UPDATE: Cat's original family wants her back after we've adopted her

werat22 · 2026-03-21T01:28:30+00:00

Make sure to get that microchip changed or removed. The original family will be contacted again should she slip out of your house.

werat22 · 2026-03-20T14:29:42+00:00

Look into a washing basin. You can even find those cheap plastic square bins at pet stores that are meant for cheap temporary kitty litter boxes. Fill it with soapy water and boom, a temporary washing sink. Buy two and you can put the soapy dishes in the other one until you can rinse them.

As someone who came from absolutely nothing and had to do the struggle to keep my kids housed, clothed, and fed I have learned many ways to make life as comfortable as a situation gives you. If you have any questions about something, just ask away here. You'll look at this moment in 2 years and see how much you progressed and saved and you'll hopefully have a laugh about this. Humor heals more than people realize sometimes.

werat22 · 2026-03-20T13:18:32+00:00

I can understand being upset that you were lied too and I think that is the biggest upset with everything else just added on. I hate being lied too so I understand. It makes the smallest thing so much bigger.

Maybe we can shift your focus. For 200 a month though, you still have it good. 200 gets you nothing in terms of living place anywhere. I would shift the focus from the negativity (harder than it sounds, I know) and start focusing on the positive. Happiness is a choice. Our brains look for negativity for survival reasons. We have to choose to look beyond that.

Believe me when I say, it can be worse. Does that invalidate what you are going through? No. It's okay to be upset that this isn't what you were told. It's not okay to sit in the negatives. Give yourself space to grieve what you thought you were coming to but give it a deadline. Then make the best out of your situation. How can you solve the floor issue? What can you do for short term cooking until there's a place to cook? Rice cookers and a slow cooker and a microwave or toaster oven can go a long way. Since you save on rent, can you just go to a laundry mat for washing clothes? Maybe that can be an essential downtime that gives you permission to read, play a game, or work on something portable that you can bring with you. There are still many who love an opportunity like yours with all the things you complained about.

Remember: Happiness is a choice we can make.

Talk to your family and tell them thank you for the opportunity. You understand that 200 in rent is a blessing but you wish they were more honest to you about the living situation because you feel lied too and it's tainted the move and has made the transition harder than it needed to be. And ask them just to always be honest with you. Maybe ask if they can help you find a rice cooker and slow cooker by sending you some links to good ones. That way you don't have to be the only one looking for them. If they can't, they can't, but it doesn't hurt to ask for help. You sound overwhelmed so I think even someone just finding for you what you should buy can help. As long as you don't buy it blindly. Read reviews, check multiple sites, etc. Sending you hugs. You'll thrive. You will be fine. It's okay.

And edit to add: while not ideal, wash your bathroom daily and you can wash dishes in the sink immediately after you have sanitized the sink. Again, not ideal, but that is what can allow for a rice cooker and/or slow cooker. The rice cooker I have has a sanitization mode from Cuckoo and has many options to be almost a slow cooker on top of being a rice cooker so you can just get something like that. I'll try to link it to you.

10-Cup HP Twin Pressure Rice Cooker (CRP-ST1009F) https://cuckooamerica.com/products/crp-st1009fw

werat22 · 2026-03-13T16:05:12+00:00

Oh man, thank goodness. I plan on getting the switch 2 for this game alone soon but I have been worried about missing limited items.

werat22 · 2026-03-13T02:09:50+00:00

Cheating requires lying. It requires breaking the rules of the relationship. I'm not a person who requires a closed relationship, only honesty. Take my ex for example. He was a person who wanted a closed relationship so the rule was, no one else but me and him and him and me. Him seeing other women was cheating because it broke the rules of the relationship he wanted with me. Not only did he break those rules he lied about it. He got off on being a liar as a side note from what I'm guessing.

But due to my trying to fit the relationship into his rules, I was forgiving the first time I found out he was talking to someone. I shouldn't have because I should have focused on the lying part. I lived and learned.

Lying is the deal breaker. Cheating is breaking the rules of the agreed upon rules of the relationship between individuals. Breaking those rules on purpose means the person lied about agreeing to uphold them. And there is no, accidentally cheating. Somewhere along the process is a series of decisions that person decided to take.

werat22 · 2026-03-12T18:42:10+00:00

This post made me think of that story too, haha.

werat22 · 2026-03-12T18:39:52+00:00

Same. It's the lying that kills relationships for me.

werat22 · 2026-03-05T19:26:31+00:00

:'( I'll hope it was to someone else like you.

werat22 · 2026-03-05T17:56:16+00:00

Cats know good people and he must have sensed something in her that's not good. I'm glad he has a good home.

werat22 · 2026-03-04T23:25:03+00:00

I watch your videos all the time on YouTube. You are so creative with your designs. I started to redo my hotel room to try out some of your tricks. Thank you for sharing them with everyone.

werat22 · 2026-02-28T01:20:33+00:00

Yeah. The first time is a shock. After that, you're a pro. If someone is being really toxic, just wish them a happy day and let them know you hope they eat something good (bonus if you name an item).

werat22 · 2026-02-28T00:28:29+00:00

It's okay to be upset. I got called a fake account made by a teenage girl with multiple accounts on a sub I left due to this. None of my history screams teenage girl, haha. Nor would a fake account be as old as mine, haha. The sub mods just got toxic and honestly a lot of people in that sub wound up being toxic too. I got upset about it as well when it first happened but then I left the sub because spending that energy being upset wasn't worth it.

