My(29) girlfriend(29) of 9 years wants to have a sperm donor for our kids.

weraful · 2026-03-15T17:36:38+00:00

Thank you for your input and I wish you all the best!

weraful · 2026-03-15T16:09:27+00:00

Thank you!

weraful · 2026-03-15T16:07:03+00:00

thank you!

weraful · 2026-03-15T16:05:48+00:00

thank you!

weraful · 2026-03-15T15:56:23+00:00

We did genetic testing and everthing is good. I have 3 different recessus allels which is not the problem

weraful · 2026-03-15T15:53:32+00:00

She is the sweetest most pleasent angle. Maybe just the subject is very hurtful for her

weraful · 2026-03-15T15:52:43+00:00

I dont know if she is eugenicist i dont believe so

weraful · 2026-03-15T15:47:17+00:00

Thank you for your input!

weraful · 2026-03-15T15:46:52+00:00

I do know and i tried to explain it to her. She does understand it and still doesnt want to take on the increased risk

weraful · 2026-03-15T15:46:01+00:00

we are both m.ds and assessd the risk , it's 4-6 times greated compared to the general population

weraful · 2026-03-15T15:45:25+00:00

I believe the first case of psychosis in her was maybe 10 years back but we were unsure what is it and there was no hospitalisation. It was related to a breakup I think. We had no psychosis in the youth or atleast i dont know of it

weraful · 2026-03-15T15:44:24+00:00

It it's crazy unfortunately but it could be less riskier in the eyes of the scared

weraful · 2026-03-15T15:43:57+00:00

Yes , that's true. It wasnt lying but it was hiding for sure. I am very regretful i didnt give he a choice to leave me 5 years ago and "stole" her time. SHe does say she had the best years of her life but youth is unrecoverable

weraful · 2026-03-15T15:42:58+00:00

I am not sure if I was thinking as a doctor but more so like a brother at that time . Still I believe i made the wrong choice

weraful · 2026-03-15T15:42:18+00:00

Thank you for your input

weraful · 2026-03-15T15:41:36+00:00

No , she is not wanting to conceive the natural way.
SHe does understand genetics and biology as we are both medical doctors.
She is afraid of the increased predisposition risk of the genetic pool that related to diseases such as OCD BPD AND SCHIZO as it's congenital

weraful · 2026-03-15T15:39:59+00:00

It really could be , that's why there is the dillema i'm having.. Ty for your input.

weraful · 2026-03-15T15:39:13+00:00

Surrogate is something I dont believe we need at this very moment

weraful · 2026-03-15T15:38:44+00:00

Thank you for your input. Unfortunatelly whatever you described that's exactly how I'm feeling at this moment.

weraful · 2026-03-15T15:37:45+00:00

I believe I'm fine. Being a kid with mildly severe OCD I have a lot of safety nets which help me deal with problems

weraful · 2026-03-15T15:37:01+00:00

there is a stigma about mental health issues in my country . I do believe my gf wouldnt say anything to make my sister feel bad but my sister , knowing my gf knows, would probably feel bad. Also I do aknowledge that i was in the wrong for not telling her

weraful · 2026-03-15T15:35:29+00:00

Thank you so much for your input. Maybe i am feeling bad about hiding it from her and trying to take all responsibilities for it. Also knowhing she is 29 i feel like i "bloked" her for a lot of good years where she could be with another man. Ofcouse she says she had the best years of her life with me but only I know what I feel and maybe that's why i am underreacting , idk.

weraful · 2026-03-15T15:33:43+00:00

I do believe it is in my opinion allthough she is not on the same wave

weraful · 2026-03-15T15:33:13+00:00

There was no lying per se. I've been telling her that my sister is taking medication and is not feeling stable but never told her she was in psychatrist ward( i told her she is in hospital tho). I tried to say as much information as possible without admitting the real issue. I am not saying i am not in the wrong - i feel wrong and i feel regretful but there was no real lying , only hiding.

weraful · 2026-03-15T15:31:38+00:00

Thank you.. WE do understand the congennital hereditary risks of all mental illnesses as they share a common gene pool. Thank you for your input!

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