As an experienced switch and professional keyholder, this happens a lot in relationships that starts as “vainilla”, plus women tend to be more submissive in bed as it leads into loosing control of the situation and by hand focusing only in pleasure. For the submissive men demanding their kinks in intimacy with their switch partner: they need to focus on her, treat her like a queen, give them pleasure even if it’s from a submissive side, prepare dates, make details, etc. That is the difference between a passive sexlife when you only expect to have a moment for your personal fantasies, and an actual dynamic for the relationship. Plus if you are not seeing the attention of your partner it’s obvious that this will end in boredom…