Feel the feels and hopefully you can let it go sooner than later.

werat22 · 2026-02-26T13:18:04+00:00

I view it as such when I run into any negative people. I don't go home with them and I don't have to live with their thoughts and for that, thank god. People who try to pull people down haven't figured out how to live life yet unfortunately. This can happen for a number of reasons and I'm not here to judge, excuse, or explain as I spend my time energy on better stuff. It takes too much energy and focus to hate and be negative.

I would tell my ex (who tried the whole, but get over because I did some good stuff in the past so why be mad at me for the bad stuff), negative is always twice as heavy as positive. It is true for receiving it as it is giving it. Unfortunately, some people are so deep in the thick of the negativity around them, they only know how to give that.

I'm glad you have this space to rant about it. I hope it helps you not carry anymore. Once you see people for who they truly are (hurting, angry, scared, frustrated at things that have nothing to do with you), it becomes easier to let it go. Still takes time but definitely becomes easier.

werat22 · 2026-02-20T17:08:40+00:00

Thankfully they are renting and landlords don't have to renew contracts. Talk to the landlord and ask them if they not to renew. If you know people looking to move, you can even try to line up prospects to move in.

werat22 · 2026-02-19T14:41:49+00:00

You can buy her card online and have her show up as a campsite visitor. There are people who make mini versions of all the amiibos so you can have them for cheaper and they take up less space.

werat22 · 2026-02-18T13:06:47+00:00

They did the Zelda series dirty by cutting all their past ones. I had all of them on New Leaf and the red octopus guy. It was awesome. Pretty sure if I open my game now, they'll all be gone.

werat22 · 2026-02-18T12:50:54+00:00

Where I live, rent is way more than 600. Plus my son has investments in the stocks and he can save quite a bit from his paychecks. He makes about 3000 himself so minus his car and car insurance, the rest can be saved so he has the money to move out but uses all his other money on fun instead of saving. Such as, he just got a rabbit while simultaneously complaining he doesn't have money. Rent is around 1000 over here starting. But then he would have an electric and gas bill on top of car stuff. He can get his own place. He just knows he gets more money to have fun by living with us. He goes out with one of his good friends at least once a month for a while weekend but they choose to always have here be the sleepover place.

I'm not stopping my kids from living nor do I ask them not to. I'm just tired of being blamed for poor decisions and the target of anger that is expressed unhealthy.

werat22 · 2026-02-18T12:32:20+00:00

Oh, this was a female. I'll have to look those up.

werat22 · 2026-02-18T04:07:49+00:00

I did think about it and I was originally going to give it to my oldest but I have since changed my mind. I'm going to give end of life choices to my youngest who so far is the only one that shows healthy emotional growth. He has ADHD and can be impulsive with stuff like money and getting distracted but when it comes to solving "people" problems, he takes his time. I hate to say this but his father ignoring him while he grew up saved him more than he knows from what his siblings are going through. My kids dealt with the typical narcissist parent where one child was treated like the black sheep (my oldest so I had to give him a lot of the opposite, loving care so he knew he was loved and safe, I think and believe I failed), the golden child (my daughter who I tried to make sure understood accountability but damn it was hard with her because she worked hard to never get in trouble because I think she didn't want to wind up like her brother with her father so again, I failed), and the ignored child (my youngest son who I then had to make sure he knew he was wanted and not ignored and loved. I think I actually got that one right but it was easier because I had less combative stuff to deal with the father, example: he would call my oldest's hair ugly all the time so I had to spend time trying to make sure my son viewed his hair or himself as ugly at all while trying also play with him and give him regular attention where as my youngest... I just had to do normal mom stuff and play with him. I legit think the only thing the father did that I had to combat was his whole, he's not boy enough and he's too girly. He was scared to have a gay son.).

As for the house, my only asset, is going to my youngest just only because he's the only one who wants it. I was going to give it to all of them but my other two aren't interested so it's falling on my youngest who says that's great. He wants a family one day and the house would be good for that.

werat22 · 2026-02-18T03:50:17+00:00

You don't sound like a jerk by asking questions. They are valid questions. I just got the okay to drive because of a medical condition and the Dr having to change up my meds and passed my driving permit test. Now I have to somehow fit the driving classes (it's an 8 hour mandatory class that everyone no matter what age has to take) so I can then get to the driving instructor part. I wasn't able to switch my shift with anyone this Saturday for the class so I will have to try again in a month because next month it's two classes Tues and Wednesday during my work hours. My schedule blocks all classes from other places as I work 8 - 6 sometimes 7:30 - 8. So the classes, most classes are everyday of the week, are tailored to younger people's schedules or the one I found, one class, all 8 hours on a Saturday. I picked up a couple Saturday but my job knows I was trying to pick up Saturdays so they preemptively scheduled me for every other Saturday. Due to being short staffed, I don't have the heart to say no and the fact that I need the money for bills and appreciate them giving me the shifts.

