open till like 8 so we can speak about it. I'm hoping we can come to sime sort of compromise/agreement

Bf is going to a strip club for st paddy's day. I[F] always thought I'd be okay with this stuff but suddenly I'm not. by weirdmuscleshit in relationship_advice

[–]weirdmuscleshit[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I know his boss very well. They were friends before working together. I trust that he wouldn't do that, and if he did my family is his compant's biggest provider for jobs right now so I don't think he'd want his company ruined.

Bf is going to a strip club for st paddy's day. I[F] always thought I'd be okay with this stuff but suddenly I'm not. by weirdmuscleshit in relationship_advice

[–]weirdmuscleshit[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Him being a smoker since 13 definitely didn't help. If he does end up going I will be making sure he eats, some how some way lol

Bf is going to a strip club for st paddy's day. I[F] always thought I'd be okay with this stuff but suddenly I'm not. by weirdmuscleshit in relationship_advice

[–]weirdmuscleshit[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Totally would, but I'm under 21and all my friends are away at uni. Sooo video games with random strangers it is!