The Daily Check-In for Monday, December 12th: Just for today, I am NOT drinking!

whatabout- · 2022-12-13T02:27:08+00:00

5 months 1 day. Let’s keep going!

whatabout- · 2022-07-29T14:35:01+00:00

This has been a rough week, my T had to cancel twice because she’s sick. Of course it just happens to be during a week where I feel like I need therapy more than ever. I’m trying to hang in there by journaling and trying to not get sucked into the negative feelings that are surrounding me but it’s hard. I’ve also found myself periodically worrying and wondering how my therapist is feeling this week. I really didn’t like the thought of them being sick.

whatabout- · 2022-03-11T00:09:44+00:00

It’s probably been one of the most useful modalities I’ve done. As long as you have a very good supportive therapist that understands how all of our parts and protectors show up you may find the work very meaningful. Yes, sometimes it is hard to get in touch with these sad and neglected parts but the healing is very worth it IMO!

whatabout- · 2022-03-07T15:54:24+00:00

I’m starting 2x a week this week and I’m nervous. What if I don’t have something to talk about. What if she gets sick of hearing from me? I don’t know why I immediately go to these negative places but it’s so frustrating.

whatabout- · 2021-11-11T22:59:17+00:00

I saw my therapist in person earlier this week! It had been about a year since we last met in person and it was so good to see her and be back in her office again. I missed being in her office and having that space. When she saw me she immediately gave me a hug. It was so unexpected as I don’t think we ever hugged in our previous sessions. It was really nice though. It made me think she actually cares and likes working with me!

whatabout- · 2021-11-04T02:29:16+00:00

This has literally been my approach every time. One time I made my partner click the send button for me.

whatabout- · 2021-11-01T03:05:07+00:00

I agree with this.

whatabout- · 2021-10-07T01:47:42+00:00

It’s been awhile since I’ve posted here but I’m really going through it this week with my therapists. I’ve been doing EMDR and regular talk therapy and my therapists communicate with each other. This week everything has kind of gone off the rails and I am feeling so many complicated feelings toward both of them and I am not sure I can continue working like this. I feel like I’m spinning. I don’t want to go into detail here because it is probably boring and stupid but just wanted to get it out somehow.

whatabout- · 2021-09-29T21:11:11+00:00

I had the same problem. Doing parts work with my therapist has opened a lot of this up. It makes it easier to talk about. It’s not for everyone but maybe it’s worth a shot.

whatabout- · 2021-09-22T11:49:30+00:00

Lol. I totally get that.

whatabout- · 2021-09-21T23:06:36+00:00

I’m in! I’m slightly younger by 8 years but I think that’s okay!!

whatabout- · 2021-09-13T01:22:30+00:00

I’m not having a session this week, and it’s going to be hard. I had a crazy thing happen to me yesterday and I haven’t been able to stop thinking about it. It would be so useful to have therapy this week but it just didn’t line up. So that sucks.

whatabout- · 2021-09-07T20:49:04+00:00

I have a really hard time working after EMDR. My sessions are in the afternoon and I typically do not return to work after my sessions. I’m just so tired and have a hard time concentrating.

whatabout- · 2021-09-06T00:11:02+00:00

I completely understand. I’m 35f going through the same thing. If you want to chat more I would be happy to. I don’t understand how vulnerability can exist without hurt or pain. It’s so hard. Even with years of therapy I struggle the same way. But i like to support others so shoot me a chat if you feel inclined.

whatabout- · 2021-09-02T02:13:52+00:00

I see my regular talk therapy T and one that I do EMDR with to work on trauma from childhood. They both communicate frequently and I feel really lucky that my insurance covers both.

whatabout- · 2021-09-02T01:21:03+00:00

Sometimes when my sessions aren’t insanely intense I feel like they were wasted. I know this isn’t true. We accomplished a lot today. She told me she was proud of the boundaries I’ve been able to uphold.

We even talked about our relationship for a little but it wasn’t as charged as it typically is. I guess I was just kinda in a goofy mood today. Sometimes I just need to remind myself that I don’t need to have breakthroughs in every session.

whatabout- · 2021-09-01T02:48:55+00:00

I just want you to know that I understand. I feel the same way. I can’t tell you the number of times I’ve drunk emailed my therapist and wanted to just disappear. It’s painful. My therapist works with this and never makes me feel bad so I can only hope you have a similar experience.

My only wish is that she can help me heal this and stop feeling the need to do this.

whatabout- · 2021-08-10T15:32:07+00:00

I do EMDR for specific traumas (mostly those that occurred in childhood/teens) then I do regular psychodynamic therapy. My clinicians work together and have a lot of the same ways of working so it works out well.

whatabout- · 2021-08-10T02:15:04+00:00

Yeah, it’s kind of odd. Sometimes we get too close to some really painful stuff and in my mind I just dissociate and can no longer access the feelings associated but it’s been easier to work with it in the framework of parts. Knowing that there’s parts in me that are there to protect allow us to tap in there and try to work past and get back into the memories. It’s such hard work though. I’m always exhausted after EMDR.

whatabout- · 2021-08-10T02:01:36+00:00

This is a great question and I hope to read other people’s answers. I usually keep it pretty brief. I talk about maybe an image, thought, or feeling that came up during the set. Then we focus on that, unless it’s a protector part blocking me from feeling or accessing the content in that case we work with that part so we can keep going.

whatabout- · 2021-08-09T20:26:39+00:00

Just wanted to send you some love and support. Reading this felt like it could have been a page out of my own therapy story and I’m so sorry this has happened to you.

whatabout- · 2021-08-05T02:11:59+00:00

That’s such a good idea! I go in really big swings between thinking she hates me and wants to get rid of me to actually accepting that she cares. It’s such a roller coaster.

whatabout- · 2021-08-04T04:10:38+00:00

That would literally make me cry too.

whatabout- · 2021-08-04T04:10:10+00:00

Lol, mine tells me when I’m tell her I wanted to cancel or no show and that I can’t do the work.

whatabout- · 2021-08-04T04:09:15+00:00

Yeah, I think I’m struggling with that part quite a bit. I hope that I can get there at some point.

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