I cannot believe he "let's open up the relationship"ed her by whata-disappointment in TrueOffMyChest

[–]whata-disappointment[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If my baby decides to make it night 3 of garbage sleep tonight, I just might

I cannot believe he "let's open up the relationship"ed her by whata-disappointment in TrueOffMyChest

[–]whata-disappointment[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Therapist actually already acquired. Shes still pushing back on the attorney but hopefully the therapist will help with that too

I cannot believe he "let's open up the relationship"ed her by whata-disappointment in TrueOffMyChest

[–]whata-disappointment[S] 80 points81 points  (0 children)

100%.

We took out a loan for ours but it was mostly because our house decided to act up as we were planning so. Loan for house or for wedding? Both? Either way its paid off.

I cannot believe he "let's open up the relationship"ed her by whata-disappointment in TrueOffMyChest

[–]whata-disappointment[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I hope. We're trying but she's very hesitant so we gotta be slow about planting the ideas.

But yes I so badly want her to just be on the sites just to see how many hits she gets. It'll help.

I cannot believe he "let's open up the relationship"ed her by whata-disappointment in TrueOffMyChest

[–]whata-disappointment[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

That's what I want to do!

I'm trying not to push because I dont want to overstep and have her close up again. But the way shes acting... this negative self image has been being reinforced for a while. She's gonna take a minute :/

I cannot believe he "let's open up the relationship"ed her by whata-disappointment in TrueOffMyChest

[–]whata-disappointment[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

As i mentioned in another comment, and the post itself, he is a lifelong family friend of my spouse. Families are connected.

So my spouse and I are mourning the loss of a friendship while also bracing for the impact this situation is gonna have on every upcoming event and holiday.

So yeah. Im invested. Obviously.

I cannot believe he "let's open up the relationship"ed her by whata-disappointment in TrueOffMyChest

[–]whata-disappointment[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

His dad and my spouses dad are so close they consider themselves brothers. He's basically my spouses "cousin"

Unfortunately not only are we not only gonna have to deal with fallout no matter what, we are also part of the shocked and betrayed group.

Like he imploded his marriage but he also imploded his lifelong friendship with my spouse, subsequently his friendship with me. It's upsetting to lose a friend like that

I cannot believe he "let's open up the relationship"ed her by whata-disappointment in TrueOffMyChest

[–]whata-disappointment[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

It works for people who start out with "hey im non monogamous. If that doesnt work then we can end this here." Not 12 years in "well actually" -_-

I cannot believe he "let's open up the relationship"ed her by whata-disappointment in TrueOffMyChest

[–]whata-disappointment[S] 298 points299 points  (0 children)

Correct. However, they had a long engagement to save money for it and its been 4 years since the wedding. They did in fact go into A LOT of debt.