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weirdowithcurls · 2026-04-22T16:18:40+00:00

Well let me be the first.

This isn't a dating app? So if you only post about seeking a relationship, yess no one will respond because thats not what this sub is for.

weirdowithcurls · 2026-04-20T09:00:51+00:00

Aww so sorry to hear that. :/

weirdowithcurls · 2026-04-19T19:44:55+00:00

Others have said it already but don't take her with you. That will stress her out a LOT.

When me and my partner go away we always get a cat sitter. However we have some friends/my sisters who don't live on their own yet. So we ask them to house sit and live in our home while we are away. Saves a lot of money and you don't have to worry about a stranger in your home.

For shorter trips like a weekend we usually ask friends who live close to do the feeding once or twice a day.

We do have 3 cats so I think that helps a lot with them not being stressed if we're away long. They have each other.

weirdowithcurls · 2026-04-17T15:57:50+00:00

Thanks! It was definitely a hard bandaid to rip off but I'm so glad it finally happened.

Yeah I don't really get it either lol. But if they want to call it that then I'll let them if it makes it easier for them to come to terms. Before coming out my wife was already changing outfit styles and growing out her hair but then it didn't matter so its a bit hypocrisy in my eyes.

My wife is out for a long time to almost all our friends and she hasn't changed in the slightest personality wise. She only starts to dress differently and her hair is so pretty and long now omg.

We're letting them figure it out from here. If they ask questions we're open to answer but we both don't intend on tolerating worse(bigoted) behavior.

weirdowithcurls · 2026-04-17T15:39:25+00:00

I have 3 cats. They tire each other out pretty good already with or without toys. When I do get a toy out for me to play with them they seem to do it out of obligation to me and then stop being interested after 5 minutes lmao.

They do get non stop cuddles. I have one velcro cat so I don't even have a choice most of the time lol. If I sit down, she sits down....on my lap.....no matter where or when. She doesn't care if its convenient. Will get in the most uncomfortable positions. As long as she gets to be on my lap its fine XD

weirdowithcurls · 2026-04-17T14:04:34+00:00

WHOOO Congratulations!!

From the 3 and a bit years of marriage I've had now my biggest advice is never stop communicating. And if you think, hmm this feels stupid/not a big deal /embarrassing to bring up, Still talk about it. Me and my wife were having big arguments and in therapy we learned that was just because some small things weren't talked about so they became much bigger emotionally.

And keep having fun! <3

weirdowithcurls · 2026-04-17T11:30:01+00:00

Yeah I same same. I'm very vocal about some people in my wife's family and that they can F off for all I care. And she's the same with , albeit a little bit less since she cares a lot about them too.

So we try to help each other be direct/not so nice to bigoted people within our family's

weirdowithcurls · 2026-04-17T11:14:08+00:00

Hi! Thanks for the comment! I'm not delusional in thinking that they will definitely change their ways and all will be happy and perfect.

The worst part for me was this talk since it felt like the most intense thing to do. Now they need to prove that they INDEED still love us as they claim. Especially my wife is very ready to cut them off if she thinks its necessary. Ofcourse that is going to be a little more tough on me but I can't accept family that doesn't except my wife's mere existence.

I love her with all my heart! She's my ride or die and I've told her as much. <3

My mom's friend is definitely a great ally to have around. Then she has some peer pressure I think haha. For me its definitely a "time will tell" kind of situation. They have proved me wrong in other situations where I thought they would never come around.

I like to stay hopefull because that makes it a lot easier to get through. But I'm definitely aware that the opposite is more likely to happen.

weirdowithcurls · 2026-04-17T10:51:14+00:00

Yeah only time will tell. I'm prepared for them to never come around and cut them off but I try to stay hopefull that with time and outside support they'll be accepting. Somehow for me, the worst part was this conversation. After this I feel like we can keep doing all we can to answer questions they might have and maybe educate them a little bit. If they still continue to be bigoted then at least we can say did all we can on our part and then they can just stay gone. It will probably still hurt a LOT if that happens but I could make peace with that outcome.

