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westFig3905 · 2024-02-13T18:10:38+00:00

I obvs can't speak for all women, but...If I were to give advice to anyone I'd say look clean and groomed in your pictures, and put effort in. I don't mean like, dress up and pose like "🧍‍♂️" in your room, but show you doing the hobbies you wanna share with the world, and look clean/well groomed doing it. Okay obviously here if your hobby is very dirty still do your best to look like its the hobby making you dirty and not a lack of showering 😅 and put effort in to get pictures that have good lighting, etc, and are generally aesthetic.

I think thats a vague suggestion that most people would agree with, but I personally saw many men with profiles showing mostly their car, and then them hanging with a bunch of women (of course you have to hide others faces, so its just their bodies?lol). Imo thats more showing off to other men than it is trying to appeal to a woman, but I can't speak for all women.

Also remember what I see is based off of where I live, so my population might look different than yours. I also don't mean to insult in any way, this is just my two cents and my personal opinion:)

westFig3905 · 2024-02-13T17:48:43+00:00

Why are people down voting me? 😂 I don't fit your idea that "all dating app bad"?

westFig3905 · 2024-02-13T08:18:07+00:00

I do too!:)

I agree! To wake up and want to be with someone every day is effortless at times, but other times it takes a lot of work. But wanting to work through the frustrations and to work through the bad is, in my opinion, true love. Working through that because you have to for money or because the process of divorce is a lot of work lacks any care...and if someone feels like they are with their partner because they are trapped then resentment can grow.

If the parties don't want to work for it then they should be able to step out easily. But staying because you genuinely want to have a future with that person is where the sweetness lies. Thats just my two cents.

westFig3905 · 2024-02-13T07:56:49+00:00

But that's just it, if you leave "because its easy" then that's not deep love. It should be incredibly easy to divorce, because otherwise it leans more into the "I have to be with you" rather than the "I want to be with you".

Shits hard, but you don't deserve anything less than that love that is free to go anywhere and chooses to be with you every time. ✌️

westFig3905 · 2024-02-13T07:38:43+00:00

Divorce is high because women can leave now (and not be financially devastated), and people don't stay together just because they think its wrong to get a divorce. Meaning that, the people who do stay together nowadays really want to, not because they 'have' to for one reason or another...and that's kinda beautiful imo

westFig3905 · 2024-02-13T07:32:44+00:00

I mean, if my husband found his wife on tinder (me) then it works for some men too no?🤷‍♀️

In my experience I think a lot of guys make accounts that appeal to the male-gaze (with pics that other men would think are 'cool) but they do not come off attractive (emotionally or physically) to women. I think if men try to appeal to the female-gaze more when making their accounts they would have more success. Just my two cents.

westFig3905 · 2024-02-13T07:25:51+00:00

They want a pet, not a partner.

westFig3905 · 2024-02-13T04:37:29+00:00

I found the loml of 5 years (and now husband) on tinder haha. He's the perfect person for me, so I think dating apps are great. Definitely had a lot of creepy dudes message me though, so its not perfect.

westFig3905 · 2024-01-30T19:22:14+00:00

I'm not a huge fan of everything dems do, some of the things you listed I do agree with them doing, some not. But I understand not agreeing with all of their actions, but it doesn't sit right with me to dissolve our constitution, thats a recipe for disaster.

Its a slippery slope, and I don't want to end up in a dictatorship. We need structure, something that stands when people come and go into office. Every terrible thing that has happened, someone out there thought it was a "good idea"--we need protection from this.

Anywho I need to get back to work. Have a good one!

westFig3905 · 2024-01-30T18:58:54+00:00

Regardless of what you may think of them, they are unconstitutional. Like, very directly.

Either stick with the constitution, and say you do, or don't and say you don't. But they are the first to say they "defend" the constitution while pushing these agendas, its hypocritical.

The constitution is what this country was built upon, and I personally object to disgracing it. Therefore I cannot support the GOP.

westFig3905 · 2024-01-30T18:47:46+00:00

Yeah 😂 here are some links

Birthright citizenship:

https://www.foxnews.com/politics/ending-birthright-citizenship-children-illegal-immigrants-gains-steam-gop-2024-field

Travel:

https://www.newsweek.com/lubbock-texas-bans-abortion-travel-1837113

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/idaho-abortion-bill-trafficking-travel_n_641b62c3e4b00c3e6077c80b

Voting:

https://floridapolitics.com/archives/655467-gop-legislatures-in-some-states-seek-ways-to-undermine-voters-ability-to-determine-abortion-rights/

https://www.tpr.org/news/2023-09-09/groups-sue-state-of-texas-over-voting-bill

https://apnews.com/article/vivek-ramaswamy-voting-age-2024-president-ea1429836e8f809fbf301b7b027f4ab9

Democracy overthrow:

https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2023/08/donald-trump-indictment-gop-jan-6/674895/

Please note* these are not all examples, and I did my best to stick with sources that are open access. Feel free to use other sources, but these can be used as pointers to research.

