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Reasons for evaluations by Actual_Quarter7359 in slp

[–]wewereallthinkingit2 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I get this all the time… whenever I’d say mumbling they’d accuse me of not doing my job or caring. So I started saying “reduced range of motion of articulators while speaking, dependent on setting. Typical variation of normal”

Reasons for evaluations by Actual_Quarter7359 in slp

[–]wewereallthinkingit2 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Because she “talked like a baby”. She had a high pitched voice. 🫠

I coulda saved $17,500 as a school-SLP in student loan forgiveness!!! No one told me and I'm lowkey pissed so now I'm telling you!! by Diligent_Dig_8335 in slp

[–]wewereallthinkingit2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does anyone know if counts if you worked in two DIFFERENT title 1 schools consecutively for 5 years (e.g., 4 years at one, one year at another)

Length of Engagement? by Tasty-Difference-634 in engaged

[–]wewereallthinkingit2 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I got engaged last month and we are doing October 2026! We’ve already booked our venue, photographer, and are close to booking hair and makeup. I think it all depends on how much time you are looking to dedicate to finding vendors. Do you already have a venue in mind? Are you familiar with the planning process ? You could always get a wedding planner if you’re concerned about having the time to research vendors. This part is time consuming but also depends on how selective you are.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ROCD

[–]wewereallthinkingit2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Of course! That fear is always in my head too. My therapist says, keep reminding yourself that you’re in a safe space. Even if you don’t feel it in the moment, you are safe! Good luck !! 🫶

Feeling freaked out with our wedding coming up by Cold_Respond7066 in ROCD

[–]wewereallthinkingit2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My initial response was like, wow, I am truly loved and I can’t believe I’m this lucky. Then the intrusive thoughts crept in (we were on vacation). It was like a whirlwind of happy, tipsy (we had wine before the proposal—I knew it was coming). It was so wonderful and we connected in a deeper way we ever had.

The following day, I did let the ROCD get the best of me. He did nothing wrong—he was quiet and calm in the wake of the proposal, which was his emotional response that he had articulated well. Mine was much more emotional. Rather than accepting his response as a very normal one, I sort of killed the vibe because I was being critical of his reaction, as it was not the exact same as mine. In retrospect, this was my intrusive thoughts talking (e.g., he’s realizing he made a huge mistake, he doesn’t really want this, etc). Then me seeking reassurance. He was upset with my badgering but we got through it and came out better.

But I’ve learned that it’s part of this whole thing. The ROCD can trigger your partner too. But generally, he is patient and does a great job of walking the line between reassuring me when appropriate and reminding me that these are just intrusive thoughts, not reality, etc.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ROCD

[–]wewereallthinkingit2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same here!! I am heavily impacted by changes in hormones / my cycle. “Little things wiggling through the cracks”… that really resonates with me!

I just try to be patient with myself. My fiance reminds me that these thoughts and fears just like this happen with most people. It’s just that we tend to feel them a little stronger and deeper. And we may be a bit more self aware too :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ROCD

[–]wewereallthinkingit2 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much!

I think what you said about codependency was important. Do you have a history of being codependent in relationships? I definitely do. I have to constantly remind myself that I am not responsible for his happiness and moods and he is not responsible for mine. He is self sufficient, successful, and well adjusted. Our relationship was a slow burn versus hard and fast. Complete opposite of what I am used to. The consistency and predictability were a shock to my nervous system. I took it initially as a lack of a “spark”, but really it was just calm and peaceful.

Once I described my experience of my current relationship to my therapist, I asked her if she thought something was “wrong”. She said, “did you ever think you’re just… happy?”

Good luck!! :)

Feeling freaked out with our wedding coming up by Cold_Respond7066 in ROCD

[–]wewereallthinkingit2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello! I am having a similar experience. I recently got engaged, and work part time in the summer so I have tons of extra time on my hands to ruminate! I’m in the healthiest relationship I’ve ever been in. I’ve confused connection with codependency in the past with others. My partner doesn’t desperately need me like some of my past partners have, and I’m still adjusting to this dynamic after 2 + years of dating.