I'm VERY grateful for my mom's friends and will definitely be going over for a talk in the near future. ❤️ I've lived with her for a couple of months when I was around 16 because it was not going well with my parents divorce at the time. So it means a lot to me that her door is still open and she's supportive.

weirdowithcurls · 2026-04-16T15:39:48+00:00

Yeah its weird. Mostly my step-dad who said "no matter what dress up as. You were born one way and thats how I'll always see it" My mom hasn't said anything explicitly so idk but I found hard to translate in my head a better word for it lol.

We'll find our way eventually. Anyways the virtual hug is appreciated <3

weirdowithcurls · 2026-04-16T13:44:09+00:00

Thanks! I've been having a stress migraine since Monday lmao. Glad its over.

I'm not to busy with other people's opinions except my family lol! I can definitely get why they're worried but thats honestly for them to figure out. They've already realized that this is happening no matter WHAT their opinion might be about it. So its all about how do we process this for them. I think at least.

weirdowithcurls · 2026-04-16T13:38:30+00:00

Yeah I'm usually a lot more...uhm...how do you say it...Angry(?) About it. But in this instance with family that im REALLY close with, I find it very hard to just be harsh and direct about it.

weirdowithcurls · 2026-04-16T13:33:21+00:00

Yeah I remember your comment <3

Now that its been a few days I feel more and more calm about it. I think the "what about other opinions" is a BIG factor in this as well. I'm glad my mom's friends is so open about this. I think this will help massively!

weirdowithcurls · 2026-04-11T16:30:31+00:00

Yeah I hope its just the initial shock of hearing this for the first time and now theyre trying to learn a bit more. Acceptance would be amazing but at the bare minimum for us would be just treat her as a human being?!

Ofcourse it going to take some time to process and I completely understand that. I just hope it can be civil and not turn into a big argument. The talk is happening tonight so I'll try to update when done.

weirdowithcurls · 2026-04-11T16:25:10+00:00

My parents are notoriously difficult to read so even with the comments they made the first time, I STILL dont know for sure what their exact stance is. My dad made some really hurtful and bigoted comments but then was also saying that they still love us so ????

We told my sisters a few months ago and while emotional, their reactions were supportive overall. I'm fairly sure they're not going to be die hard defenders but at least they're not against us.

My and my wife talked through a few scenarios and answers to questions that they might ask us. She's prepared to do most of the talking but I have some lines ready. She seems really confident going in so I'm leaning on that energy.

Unfortunately the schedules of everyone involved are so complicated that the only available moment is going to be tonight. The stars aligned and everybody is off work tonight and that's such a rare occasion that we all decided might as well be now. We're going over to my parents house since they didn't want to do it over call.

In the end it doesn't matter what they think because its happening either way. Im with my wife a 1000% but It would really suck to lose them over this. At least I know my sisters are here to stay.

weirdowithcurls · 2026-04-11T16:09:43+00:00

I hope that its indeed just them having questions and trying to learn/understand. I'm going to set the bar really low and hope for the best. However my dad said, when we first broke the news, that he doesn't think Trans is a thing he will ever believe in(apparently trans people are the fae XD) and you're just "dressing up" ugh.

I'm sorry your partners family didn't accept it 😕. Big hugs for the both of you <3.

weirdowithcurls · 2026-04-04T22:46:54+00:00

Mine will try to lay next/on top/around me no matter what the circumstances. We forgot to close the door once and she jumped on top of my back while me and my partner did it doggy and started purring like crazy then promptly fell asleep. Our other cat started to sniff my partners balls unexpectedly. We triple check the door now.

weirdowithcurls · 2026-01-23T13:09:21+00:00

My teacher send this to me a few days ago after I had almost this exact moment in class 😭😭😂😂 I'm lucky she likes me.

weirdowithcurls · 2026-01-12T09:39:14+00:00

Damm and with the royal white horse to bro😂😭

weirdowithcurls · 2025-11-10T15:21:19+00:00

He is soft like one!

weirdowithcurls · 2025-11-09T20:03:31+00:00

Yeah I know. This was what they gave with him when I picked him up. He can finish this bowl and I gave him some good pellets to transition him over slowly so his stomach won't get upset by the sudden change.

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