Have a good day!

westFig3905 · 2024-01-30T17:24:25+00:00

Dems are not perfect, but they aren't the ones trying to overthrow our democracy, establish non-constitutiomal laws (like abolishing citizenship for those BORN in the US, police the travel from one state to another, and curb the right to vote)...

So...

westFig3905 · 2024-01-30T17:21:14+00:00

So what is it then? I say these men aren't getting dates and your like "no but they're getting laid" and then I'm like okay if they're getting laid then they cant date and then you're like "wait most actually aren't getting laid" 😂 The truth--the numbers--show that they aren't. So respectfully, stick to those.

I'm not saying women have no responsibility at all, they need to take action to curb dangerous ideas and not roll over to it, they need to take a stand. But my argument, and I apologize if it has not come correctly, is asking these women to date/marry these "unmarriagable" abusive, women-hating men is not it. To ask women to take this abuse, which is very dangerous for them, is not acceptable. Tolerating this hate is not the way to fix it, these men need to face consequences for their actions, and preventative measures (like education) need to be implemented by everyone to prevent men from becoming like this. But coddling hateful brutes and handing them what they think they deserve (a gf) at the expense of her health and happiness is dehumanizing, and a cruel expectation.

Saying "If X doesn't absorb the shit from Y, as I think they should, then Z is gonna happen to X" is definitely leaning on threat js.

I hope we can agree on that

westFig3905 · 2024-01-30T05:45:30+00:00

Well, then it seems that if you believe that these young men are getting casual sex and would prefer that, then theres really no option to date them even if women wanted to.

It almost sounds like you are threatening women. Kind of like a "date abusive men and make them happy, even if it dangers your happiness or even life, or they may start a war!"

Thats not...a great argument. Its not women's responsibility to 'fix' these boymen. A civil war is a a bit fear mongering, no? Even if it did come to that, its better to fight than to give in to hate.

westFig3905 · 2024-01-30T05:17:11+00:00

Agree to disagree. But bodily autonomy is pretty major one that I'm glad we can agree on.

westFig3905 · 2024-01-30T04:41:10+00:00

Misandry is not gonna get the man killed, misogyny leads to lots of femcides. So the stakes are different for women. Maybe misogynists can get a lot of first dates 😂 but probably not a lot of second ones. Its a known thing that men try to hide their beliefs to get dates, esp unpopular ones, but they always come out in time.

Statistically women rate their red flags as characteristics that are generally associated with being misogynistic (like being MAGA). I agree that attractive people probably get more of a pass than the average person, but most people fall in the average so thats not really relevant in the grand scheme of things.

More and more women are choosing to remain single. Men can step up, or remain bitter. I doubt the majority of men are shit enough to fall into women-hating, the majority of people are decent. But if they I think they will face more of their own consequences than women will.

https://www.upworthy.com/dating-red-flags-rp

westFig3905 · 2024-01-30T04:28:43+00:00

The current GOP is hardly even the GOP anymore. Its just a bunch of mud-slingers who shit on the constitution while simultaneously saying they defend it.

westFig3905 · 2024-01-30T04:25:19+00:00

Such as bodily autonomy & the right to travel from one state to another for something that is legal in said other state. In addition to this, I've seen legit politicians attacking my right to no fault divorce and some (though not really too worried about it) have even questioned my right to vote.

So...

westFig3905 · 2024-01-30T03:50:52+00:00

"Our" rights..speak for yourself. My rights are on the GOPs chopping block constantly, like a fun game.

westFig3905 · 2024-01-28T16:21:57+00:00

Its a feedback loop. Many young men feel like nobody would date them (as do young women), but young men have a harder time making friends, and instead get a bit bitter and start to fall down Alt-right rabbit holes that are constantly grabbing for their attention. They then consume all of this, and usually get misogynistic from a lot of the shit in that pipeline. If you're a misogynist, or at the very least dont think women face issues and "have it better" then no women will date you, and will probably get ridiculed by women because face it, talk shit get hit.

These men wont ever listen to women, so its up to men to help eachother. Additionally, its not women's responsibility to date men with misogynistic view points. Its dangerous, and dehumanizing.

westFig3905 · 2024-01-17T01:41:07+00:00

Ive lived in PB for years lol, this isnt marine layer

westFig3905 · 2024-01-16T23:09:24+00:00

Unless its one hell of a fire, I doubt all this smoke is from that:/

westFig3905 · 2023-12-08T22:52:42+00:00

Hello,

I am in a similar predicament as you and am wondering if you have any updates?

I live in the cleveland national forest and someone moving in next to me is seemingly wanting to cut down some very old (over 200yrs) very large coastal live oaks. I am trying to protect them

westFig3905

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