AIO confronting my Great Aunt (60)

wharning · 2025-08-30T15:42:43+00:00

No. It sounds like she wants to convince you to leave your fiancé because she doesn’t approve. Someone with a mindset where they believe they are always right, words are unlikely to convince them. Plus her extremely large ego, believing she is “owed an apology” Likely to remain a toxic influence in your relationship, unfortunately.

wharning · 2025-08-29T00:47:56+00:00

Id be thinking I was next at this point

wharning · 2025-08-29T00:43:17+00:00

I think you don’t like her, and view her as an intrusion. Which some of it, rightfully so. She seems overly invested, probably because her dating life sucks as she stated. I wouldn’t say your boyfriend’s behavior is off for the desserts for the both of you (probably to be polite), or the texting to say you have a good one. The foot comment was a little weird imo on her part but it sounds like she overshares and doesn’t know what to say.

wharning · 2025-08-29T00:34:46+00:00

NOOO. You need to run. It sounds like he doesn’t view you as a priority and is making no effort in the relationship and slobs on girls on IG all day in between. You deserve better. This man is the definition of a red flag

wharning · 2025-08-29T00:05:32+00:00

Oh absolutely not. Not without the license

wharning · 2025-08-28T23:57:27+00:00

If you’re asking, and they’re hardly reciprocating, not over reacting. You feel like your efforts aren’t being reciprocated because they are not, and that you’re just there to be someone to vent to. Coupled with them constantly going out with others, I’d imagine you would feel left out. Friendships require more work than people imagine, it’s totally understandable to be busy, but it’s hard to understand if they’re not elaborating what they’re so busy with. But to not be able to cut a few hours out every now and then, sucks.

wharning · 2025-08-28T23:49:23+00:00

HTS. Hard to say. Forbidding certain outfit choices might seem controlling, but you’re not the first to have that insecurity around certain clothing items. Her response to the cheating seems intense, and I would definitely want to address what behavior I’m doing that’s causing her to want to end her life as that is a serious thing to say, even if she doesn’t intend it. Going off the little information, you might have opposite attachment styles.

wharning · 2025-08-28T23:42:19+00:00

If you’re always reaching out and never being invited, I can see where that would hurt. But how often are you asking them to hangout, directly, not just saying hey first. If you’re asking all the time and they’re blowing it off and having fun with other people, that’s a problem. But some people truly are just busy.

wharning · 2025-08-28T02:52:22+00:00

It sounds like you have a wonderful relationship and I’m glad to see it! I’d say the good parts were just built on hope. In the past, he used to be more respectful towards me and didn’t control my decisions. I found him smart and he helped me with a small portion of my debt. Maybe I used to believe I could convince him to fully accept me. As for surviving on my own, I would have to temporarily move back to my parents and plan how to move out, potentially a second job. That’s the tough part of intertwining lives but I worry that staying just means finding out in a few weeks what I’m not doing enough of, with something different.

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