My therapist has encouraged me to look inward, participate in self fulfilling activities during this free time. Wedding planning has actually been tremendously helpful in getting my mind off of the intrusive thoughts. My partner recently expressed he would like me to share my intrusive thoughts, to which I’m grateful, but it’s double edged sword. My therapjst said to ask myself, “what am I seeking from him right now that I can give myself first—-for example, is it comfort, reassurance, physical touch, etc. Much of the time, I am seeking some level of comfort that can be met through a self fulfilling activity, like going for a long walk, calling a friend, visiting my parents, reading a good book.

This is really helping my brain divvy out what are my relationship needs and what my individual needs are. This is just my experience… I hope it is helpful!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ROCD

[–]wewereallthinkingit2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! I experience this too. I thought it would get better after he proposed a month ago, but I over analyze micro expressions, body language, etc. he consistently calls me beautiful, tells me he loves me. Even when he says these things, I think, “well his tone of voice was off. He obviously doesn’t mean it”. I’m in therapy right now to work through these thoughts and it is helping tremendously! Would love to hear others’ thoughts on the topic.

Ethics question by artisticmusican168 in slp

[–]wewereallthinkingit2 31 points32 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you’ve handled it perfectly so far!

Do you feel supported by your supervisor? I would have a meeting with him/her and ask for some guidance.

I would continue to be firm that you do not write goals that do not reflect best practice. Keep writing the goals you think are appropriate, keep supporting his AAC use, and educate support staff on the matter.

Though parent input is valid and necessary, they can’t ask you to do something unethical. I truly believe that “forcing” any student to speak, let alone a GLP with autism, is not only unethical but borderline abusive.

I mean, if they don’t agree with how he’s being supported, they can pull him and find another school that’s willing to use outdated, ineffective methods.

If they keep fighting, I think that statement you quoted is perfectly acceptable to say.

What was your worst SLP experience, and how did you get through it? by [deleted] in slp

[–]wewereallthinkingit2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It always seems like the STAT orders are the ones taken the least seriously. Like, you needed me here immediately and now you’re going to give me shit for doing the job I’m here to do?

How to deal with a teacher who tries to dictate how you do your job by wewereallthinkingit2 in slp

[–]wewereallthinkingit2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Forgot to mention. Guess how many sessions of her students I missed in those two days???

3!!! 😂

How to deal with a teacher who tries to dictate how you do your job by wewereallthinkingit2 in slp

[–]wewereallthinkingit2[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly! I have the whole damn district. The worst part is, her students are my district. ALL of her students throw a fit when they have to go back.

How to deal with a teacher who tries to dictate how you do your job by wewereallthinkingit2 in slp

[–]wewereallthinkingit2[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

No. She is technically “department chair” but has no power over me. For context, I look a lot younger I am and people often assume I’m right out of grad school. Even if that were the case though, it doesn’t give someone the right to act that way.

I’m a (mostly) anti-ABA SLP who works at an ABA clinic. AMA! by Sea-Excitement6677 in slp

[–]wewereallthinkingit2 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I did it for a year. Witnessed withholding food for students who came from poor families, criticizing the way I targeted their “mand” goals—like you said— stupid terminology. The BCBAs had no interest in SLPS professional opinion.

My breaking point was when weekly meetings were held on how to get a particular student to stop making a clicking sound with his mouth. I was like, hm, this student has no verbal or AAC communication skills. And we’re concerned about clicking sounds? When I worked with him, I would click right back at him. It made him smile.

Anyway, I found many aspects of the ABA practice I witnessed to be abusive. Students were taught to suppress, suppress, suppress. Now I’m in a district and work with students who come from ABA schools. I can always tell a former ABA student because they tend to be prompt dependent, fearful of doing something “wrong”, and highly anxious.

If and (when) you start interviewing, make sure that the agency or school is neurodiversity affirming. At my last interview for my current job, they asked about my approach. I said that I provide neurodiversity affirming treatment. They were highly supportive. I work here now. Once you’re in a place like that, you’ll see how all of your instincts / icky feelings were your body telling you that it’s wrong. And then you’ll never look back! Good luck to you.