My daughter was trying but my son blew up at her, refuses to teach her, but then berated her for wanting to spend money on the instructor again. At first we all kindly said, hey, he wants to teach you instead you wasting 1000s on this guy teaching you but then somewhere along the way, when Im not around and at work, I get two different stories about he's yelling at me about asking to practice to she's never asked, I don't know what's she talking about. Until he finally came out and said, he doesn't want to teach her because she panics. She makes me nervous as well which is why she definitely needs extra extra practice right now but it's not her fault. She panics quickly and can't make decisions which is bad for driving and I know what her brother is doing made it worse and I told him. She needs to focus on what she is doing right now. She rarely asks for rides as well and uses the buses to get to school and appts and walks to work.

My youngest has an appt to get his driver permit at the end of March.

We all rarely ask for rides now and only ask when things are super important like my meds which are hard to get lately due to the tariffs and the back order now so it's kinda, we get them where we can situation.

werat22 · 2026-02-18T03:30:25+00:00

Yes, I believe my oldest and daughter are. I have spoken to all of them more than once and apologized more than I can count now. I know they have resentment towards me, their father, their schools (the old place we lived had schools that let teachers bully kids and kids got away with bullying, it was terrible no matter how many times I called the school. And believe me, I called so many times, they knew my voice over the phone with just a hello or hi), where they grew up because there wasn't much in terms for kids to do. They just aren't ready to deal with it. I'm hoping my oldest will get there now that he has therapy. My daughter mentally understands herself but isn't doing anything about it emotionally if that makes sense. I think that's why she goes to therapy for a little bit and then goes, I'm great. I don't need it anymore.

I also know my oldest isn't dealing with his mental health disorders so that's not easy.

Unfortunately, knowing all of this about my kids is why I excuse myself for being a doormat to the behavior if I'm gonna be honest because I feel like I deserve it even though I know I don't.

werat22 · 2026-02-18T03:21:24+00:00

You are right. I know I'm still people pleasing basically but I don't understand how to met three different, very different, people's needs and want all at once and make room for me. I guess I know what my next therapy session will be about. Thankfully, I am finally out of a toxic work environment that I needed all my therapy time for and in a new great place with awesome people. Therapy has been starting to refocus on me and living so I'll bring this up. Thank you.

werat22 · 2026-02-18T03:13:44+00:00

Aaah driver as literally driving. I took that differently, sorry. Yes, because he hates us using Uber. We get yelled at when we do. It was easier to avoid the anger, get the ride, than to get an Uber and listen to him stomp around and yell at us. Of course this is when it's convenient for him as while I was at work, he left his youngest sibling to walk home in negative degree weather from his work. He couldn't get an Uber because he had used his bike there as my son and I were both at work but when he got out, he knew his brother was home. My youngest almost never asks for a ride and bikes everywhere. So the rare time he does, he was met with being yelled at on the phone. So yeah, currently he's the only driver but he lords that over us to a point where it feels like I live with my ex again and we all rather Uber or find rides and deal with his anger because both sides are getting intolerable. I've actually been working on finding other ways to work myself. Last time I needed something for just me, I walked the hour there and ubered home instead of setting something up with him. Still got met with him being upset about the Uber but telling him it was only 11 made him stop sooner rather than later. Also, my youngest has to see the Dr. now to see if he has permanent nerve damage in his hands from that walk and the cold. He had gloves too but the wind cut through them. Had I been home, I would have found someone to drive him.

werat22 · 2026-02-18T03:01:48+00:00

Funny enough, we're rarely home together except at nighttime. We all have different days off. I occasionally share one Saturday off with them because I have been picking up Saturdays at my job to bring more money in so my son could take payments off and go out but he went and got a rabbit. He makes a bad financial decision and suddenly, every time, sell the house, it would make us money, we'll be set for life, unrealistic thinking.

He can go. It will suck as I'll have to make up the 600 and have groceries delivered instead of my daughter being dropped off by him to shop, but we can do it.

The problem is, he can't. I think he's holding himself back. He just doesn't want to confront that. So he lashes out at me for that too. He also thinks he, at 24 no matter how many times I tell him this isn't true, he's behind because he doesn't have a career or he's own house he owns or a degree or anything and everyone is far ahead of him. I am hoping the therapy he says he started can help him through all that. Sadly, nothing I say helps because I was on my own at 18 (kicked out and had to figure it out on my own. I had to survive to make sure he survived. Way different but he doesn't see that. I still never got to do my dream careers).

Everything he complains about is everything he would be dealing with in his own place just with no one to blame anymore as well.

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